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To wear the same basic outfit and not think about clothes anymore

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Bedheadbeachbum · 06/05/2026 21:12

So for the last year or so I increasingly don't give a damn about clothing, what to wear, whether it matches, buying new outfits, etc etc. I'm just done with it, honestly do not have the headspace - but I still want to look nice.

Does anyone just wear the same 'outfit' or the same look day to day?

I'm hanging on to a few dressier bits for the extremely rare occasion of going out & dressing up but at the moment I'm gravitating towards a hugely no fuss minimal wardrobe - any inspiration?

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Thechaseison71 · 10/05/2026 21:16

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:45

Ok, no problem. I genuinely wondered how you manage with different events, but you've answered.
I have loads of clothes (probably too many!) and I love thinking about occasions, but we're all different.

See I hate having to " dress up " for occasions. Fortunately I rarely attend such events. Most of my social events I can wear what I like

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 17:09

Nogimachi · 09/05/2026 16:56

This is what Obama did to eliminate stress from his day so he could focus on more important things, and it’s more or less what I do really.

That's what Angela Merkel did, she had various trouser suits.
Hillary Clinton wrote about how difficult it was for her on the campaign trail as women are judged far more on their clothing choices.

TheBookShelf · 09/05/2026 17:04

My 'uniform' for decades has been jeans or plain coloured trousers of a suitable seasonal weight, worn with plain or stripy jersey cotton tops, long sleeves in winter, short in summer, three quarter sleeves in spring/autumn. Add a classic knit - I have the same style in several colours. Occasionally vary with a skirt and boots instead of jeans. A few casual jersey dresses, again add a classic knit. Add interest with a scarf or necklace. Classic flat shoes or boots. So easy....

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:57

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:52

I had way to much clothes years ago and still brought more, before i became a minimlist, but i only wore a had full.
Different events come up in life all the time, but as long as we are there clean and comfortble, it really dont matter what we wear.
If people friends, family workers etc really want us, care about us etc they ecept us as a person not by our clohes choice.

Having less to me is having more.

Fair point, and I actually admire your resolve!

Nogimachi · 09/05/2026 16:56

This is what Obama did to eliminate stress from his day so he could focus on more important things, and it’s more or less what I do really.

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:52

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:45

Ok, no problem. I genuinely wondered how you manage with different events, but you've answered.
I have loads of clothes (probably too many!) and I love thinking about occasions, but we're all different.

I had way to much clothes years ago and still brought more, before i became a minimlist, but i only wore a had full.
Different events come up in life all the time, but as long as we are there clean and comfortble, it really dont matter what we wear.
If people friends, family workers etc really want us, care about us etc they ecept us as a person not by our clohes choice.

Having less to me is having more.

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:45

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:38

Sorry i didnt mean for it to sound as a snap back.

Ok, no problem. I genuinely wondered how you manage with different events, but you've answered.
I have loads of clothes (probably too many!) and I love thinking about occasions, but we're all different.

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:38

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:37

Blimey.
Just asking.

Sorry i didnt mean for it to sound as a snap back.

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 16:37

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:26

Not everyone cares what you are wearing it is you as a person that has to shine, not what rags you have on your back.

Blimey.
Just asking.

Pinkdumpling · 09/05/2026 16:26

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 11:59

What would you wear to a wedding, a party, a funeral, an interview, a special dinner in a restaurant?
Is that all included in the above?

Not everyone cares what you are wearing it is you as a person that has to shine, not what rags you have on your back.

Cardomomle · 09/05/2026 11:59

Pinkdumpling · 07/05/2026 16:39

3 pairs of baggy bottoms, 3pairs of leggings.
6 baggy t-shirts 3 fleace jumpers, 2 pairs of pj bottoms.
1 jacket, 3 vest tops, 5 bras, 10 pairs of knickers 5 pairs of boxers 7 pairs of socks.
1 pair of trainers, 1 pair of slip on dolly shoes, and slippers.
Thats my whole wardrobe.

