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Screaming children next door at 7.30 am

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HaveIBecomeVictorMeldrew · 07/05/2026 13:33

I don't want to sound like a middle aged whiner, but here goes.

I sometimes work late shifts, so don't get up till lunchtime. I eat late and I'm also a carer to two elderly relatives. My bedroom backs almost directly onto a neighbour's garden and the past week or so, the parents have been bringing their 6/7 year old outside and she just screams and screams. The other morning I could tell she was having a tantrum and they put her outside with the dog and ignored her for half an hour. The dog is a small yapper so I could hear yapping and screaming at 8.30 am on a Bank Holiday. My day off. She screamed blue murder and they ignored her.

This morning again. 7 am. Mother screaming and child screaming.. sounded like a game once I was awake, but I jumped out of bed thinking someone was being murdered, it was so loud. My window is closed. It went on for half an hour.

It's quite a tightly packed, newish estate so no escape. I have little choice but to sleep in that room. I resorted to using ear plugs, but I don't like doing that in case either of my elderly parents shouts for me for help.

Shouid I ask them to keep the child inside until later in the day or AIBU?

I think the child is neurodivergent, if that makes any difference, and probably struggling to express herself, but I think the parents are being incredibly inconsiderate. There are at least three elderly couples living behind them that we know personally. One has just bought his place and I notice it's up for sale again. I wondered if he couldn't bear the noise.

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HaveIBecomeVictorMeldrew · 07/05/2026 13:41

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It's not unfortunately, but I switched bedrooms with my Dad so he could have more space and peace.

I did think about a note through the door. I wanted to do it anonymously but they have cameras. He seems like quite an approachable person, she seems quite offhand and usually doesn't say hello when we see them. I might write a note and put it in the post so they don't know which neighbour it is.

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ToddlerFun67899 · 07/05/2026 13:39

That's awful. Poor child, that's heartbreaking to read. Terrible parenting and also terribly anti social of the parents.

No advice but you have my sympathy.

Joubert1 · 07/05/2026 13:39

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