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To feel a bit annoyed this is why I got rejected?

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ToeSucker · 07/05/2026 16:17

I completed 5 rounds of interviews for a company. For the final interview, I had to travel across the country for an in-person meeting.

At this meeting (I met the whole team) there was a coffee break where we popped out to the local coffee shop.

The hiring manager asked me what I wanted. She also asked me what the team members next to me wanted. She paid for everyone's drinks.

Today I received a call from HR saying I was rejected, but mentioning I owe the hiring manager £3.70 for a coffee.

I'm shocked by this. I'm not sure I should be. I should have offered to pay I suppose but you're not in a normal frame of mind during interviews. I'm more annoyed I had to pay almost £240 for the train tickets and got rejected with this seemingly contributing to why.

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crackerjackbaby · 08/05/2026 19:12

This is absolute rubbish and didn’t happen.

babyproblems · 08/05/2026 19:10

Christ I think you’re lucky you didn’t get the job!!! There’s no way in hell I would be prepared to complete FIVE ROUNDS of interviews and then cross country travel unless the salary was millions of pounds. Or it was to be Prime Minister. Who on earth do they think they are! It says a lot about the team.. never mind the coffee!!! I’d never pay that back. And id leave an honest review on Glassdoor.

VoiceFromThePit · 08/05/2026 19:05

You obviously di dnot get rejected fo rnot buying your own coffee, that would be ridiculous.

BunnyWabbit2000 · 08/05/2026 18:43

5 rounds?! What was it for, Queen of the Universe?!

aberamagold · 08/05/2026 18:38

Don't whatever you do pay them! You don't owe them anything!
They're nuts.
It's totally reasonable to expect the company interviewing you to pay for your coffee. I expect free coffee at interviews and in work.
It's also totally reasonable to expect reimbursement of travel expenses, but you probably should have clarified that before wasting your time on these ridiculous tightwads.

Gloriousgardener11 · 08/05/2026 18:35

LittlePinkWeed · 07/05/2026 16:27

If this is true, tell them they can deduct it from the reimbursement of your train fare and ask to whom you should send the ticket receipts.

This with bells on!

TheZanyScroller · 08/05/2026 18:26

They offered you a drink so the correct assumption is they pay for it.

Reading all the time and effort you put into the hiring process and they have the audacity to charge you for a drink they offered you!

I would reply with;

That's fine, deduct the amount from the cost of my travel. I look forward to receiving my funds imminently.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet by not getting hired.

Weald56 · 08/05/2026 18:21

StationJack · 07/05/2026 16:22

Ask them for an invoice then sell your story to a tabloid.

This!!

WhosGotTheKeysToMyBimma · 08/05/2026 18:03

DontReplyAll · 07/05/2026 17:18

I’d love to know which company.

I’m embarrassed on their behalf. Who doesn’t buy their interviewee a coffee?

I’m cringing on behalf of the HR person who had to relay that message.

This

Have you responded OP? Id be tempted to say "Sure, deduct it from the £240 you owe me for travel. Can you send me a form for expenses?"

Ludicrous. It would be funny if it wasn't so insulting.

AnaisVB · 08/05/2026 17:58

dreaminglife · 08/05/2026 07:50

I’d review their interview process on Glassdoor.

I came here to say this exact thing. This is just plain weird. Please review them and name them. They should be embarrassed. You’ve dodged a bullet working for them!

C8H10N4O2 · 08/05/2026 08:47

Watdidusay · 07/05/2026 23:02

I'm not at all saying I agree with it. It's an enormous waste of time. But it is the norm.

Well its plainly not the norm for professionals on this thread. What industry/type of organisation are you talking about?

Any headhunter suggesting that many rounds of interviews to me would be dismissed as time wasters.

None of my blue chip clients across different industries have processes like this any more than my Big does - its a stupid waste of our own time as well as the candidates. Even my public sector clients with their panel interviews don’t go to 5-7 rounds.

So where are you working that the processes are so poor that they need multiple rounds of interviews?

Wishitsnows · 08/05/2026 07:51

I wouldn’t work for a company that needed 5 interviews to make a decision

dreaminglife · 08/05/2026 07:50

I’d review their interview process on Glassdoor.

Ashamedmuch · 08/05/2026 07:41

Laurmolonlabe · 08/05/2026 07:28

Tell them they will get the money for the coffee when you get the £240 for a wasted journey.