What would you wear to a wedding, a party, a funeral, an interview, a special dinner in a restaurant?
Is that all included in the above?

maftay · 09/05/2026 11:05

I see some of you like scarves as an accessory. How do you wear them, do you drape, tie, etc? I like soft chiffon/silky scarves and I have lots, but can never seem to get them right with a Spring/Summer top half! Mine just don't seem "right", or get in the way of things etc.! There must be a knack that you know, and if anyone has pics that would be great too. x

user73654823 · 09/05/2026 10:13

Interesting thread. I love clothes and fashion, but I would say 5 days out of 7, I don't want to fuss, but do want to look put together, and end up wearing a variation of the same outfit, which tends to be jeans and some form of a white or neutral top. In the spring/summer I'll switch to lighter trousers and floatier or sleeveless tops, but still a version of the same thing, and have 3 or 4 easy to wear dresses that I reach for over and over.

I tend to buy higher end brands and wear them quite a bit and if I find jeans I like, I'll buy a couple pairs. When I update I do it by changing to current shapes, varying the kind of jeans or trousers, the length and shape of the tops and different shoes.

The other days, or on nights we're out, I make more of an effort to wear something different or new.

So not quite the same, but not far off.

Bedheadbeachbum · 09/05/2026 09:53

Just to say, after this thread I was inspired to have a massive clear out of clothing & it felt sooo good to get rid of the stripes, patterns, dots, checks etc etc, I think my wardrobe just had felt like a cluttered mix.

Ordering plain t shirts, boho scarfs and already have jeggings / paperbag jeans so I'm going to give this a try but feels good already. ❤️

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Bufftailed · 07/05/2026 23:28

Same. Work at home. Mostly go out for walks, gym etc. looking shabby

Nain2026 · 07/05/2026 22:55

I like having a wide variety of different clothes to choose from but sometimes I wish I was a minimalist. I don’t think I’d be happy though, I love my dresses and jeans and tops too much.

ShetlandishMum · 07/05/2026 22:26

Both of my jobs require a uniform/dresscode so I've stopped getting too fancy with my clothes out of work. A few nice dresses, pants, shirts and jumpers. It works. Very liberating.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 07/05/2026 22:23

I exist in black leggings and some kind of black top - like a cartoon character

No wonder i'm single eh 😅

notacooldad · 07/05/2026 22:22

I tried doing that once and I really got bored.
I like having different looks.

EmeraldRoulette · 07/05/2026 22:21

@Bedheadbeachbum oh that's exciting I you used to get free cashmere! Thanks

Me combing out bubbles sounds like a recipe for disaster....

Bedheadbeachbum · 07/05/2026 22:14

EmeraldRoulette · 07/05/2026 21:50

@Bedheadbeachbum thank you
Yes, I've heard it's good for those transitional times like when it feels like a big temperature change between the morning and the daytime and then again in the evening, etc - I've been advised that it's really good for that and that some kind of cashmere cardigan would be better for me as it will adapt to the changes instead of me needing to keep getting changed!

The main thing that puts me off trying it is that I find wool so itchy and there was an awful lot to learn about cashmere when I looked it up! I imagine I couldn't afford the fibres that people say don't cause any itching

I might try a secondhand scarf and see if that's itchy

But you found it was a lot of maintenance did you? I have a handheld steamer which I'm guessing is the gentlest way to keep it clean.

i'm using scarves to break things up at the moment. I also find you can look like you've made an effort when you haven't and that's good for work.

So black trousers, black jacket, some kind of pale top and a scarf to add interest and I think I am okay in front of my clients, but they tend to be casually dressed now too

I used to work for a cashmere company and got a few free or low cost pieces!

They are meant to be soft and silky - I don't think they are itchy but I guess that's down to sensitivities. You just have to hand wash, then comb the bobbles out. They are beautiful.

