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Do people pretend not to know who people are in order to seem intelligent?

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coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:35

Do people pretend not to know who people are in order to seem intelligent?

This question is prompted from reading comments online re The Met Gala?

Now let me prefix this by saying I have no interest in reality tv, Showbiz mags, etc - but surely there are some people who you know who they are because everybody does!

There were people saying "who" on a photo of Kim Kardashian. I have never seen an episode of the show, have no interest in her, but of course I know who she is - because how can you not?

Another British example is Jordan/Kate Price. No interest in her, but she has literally been headline news in The UK for 20 years. If you live in The UK - surely its impossible to not at least know who she is?

OP posts:
Zov · 05/05/2026 11:15

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JudgeJ · 05/05/2026 11:14

Andtheworldwentwhite · 05/05/2026 09:43

I don’t watch tv or follow celebrities’ or listen to music. I never have a clue who anyone is. And I really don’t care that people would thinj it has to do with how intelligent I am. Not sitting watching love island as an example is anything to do with how intelligent I am and not knowing who they are.

Agree totally! I will sometimes hear a name eg Taylor Swift gets mentioned as a song writer, but until that big tour I didn't know it's a woman! Not something I would want to read about etc., when I confessed to this iniquitous social crime on this site one response was 'But you must have seen posters', er know, not in deepest East Anglia!
Strangely though if I question why people have never heard of someone I know from an interest of mine then I'm 'showing off'! No, just different interests.

CmonBobby · 05/05/2026 11:13

Unless you’re staggeringly insular, of course you know who Kim K is. She’s been profiled in The Times, The Telegraph, The Guardian, all the tabloids, the national news, Radio 4, Radio 2 and Radio 1 (and all the other radio stations as far as I know) there was a spread on her in the Sunday Times Business section 2 weeks ago. It’s not a case of “I’m just not interested in celeb news” because she’s not only in celeb news, she’s in all the news.
Saying you know what the Met Gala is but not who Kim K is…. Come on now. The Kardashians have been the Met Gala for about 5 years.
It is 100% nonsense and a very weird pseudo class marker to pretend not to know who these people are and there’s absolutely NO possibility of someone being on social media, getting fed a Kardashian article by the algo and then actually not knowing who she is enough to comment “who”. If you’re on SM then you know.

Zov · 05/05/2026 11:12

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 11:06

And nobody is asking you to have interest, that wasn't the point of this post.

Exactly! Why even open the thread if it's about something/someone you have never heard of/have no interest in. And why comment just to say 'I have never heard of them and have no interest in them?'

I don't go to any boards (for example) that are for the childfree, and start going on about my children, or a website dedicated to dogs, going on about how much better cats are. OR to a sports board (say about football,) letting everyone know I have no interest in it, and have never heard of certain footballers that people are talking about.....

Why come on to the thread if you have no interest? Makes zero sense, and yes, it does smack of superiority (from some, not all) because some people feel the need to let everyone know how they have never heard of Kim Kardsahian, Katie Price, MAFS, Love Island, Olivia Rodrigo, or Sabrina Carpenter! (Or even if they have, they really don't care about them!)

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99bottlesofkombucha · 05/05/2026 11:10

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:57

I don't think it's about interest, more not walking around with your eyes closed.

I don't watch football, but I could tell you who David Beckham is.

I don’t watch football, I do know who David Beckham is, but I couldn’t necessarily pick him out of a lineup. I could if he had his arm around victoria beckham. But I’m just really really bad with faces, and his face isn’t that memorable.

HobGobblynne · 05/05/2026 11:10

It drives me insane. It's so deliberately obtuse. Commenting "who" on an article about a specific person, who's name will be scattered throughout said article is the most irritating thing in the universe. You know who, if you don't it's written in the text and if they're of no interest to you, scroll past

Lomonald · 05/05/2026 11:06

IMustDoMoreExercise · 05/05/2026 10:48

My husband knows a lot of celebrities but would not know who she was.

I also don't know a lot of the newer film stars and reality tv people because there are so many now.

I have no clue who love islanders are I don't watch reality tv but I wouldn't comment on a post anywhere saying "who" especially if they are at some red carpet thing.

Zov · 05/05/2026 11:06

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 10:55

I think people who write "who?" are making the point that they’re irritated at the expectation that everyone will know who these celebrities are and why they are thought to be interesting.

Edited

Why on earth do they even open the thread then?! Confused

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 11:06

JudgeJ · 05/05/2026 11:03

I recognise the names but unless they've done something other than be in the media all dressed up then I've no interest in anything about them.

And nobody is asking you to have interest, that wasn't the point of this post.

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 05/05/2026 11:04

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 10:55

I think people who write "who?" are making the point that they’re irritated at the expectation that everyone will know who these celebrities are and why they are thought to be interesting.

Edited

Why would they be reading an article about them though?
If it irritates them that much.

JudgeJ · 05/05/2026 11:03

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:39

I think it's almost a "Oh I couldn't possibly know who Kim Kardashian or Katie Price are"

I recognise the names but unless they've done something other than be in the media all dressed up then I've no interest in anything about them.

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 11:03

Deadleaves77 · 05/05/2026 10:59

Katie Price has had many articles in the Times, and is mentioned fairly frequently. Almost as if the Times assumes their readers know who she is. She's spoken on radio 4 multiple times and has even hosted.

Why does your dh enjoy not knowing who singers are? Seems a bit odd to get an ego boost because you don't know about music?