Tbh I think they should pay the travel expenses

Laurmolonlabe · 08/05/2026 07:28

Tell them they will get the money for the coffee when you get the £240 for a wasted journey.

Triskellion75 · 08/05/2026 07:17

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/05/2026 06:51

Never heard of that!
I'm curious if that is only done with female applicants.

Oh yes, it's a thing. For all interviewees not just women.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/05/2026 06:51

Triskellion75 · 07/05/2026 17:39

Is this one of those stupid fucking tests like the 'coffee cup' one where if you don't offer to wash the cup you don't get the job?

Never heard of that!
I'm curious if that is only done with female applicants.

AlwaysLookOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 08/05/2026 04:22

HRTFT but I assume it was a test planned all along. Would you really want to work for such a company?
Not quite the same, but DH is on the committee of an organisation that before even considering a new member will take them out to socialise for the evening. The prospective candidate last week has no idea that his behaviour that night means his application will not progress. I have no sympathy for him. He made a racist comment, one he was very unlikely to have made under interview conditions.

ClayPotaLot · 08/05/2026 03:08

It is completely inappropriate to expect a job candidate to spend their own money during a directed part of the interview process. If they'd set you free for an hour to get your own lunch, or told you your were welcome to get yourself a coffee, that's one thing (though also pretty tight), taking you to a coffee shop and getting coffee in a group, asking you what you want and paying for it - that's on them.

I would respond telling them the request is inappropriate, you were unaware you'd be expected to cover the cost of something they offered to you and you will not be paying. I can think of a lot more I'd want to say, but it wouldn't be very professional and even though you aren't going to be working there, it's best not to blow off at people in your industry, even if they behave badly.

99bottlesofkombucha · 08/05/2026 02:24

that is so offputting. I wouldn’t want to work anywhere near that hiring manager. If they didn’t want to buy you a coffee they shouldn’t have offered.

Amberlynnswashcloth · 08/05/2026 02:23

Sounds like some awful trap to test if you are a team player. Reminds me of an interview I had where we were put in a windowless room they called "the cell" to complete an unexpected written assignment to test how we coped under pressure. This was interviewing for an admin job at a charity not to join MI5!

I'd ignore the email and be glad I don't have to work for them.

LameBorzoi · 08/05/2026 01:57

PrettyPickle · 07/05/2026 23:55

@ToeSucker I think you dodged a bullet, albeit an expensive one.

The behaviour from the employer is wildly unprofessional, and your shock is completely reasonable. The £3.70 request isn’t normal, it isn’t appropriate, and it signals a culture you’re better off not joining.

The problem isn’t the coffee. It’s the message it sends. A hiring manager inviting a candidate out for coffee during an interview is implicitly hosting. In professional settings, the inviter pays. That’s standard etiquette across the UK, Europe, and the US. For them to:

  • invite you
  • order for the team
  • pay at the time
  • then later have HR tell you that you “owe” £3.70
…is not just odd. It’s a red flag about their internal culture, their communication, and their respect for candidates.

Should you have offered to pay? No. Not in this context. During interviews, you’re not in a social situation among equals - you’re in a power‑imbalanced, evaluative environment. The hiring manager sets the tone. If they invite you and pay, the correct response is simply “thank you”. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Absoloutely agree.

Them making this request signals a nasty, predatory workplace culture. Be very glad that you aren't working there!

LadyVioletBridgerton · 08/05/2026 01:52

No-one seriously thinks the OP should be invoicing for train tickets? How silly 🙄 Unless paid travel is specified in your interview emails, don’t do this.

Just ignore the request for the £3.70. Most of the suggestions on here are childish and you don’t want to be seen like that in the professional world where people talk to one another.

MarchionessVonSausage · 08/05/2026 01:43

As above, surely the manager who paid for the coffees would be expensing it anyway?

I'd be seething. Ignore the request for coffee money and move on. Don't reply at all.

Did they give you any actual feedback on why you didn't get the role? They damn well should have after all that faff around.

OodlesOfNoodles5 · 08/05/2026 01:02

Sunisgettinganewhaton · 07/05/2026 16:19

And I'd send the money recorded delivery. In 1p pieces.

Post it, but don’t pay for postage. The tight fisted gits will need to pay the fine for no postage when they collect it. Preferably the hiring manager.