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Aibu to consider getting a cleaner with 2 days off work?

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Advice5 · 04/05/2026 22:51

Reposted sorry as title didn't appear!

Aibu to consider getting a cleaner? I work part time, have 2 days off. I have 3 kids all are now in school. My husband works long hours and I do all domestic chores, all pick ups drop offs, cooking, the mental load of what kids need etc seeing to there needs mainly myself during the week due to long hours husband works. I do not expect my husband to do more due to how we have split responsibilities across everything so not asking for input regarding this. I have a large house 5 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms, 2 sitting rooms. I am considering getting a cleaner as I feel exhausted, thinking I would be a better person for it at home and it would give me some breathing space. Aibu to do this considering I have 2 days off? I wouldn't give everything to the cleaner to do just things like bathrooms, and some of the floors bit of dusting so would still be doing some stuff myself. Anyone got any experience of having one in this situation? Anyone who has cleaners do partial cleaning? How did it improve your life if so?

OP posts:
suki1964 · 04/05/2026 23:05

I only work 20 hours a week and I posted the other day about getting a cleaner, to do the stuff I struggle to keep up with

There's just the two of us, but same sized house as yours near enough. Big house, lot of garden, there's just too much

If you can afford it, go for it

tightfit · 04/05/2026 23:04

Life is too short to spend time on anything you ‘feel’ you should do. If you can afford it and that’s what you want then it’s no one else’s business

Advice5 · 04/05/2026 23:04

TheRealShatParp · 04/05/2026 22:59

Two days off total or in addition to a weekend off, so 4 days off?

It's 2 days off in the week and the weekend off too. 1 day weekend is mostly taken up with kids activities, the other helping them with homework some family time and prep for the week

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Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 23:00

Do it

life is too short -

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 22:59

Love I had a cleaner when I was in my 30s, working part time - no kids and no partner

of course you can!!!

there is no hurdlE you have to get past

AffableApple · 04/05/2026 22:59

Can you/the family pot/whatever money pile this is coming out of - able to afford it? Fucking crack on!

TheRealShatParp · 04/05/2026 22:59

Two days off total or in addition to a weekend off, so 4 days off?

Inmyuggs · 04/05/2026 22:58

Get a cleaner...life is to short to clean
It gives someone the opportunity to earn and work.

TheSmallAssassin · 04/05/2026 22:55

If you can afford a cleaner, absolutely go for it, and let them do as much as they can in the time you can afford, rather than keeping some back for yourself, why would you?

I am so glad we have a cleaner, it takes off such a load - mentally and physically! Our house is much cleaner than it used to be!

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