He knows a lot about music - classical music. He listens a lot to Radio 3. He assumed she was a singer of the type of music he’s not interested in and doesn’t listen to.

Ohthatsabitshit · 05/05/2026 11:01

I don’t know what those two look like but I know their names. Not everyone is very interested in that sort of information. I’m sure there are things I know about that you barely bother with. I don’t see how it shows how high our IQs are?

Deadleaves77 · 05/05/2026 11:01

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 10:55

I think people who write "who?" are making the point that they’re irritated at the expectation that everyone will know who these celebrities are and why they are thought to be interesting.

Edited

On a Met Gala article? No ones expecting you to be interested in celeb culture, but they do if your reading about the met gala

Smartiepants79 · 05/05/2026 11:00

I’m not a big fan of celebrity culture. A lot of it weirds me out. There are plenty of famous people I recognise however. Especially those that have an actual talent or career - musicians, actors etc. I have to say I would not have a clue which Kardashian was which if you showed me a picture. People who are famous simply for being infamous are not something that interest me.

Deadleaves77 · 05/05/2026 10:59

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 10:49

You say Jordan/Katie Price has been "headline news in the UK for 20 years" - depends what you read! I guarantee she hasn’t been headline news in The Times. I just asked my DH if he knew who she was. He recognised the name but thought she was a singer. He knows nothing about her life and certainly wouldn't be able to identify her from a photo.

If you don’t read tabloids or gossip columns or watch "celebrity" TV programmes and get all your news from The Times and Radio 4, it’s perfectly possible not to have a clue about people like that. But I agree that my DH enjoys not knowing because he thinks it makes him superior to people who care about such things. (Sometimes, when I read an imbecilic "celebrity" story, about silly people famous just for being famous, I think perhaps he’s right.)

Katie Price has had many articles in the Times, and is mentioned fairly frequently. Almost as if the Times assumes their readers know who she is. She's spoken on radio 4 multiple times and has even hosted.

Why does your dh enjoy not knowing who singers are? Seems a bit odd to get an ego boost because you don't know about music?

Hostile17Lover · 05/05/2026 10:59

I genuinely don't know who a lot of the modern celebs are, simply because I don't engage with most modern media beyond about the mid 90s, but I don't think that makes me cooler, or smarter or better than anyone who does - I just have different interests. I do know who Kim Kardashian is though hard not to!

MelancholiaOrRaving · 05/05/2026 10:58

I don't know much about celebrity culture, and often think "Who?" when I read a headline online or a thread title on here, but I don't click on them and certainly wouldn't think to comment as I have zero interest. I think it's a kind of "I'm far too cool and serious to know who these people are, and I want others to know that" attitude.

Tedwardy · 05/05/2026 10:55

Deadleaves77 · 05/05/2026 10:49

Your telling me these people have no interest in popular culture, no social media, have never come across the kardashians in their day to day life, suddenly stumble across a Met gala article (a celeb fashion show) and now all of a sudden just want to know who she is? Despite never having any interest in popular culture in the last 20 years to the point you've managed to miss fairly famous celebrities.

Read the OP. It's about people who pointedly show they don't know who lowbrow celebs are by commenting on pictures/threads about them. Why are you looking at articles of the Met Gala if celebs aren't of interested. Why do you want to know who this celeb is if they aren't of interest. Why not just Google if this new found love of celebs just overtakes you in the met gala comment section

I think people who write "who?" are making the point that they’re irritated at the expectation that everyone will know who these celebrities are and why they are thought to be interesting.

SpringIsSpringing2026 · 05/05/2026 10:55

Hecatee · 05/05/2026 10:33

Well the title question is "do people pretend not to know who people are...." and yes, I think they do pretend not to. Otherwise they would just google them rather than say "who".

Well, it depends if you only read the question or the post doesn't it? I tend to read the whole post.

WhatNextImScared · 05/05/2026 10:55

Depends on age. Anyone who is 40 or under and has an existence on social media would obviously know Kim K or they’ve being deliberately try hard. I can guarantee without asking that my parents (seventies) have never heard of her.

Itiswhysofew · 05/05/2026 10:54

I'm like you, OP. However, there are an awful lot of them I dont know.

Maybe people dont want to seem shallow by admitting they've heard of slebs.

Jasmin71 · 05/05/2026 10:53

I wouldn't be able to match the faces to the names but I have heard of them

FiveMetresUp · 05/05/2026 10:53

I agree with you OP. Especially when they post on a thread saying something like they don’t have a clue who this person is.

I am super smart. I also know who Kim Kardashian is. Feigning ignorance is not the flex most people think it is.

TheCurious0range · 05/05/2026 10:52

I am really bad at identifying celebrities and remembering names. I would recognise Katie price , Kim Kardashian I know who she is and she was in a relationship with an American rapper and had a backside that broke the internet, but I would struggle to pick her out of a line up unless there was one woman with a much bigger arse than the others, then I'd take a punt.

I'm also really bad with actors DH will say do you want to watch this it's got so and so in it, I will have no idea who that is he will then name 3/4 things I've seen them in. Characters are just characters to me generally.
I know a few big ones like tom cruise or David tennant. DH sent me something about the devil wears Prada two recently and the guy who was in it and his wife making jokes, I replied oh I want to see that, but he'd sent it to me because the couple were the two from Colin from accounts which I love, but I didn't recognise them. It's not snobbery from my perspective at all I love a real housewives show and was a staunch fan of vanderpump rules, so it's not all radio 4 in this house

ETA I wouldn't be reading or commenting on MET gala articles though

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