A lot of our customers probably had a laundry service to maintain them on their behalf though!

I used to love wearing the cardigans as little 'jackets' in the summer, because you can wear cashmere on a warm day like that.

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EmeraldRoulette · 07/05/2026 21:50

@Bedheadbeachbum thank you
Yes, I've heard it's good for those transitional times like when it feels like a big temperature change between the morning and the daytime and then again in the evening, etc - I've been advised that it's really good for that and that some kind of cashmere cardigan would be better for me as it will adapt to the changes instead of me needing to keep getting changed!

The main thing that puts me off trying it is that I find wool so itchy and there was an awful lot to learn about cashmere when I looked it up! I imagine I couldn't afford the fibres that people say don't cause any itching

I might try a secondhand scarf and see if that's itchy

But you found it was a lot of maintenance did you? I have a handheld steamer which I'm guessing is the gentlest way to keep it clean.

i'm using scarves to break things up at the moment. I also find you can look like you've made an effort when you haven't and that's good for work.

So black trousers, black jacket, some kind of pale top and a scarf to add interest and I think I am okay in front of my clients, but they tend to be casually dressed now too

Bedheadbeachbum · 07/05/2026 21:39

EmeraldRoulette · 07/05/2026 19:00

I'm thinking about doing this

Questions for those already doing it - how do you manage temperature changes? I noticed a couple of people have mentioned cashmere. I love the idea of it and could buy some secondhand.

But doesn't it pill really badly and will it itch? I find wool very itchy.

I also have a tendency to be cold all the time - I ended up with a lot of pieces because every outfit is a bunch of layers unless it's high summer.

This does vary if you end up in a place that's well heated and so on

But my winter normally is a thermal vest, a T-shirt, and then a jumper or a cardigan. That's a normal day. If it gets really cold during the day, then there's more!

I basically ended up with a wardrobe full of things for each degree change of temperature!

I would be interested in fashion, but I'm short and fat - I have lost weight but it doesn't make much difference to the general inconvenience of clothes, I'd have to lose a lot more before it would do that

So I really don't mind having a wardrobe at the same stuff. I just haven't figured out what it is yet.

Jeans aren't usually warm enough for me - I have warm trousers on now - admittedly I've only just got home but it's 23 in my flat and I still wouldn't think jeans were warm enough!

I used to dream of looking stylish, but I've given up now, after years of getting it wrong. And I want to be comfortable more than anything

I had some T-shirts delivered from trusty Uniqlo today and one of them, I swear the seams were in the wrong place. So uncomfortable.

Edited

Cashmere is great for season changes but takes a lot of maintenance and you can't stick it in the washing machine obviously!

I'm the same, very picky about temperature changes - like overnight I can't wear my jeggings if it's 20+ degrees.

Thinking I need different seasons - maybe three - one for cold, one for spring & autumn and one for summer.

I'm going full in and going to buy a load of white t-shirts to go with jeggings, plus a number of boho scarfs to add colour / interest. And give it a go for a little while. Thanks for everyone's interest in this post!

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Feteaccompli · 07/05/2026 21:15

3 pairs of navy trousers and 6 fine knit plain coloured merino jumpers are my work uniform. If its cold I put a white shirt underneath. If its hot I have 3 thin blouses but as I live in the Highlands that doesn't happen too often. Weekend uniform is indigo or black jeans and a plain tshirt or plain sweater/chunky knit. Boring yes but oh so easy.

Dresses and skirts for special occasions, maybe 5x a year.

Crispychillifriedbeef · 07/05/2026 19:06

I have 10 pairs of the same Zara wide leg linen trousers to wear with plain, v neck tshirts. Can be worn with sandals in summer.

Several Boden cashmere cardigans.

Similar Boden dresses in black or navy.

Similar Seasalt maxi dresses for summer.

Then for embassy functions I rotate several Hobbs cocktail type dresses with a choice of court shoe.

No, I am not a stylish person 🤣