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How much do your friends help you?

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tuckmonster · 06/05/2026 18:00

How much do friends help out?
Im going through some stuff - mum dying and husband needing a stent in his heart. I guess normal things for people of a certain age to go through. I have just been suprised by how little my friends have cared. They sent texts saying hope everything is okay and let me know if I can help but I feel like I need someone to turn up with some soup or something! Is that ridiculous?

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SandwichSuperstar · 06/05/2026 18:09

I'm sorry for what you're going through OP Flowers

But "let me know if I can help" is what they said.

If you need help, you need to let them know.

constantnc · 06/05/2026 18:08

If they have said let's us know, then let tyem know OP
Its fine to say struggling with it all can you pop in x

TeaPot496 · 06/05/2026 18:07

I haven't seen mine for dust in similar circumstances, sad to say.

Floppyearedlab · 06/05/2026 18:07

Not ridiculous. But sadly people aren’t a village anymore

I remember when I was bereaved so many just went to ground apart from a perfunctory text.

So sorry for your loss OP. Sending you a virtual lasagna and a massive virtual bottle of wine.

PygmyOwl · 06/05/2026 18:05

Ah OP I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. Tbh I wouldn't turn up to a friend's with food in these circumstances, sorry. Maybe treat yourself to some easy meals so you don't have to worry about cooking for a bit?