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AIBU to think UC should not count money from my boyfriend as income?

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lena105 · 05/05/2026 12:34

I’m dealing with a UC overpayment and they’re now questioning transactions on my bank statements. I made notes for them - books, clothes, hairdressers etc.

UC didn’t even cover my rent or basic living costs. (I used savings to cover the difference, overdraft and occasional help).
I never bother keeping record these transactions.
Sometimes I’d pay for things upfront (credit, klarna etc) and my boyfriend would later pay me back. It wasn’t income, just reimbursements or help.

We do NOT have combined finances at all, we dont live together and the relationship is very volatile (we break up a lot).

Can DWP treat that kind of money as income?
And can they question spending that is not technically covered by UC.

I understand that if i was reckless with money I get from them they had the right to question it, but not money gifts from others.

OP posts:
BillieWiper · 05/05/2026 13:40

No it's not income. You don't live together so it's just like your mate or your mum lending you money or you going halves on a meal out or something.

As long as it's clear you had separate finances I think it should be fine. They can't call mates helping eachother out or family gifts as income. I'd hope?

Dweetfidilove · 05/05/2026 13:38

BMW58 · 05/05/2026 12:55

Could it be that they think it may be a source of income as a sex worker?
"My boyfriend gives me money from time to time" could be an indication-albeit a wrong one?

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WhatAboutSecondBreakfast86 · 05/05/2026 13:36

lena105 · 05/05/2026 12:50

with volatility come other good aspects of the relationship 😋possibly at some point we might try to make it more permanent.

If by that then you mean good sex, then still not good enough in my books!

Sunisgettinganewhaton · 05/05/2026 13:09

Tip... Don't write Hooker on a CV and you'll be fine.

Ponderingwindow · 05/05/2026 13:06

Large enough deposits on a regular enough basis are going to look like income, even if they are “gifts”

If you insist on continuing a volatile relationship, please at least keep it free of children. Don’t drag anyone else into an unhealthy situation.

pinkdelight · 05/05/2026 13:04

Bjorkdidit · 05/05/2026 13:02

Might it be easier if your boyfriend uses Klarna himself to buy things, to avoid the issue in the first place?

Yeah that was my thought, could be raising suspicions of some kind of a fiddle, even if it's entirely innocent. Likewise whatever money he's giving you to 'help', he could just pay for things then it's not going to raise any flags.

Bjorkdidit · 05/05/2026 13:02

Might it be easier if your boyfriend uses Klarna himself to buy things, to avoid the issue in the first place?

SandwichSuperstar · 05/05/2026 13:00

BMW58 · 05/05/2026 12:55

Could it be that they think it may be a source of income as a sex worker?
"My boyfriend gives me money from time to time" could be an indication-albeit a wrong one?

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BMW58 · 05/05/2026 12:55

Could it be that they think it may be a source of income as a sex worker?
"My boyfriend gives me money from time to time" could be an indication-albeit a wrong one?

lena105 · 05/05/2026 12:50

WhatAboutSecondBreakfast86 · 05/05/2026 12:37

No technically it is gifted money which can not be counted as income. Especially if he doesn't live with you.
Not the point but if the relationship is so volatile even when you don't live together surely you would be happier single?

with volatility come other good aspects of the relationship 😋possibly at some point we might try to make it more permanent.

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 05/05/2026 12:47

It would not count as income, no. It is counted as a gift, and you said it is reimbursement which is fine too. My mum often sends me money because I have made her something or picked up something in a shop that she could not get to.
And they don't care what you spend your money on.
Try not to worry.

WhatAboutSecondBreakfast86 · 05/05/2026 12:37

No technically it is gifted money which can not be counted as income. Especially if he doesn't live with you.
Not the point but if the relationship is so volatile even when you don't live together surely you would be happier single?

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