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If you are ND do you have a superpower?

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AuADHD · 05/05/2026 07:17

I fucking don’t. It’s one struggle after another despite ADHD meds. I don’t think I’ve ever had a superpower or even close. I’m a Jill of all trades: can turn my hand to everything I try and do it reasonably well but I never excel at anything. Nothing positive anyway.
My son is being assessed for autism and the psychiatrist said to me last week that all this talk of superpowers is great at focusing on strengths but it can downplay the struggles people have.
A friend says she loves the way I see the world, as in the details that others miss, but that’s hardly a superpower.
I’m not sure that talk of superpowers is good for children who don’t have any either. It could feel like yet another thing they are failing at as though they aren’t doing autism or ADHD to a good enough standard.

Do you or your child have a superpower? You don’t have to share what it is, I’m just interested to see if people do actually have them. Maybe it was something to try and make ND people seem less “weird” to others or feel better about themselves. Just musing.

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WhatWasIGoingToSay8 · 05/05/2026 07:29

I agree with the psychiatrist. I have a fairly normal ability to spot BS even in ND world, so no superpower either.

The superpowers talk is infantalising at best and it is glossing over people's actual problems to be more 'affirming'.

FrankSinatraonToast · 05/05/2026 07:26

My brother has autism and struggles to understand most of life which frustrates him. Yet if anyone tells him their date of birth, straight away he can tell them the day of the week they were born on and it's always right. I always think this 'super power' stuff is nonsense and condescending.

PicaK · 05/05/2026 07:25

I don't like the super power crap either.
But it took a long time for me to realise I'm good at organising - I can doggedly organise get togethers of far flung friends. I'm useless at talking much when the get together happens, mind!

IceStationZebra · 05/05/2026 07:23

Also ADHD and I remember pointless dates/stuff to a ridiculous degree of accuracy. We went to the safari park for the first time after DS was born on 7 June 2021. I saw the boy I liked kissing someone else on 18 December 2002.

Also clothes/toys/stuff - that Lego set was a Christmas present from Nicola and Peter in 2023. DM bought those trousers for DS in a pack of 3 from Tesco when we visited in July 2024.

it takes up brain space because I struggle to get people’s birthday cards and gifts sorted in time, despite this requiring recall of dates.

Sirzy · 05/05/2026 07:22

I think all this “super power” crap is just used as a way to downplay the struggles that people are facing.

DS ability to name any train he sees and memorise timetables didn’t override the fact that some days just getting out of bed is a struggle, or that he can’t go and see many of the trains he would like to because he knows it will be too crowded to cope. (Or any of the other many daily struggles he faces)