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Thought on this? DS school situation..

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Miserablelittlesoul · 06/05/2026 08:53

DS (9) lost 5 minutes off his break yesterday because he didn’t complete his work in time. He said his teacher wrote the questions on the board and he didn’t get to write them down in time before she had wiped them off. He didn’t tell her that he didn’t get the questions down in time. He eventually got the remaining questions from his friend and completed the work but still lost his break. He said the questions were difficult and he was stuck working them out. I should add I believe my son has adhd like me so I’m fully aware he may be struggling and not using his voice when he needs to be.

My concern is she didn’t ask him why he didn’t manage to complete it she just took his book away from him and didn’t ask no further questions.

Then the 5 minutes he lost in break she still didn’t address it with him?

this is the response I’ve had from her

Hi, no he did not tell me or the other adults in class that he was struggling. If he had, we would have given him the support he needed. I will pick this up with him today or tomorrow and find out which question he was struggling with. By the end of the lesson, he had actually completed the flashback which was the work I was talking about. Thanks for letting me know.

DH feels like she is fobbing us off, I hate confrontation but I’m fully aware I need to be supporting my son.

Thoughts please

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 06/05/2026 09:05

It’s not something I’d complain about as a one off. But I actually don’t think it’s a reasonable punishment - I think students should only be punished for not finishing work if they’re pissing about, talking, not actually doing it.
If it is correct that the teacher just said “you’ve not finished so you’re missing some break” then tbh I do think that not having any attempt to discuss whether the student was finding it too difficult to finish in time is a bit crap.

Miserablelittlesoul · 06/05/2026 09:04

I have mentioned to his teacher before that I believe he has ADHD and she stated that she doesn’t believe so. But he forget his homework all the time, forgets to bring home reading books. I have to be on to him all the time.

I have told DS he needs to use his voice. I’m more worried about the fact she didn’t speak to him and ask why?

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rainbowunicorn22 · 06/05/2026 08:59

Perhaps if you feel there are issues, such as you mentioned, it may have been better to inform the teacher when he joined the class, so she would have been able to keep an eye out for problems
As it is she seemed to give a reasonable answer

InterestedDad37 · 06/05/2026 08:59

Does he generally work at a slower pace than the rest of the class?

GoodkneeBadKnee · 06/05/2026 08:59

Buscobel · 06/05/2026 08:59

It’s really not a ‘school situation’.

Exactly.

Buscobel · 06/05/2026 08:59

It’s really not a ‘school situation’.

Floppyearedlab · 06/05/2026 08:58

He didn’t tell her that he didn’t get the questions down in time.

and here is your answer

ChickenBananaBanana · 06/05/2026 08:57

And people wonder why there's a shortage of teachers?

What a waste of her time replying to this drivel.

Swiftie1878 · 06/05/2026 08:57

You absolutely do not need to be supporting your son vs the teacher on this. You need to be teaching him to use his voice in class.

EricTheHalfASleeve · 06/05/2026 08:56

You're overreacting. Your son needs to learn to ask for help if he needs it. The teacher is not a mind reader.

GoodkneeBadKnee · 06/05/2026 08:55

Teacher's response seems fine to me.
Why do you think you're being fobbed off? What do you think she should have done?

patroclusandachilles · 06/05/2026 08:54

Who would be a teacher these days? FFS.