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I was asked to leave B&Q, mortified

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chickenandapples · 07/05/2026 18:23

I was approached by a member of staff who said that he just reviewed footage that 3 months ago, I was recorded not scanning an item at the self checkout and they believed it was intentional and just asked me (quite nicely and compassionately I might add) to leave.

Whoopsie! 😬

I note that they have no scales at B&Q self service which makes accidents easy.

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SorcererGaheris · 09/05/2026 10:10

ThatFairy · 08/05/2026 00:16

I think they want OP to be remorseful even though it was an accident

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@ThatFairy

Yes, that's possible. I just think some of the comments are too judgemental, more or less telling the OP they're a criminal. It is possible for genuine mistakes to happen, for distracted people to unintentionally leave without paying for an item.

I just wish more people understood that an accident doesn't equal stealing.

Chaibiscuits · 09/05/2026 07:01

chickenandapples · 07/05/2026 18:27

Couldn't give less of a fuck. I'm okay with being banned from B&Q, there's other home stores.

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I thought you were mortified. Are you full of shit by any chance?

MesonBoson · 08/05/2026 07:07

Blimms · 07/05/2026 18:27

That’s still stealing.

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No it's not. There's no mens rea.

ThatFairy · 08/05/2026 00:16

SorcererGaheris · 07/05/2026 23:06

@PistachioTiramisu

You seem to be missing the point that this was an accident. The OP doesn't think it's okay to steal, she unintentionally forgot to scan something.

As others have said, legally, theft/stealing requires dishonest intent - so a genuine accident isn't theft.

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I think they want OP to be remorseful even though it was an accident

PerryMenopaws · 07/05/2026 23:18

Last year I watched my son pick up a copy of the Telegraph and walk out of the co-op without paying. He thought newspapers were free. Gen z...the generation that's never bought a paper.

Op you sound funny.

SorcererGaheris · 07/05/2026 23:06

PistachioTiramisu · 07/05/2026 18:47

OP, what an unpleasant person you sound - you steal, you think it's OK to do so because your bloody kid 'wanted an ice cream', you laugh at the man who apprehended you because 'you are a pretty young woman', you have no remorse or shame because you stole. I can't believe that any people think like this.

@PistachioTiramisu

You seem to be missing the point that this was an accident. The OP doesn't think it's okay to steal, she unintentionally forgot to scan something.

As others have said, legally, theft/stealing requires dishonest intent - so a genuine accident isn't theft.

MrsOni · 07/05/2026 22:34

neptunechichester · 07/05/2026 22:09

What are you talking about?

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You know you can view a post's edit history, right?

ThatFairy · 07/05/2026 22:21

Hmm @Butchyrestingface this forum can be so toxic

Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2026 22:17

ThatFairy · 07/05/2026 22:14

What did you do ?

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I responded to the OP's totes unboasty claim to earn £81,000. Better not repeat the precise words since it's been deleted but the delightful Neptunechichester said she was reporting me for being a cunt. I said "should I now report you for calling me a cunt?". They then edited the post to remove the reference to a 'cunt' and came over all 'what are you talking about?'

ThatFairy · 07/05/2026 22:14

Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2026 22:08

So should I now report you for calling me a cunt?

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What did you do ?

neptunechichester · 07/05/2026 22:11

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Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2026 22:10

neptunechichester · 07/05/2026 22:09

What are you talking about?

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So breathtakingly dishonest. I wasn't going to report you but now I have. Well done.

neptunechichester · 07/05/2026 22:09

Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2026 22:08

So should I now report you for calling me a cunt?

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What are you talking about?

Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2026 22:08

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So should I now report you for calling me a cunt?

neptunechichester · 07/05/2026 22:06

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ThatFairy · 07/05/2026 19:54

I don't know why it's so common here to think a thread's made up or OPs trolling just because someone had a different perspective to you or even the majority

StripedVase · 07/05/2026 19:52

chickenandapples · 07/05/2026 18:49

I haven't said any of this.

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Well, you did, or one of you did. I never suggested you scream at anyone like a fishwife though, and yet up that popped from nowhere!

OrdinaryGirl · 07/05/2026 19:48

Seeingadistance · 07/05/2026 18:34

Was it a door?

A bath?

10ft ladder?

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This thread is giving me LIFE 😆

Bamboozledbylife · 07/05/2026 19:43

chickenandapples · 07/05/2026 18:30

I voted Reform actually.

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Course you did.

Mortified one minute, don't give a fuck the next. What's the point of this post exactly?

ThatFairy · 07/05/2026 19:38

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 07/05/2026 18:52

I'm really sorry you were so unwell, but it sounds like you had some pretty epic imaginary adventures!

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Ha ha ! Yeah I guess you could put it that way lol

Tiggermad · 07/05/2026 19:32

How come you can remember not paying for this item then if it was done by accident ? I suspect there is more to this as how do they remember you from 3 months ago ?
Have you done it before ??

DressOrSkirt · 07/05/2026 19:30

Tekknonan · 07/05/2026 19:16

No it isn't. If you didn't know you did it, then it isn't stealing. It is possible to make mistakes. I walked out of a supermarket with my wire basket full of stuff and was halfway home before I realised. Very distracted, son was ill, financial problems, all the things that take your mind off the here and now.

I went straight back and paid for them. Had I stolen them before I did that? No, of course I hadn't. Theft requires intent. No intent = no crime.

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But now OP knows (if she didn't already) she has no intent in paying or returning the item

MidnightMeltdown · 07/05/2026 19:27

ProudAmberTurtle · 07/05/2026 18:35

To sum up:

After voting Reform you went to B&Q, where a member of staff asked you to leave for stealing something three months ago, you didn't ask what or how he knew it was you, you just left safe in the knowledge that you probably did steal something and he was shaking because you're so attractive. And you found this experience mortifying while at exactly the same time, you didn't give less of a fuck

🤣🤣

MaCheCazzo · 07/05/2026 19:26

I'm a consultant as well. For a small fee I'll coach you to spend the whole day eating toast and watching Judge Judy.

I take PayPal.

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