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AIBU to be upset that family members thought it funny to frighten my son and film it?

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Mrsknowitall · 05/05/2026 10:41

If you saw a video of your child running down the road hysterically crying and screaming and adults aged between 27-30 laughing, filming and screaming out RUUUUN (because they had been playing knock down ginger) how would you react? He thought he had people running after them.
me and dh was away for the weekend and left our children with my daughter (younger child 8 stayed with my parents) but then went to stay with dd on the Sunday, younger one is autistic and our ds 10 I suspect has something there too. It was my 10yo that was hysterical but they seemed to find it oh so funny to see him in such a state and I’ve now been made to feel like I have over reacted at seeing my child in distress after leaving them with family that I love and trust to look after him. There has been a massive fall out as my mum has tried to defend the adults and make excuses for them, they haven’t been told that it was out of order and you shouldn’t scare kids like that and I have had no apology at all, had they of taken accountability for it and said actually watching that video it does look really bad and I’m so sorry for upsetting him then I would be able to move on from it, but nothing, in fact my daughter sent me a message telling me I was out of order for arguing with my mum for defending them. My mum seems to think it will all blow over but without them seeing what they actually did wrong I don’t think I can move on from it. I trusted these people and they have completely broken that trust now. Have I overreacted? Is that something loving family members find amusing? To see a little boy so distressed and laugh and carry it on making it worse? Just to add it was my dd, dn and their partners. Sorry if I’m not making much sense I’ve hardly slept for 2 nights. We are a very close family so this fall out has hit me hard.

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Mrsknowitall · 05/05/2026 10:48

BertieBotts · 05/05/2026 10:43

That's awful. I'd be really upset and angry as well.

How does DS feel about it? That is probably the main thing really.

Up until that point they had had a lovely weekend and after it had happened they calmed him down and enjoyed the evening at another friends house for the evening it was just that walk to the friends house that was over the top and that I’m annoyed about. I was so grateful for them having the kids as it was a much needed rest, my 10yo don’t like leaving me or dh but the only person he will stay with is his big sister, we have to gear him up for a week or 2 to stay anywhere other than home, but after this we will never leave him behind again.

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Witchcraftandhokum · 05/05/2026 10:47

So he'd been knocking on doors and running away?

BertieBotts · 05/05/2026 10:43

That's awful. I'd be really upset and angry as well.

How does DS feel about it? That is probably the main thing really.

Farmhouse1234 · 05/05/2026 10:43

I would be hitting the roof. I’m so sorry your family are a£&@)().

the fact they double down rather than apologise is disgusting.

I would seriously cut them off for that. Your poor boy.

Topjoe19 · 05/05/2026 10:43

They are utter bastards. YANBU.

beefthief · 05/05/2026 10:42

Pranks are shit. Adult pranks on children are even shitter. You are reasonable.