Aibu to consider getting a cleaner with 2 days off work?

OP, if the money is able to be spent then do it, it will help hugely and will take some pressure off.

Did you set out to come across so mean and petty? In this weird fake concern?

Who is most people? And why do you get to decide that the OP is being unreasonable?

I meet families on a daily basis where, normally, the mother is spinning the plates in the air, has a huge amount on their plate and a forever increasing workload and they are exhausted because carrying all of this is hard. Some work full time, some part time and some, this will blow your mind, don't work and still are exhausted.
At what point do we stop judging people, women, for not being tired enough, for not being able to juggle everything just because someone else can, or at least looks like they can.

This was a shit comment and you know it.

Make your life as easy as you can.

Dude... your post sucks.

I realise that being mean can be sort of fun sometimes (AIBU would probably dry up without this), but for some reason the pure pettiness of your reply here has wound me up.

I have a job that involves providing mental health support to people in their 60s and above. Very often I meet women who have 'done it all' and worked so hard to keep all the plates spinning. Many end up exhausted, exploited by the people around them (including DHs and adult children), and out of touch with their own interests and strengths. I see too many women who have lost any sense of their value in the world other than to be a skivvy or emotional punchbag, and who have learned that they are not 'allowed' to have their own needs or their own fun. Not saying the OP's situation is like this, but frankly any woman (or man) who finds a way to make life easier and to reclaim more time for themselves and the things they care about should crack on in my view. Life's too short.

I did this until very recently. I only stopped because our cleaner was incredibly unreliable and it irritated me more than doing it myself. We are looking to move house soon so I'll probably get a (different) cleaner again once we have settled.
Could I do it all myself? Yes. Do I want to? No.

The thing is a cleaner will give a deep clean but there is still a lot of housework involved in running a household so not unreasonable at all to get someone to tackle the bathrooms , kitchen etc and clean floors through as leaves you freer to spend time on other added value stuff

If you can afford it then do it. Cleaning properly is constant, exhausting and relentless. No one appreciates it but notices when it is not done and we have to be so present for our children that having energy to do it is can be somewhat lacking. Never be embarrassed about it. Any spare time you get from it has been earned and benefits the whole family. Also, it's good for the economy. :)

As my nanna would always tell me, if you make the mess, you clean it up. Bless her, she was a cleaner ironically after she retired for extra pocket money and would often tell me stories of the people she cleaned for. Stoic Irish woman she was who knew how to run a house. I’d say go for it if you can afford it but I live by my nannas mantra. Couldn’t have someone picking up after me and my family and being in my house around my things. Gives me the ick. Thankfully me and DH share the load and we both work full time and have kids that plays sports of a weekend and during the week. Still manage to keep a clean house. It’s as taxing as you make it.

I work three days and we have a cleaner! And zero guilt about it. I want to spend my time off doing stuff I actually want to do.

There's always one!!

Hmmm. Somebody's got this wrong! I have a cleaner, I've had one for 20+ years. I also have a gardener and someone to do my ironing. Life's way too short to do all that shit. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

It's a pretty sad state of affairs when you assume someone showing concern is not real. Some of us are actually human beings.

If you can afford it then get a cleaner. It doesn't matter if you work 2 days, 4 days or no days! I am retired and have a cleaner every week who does an amazing job. You don't need permission provided you have the £.

💯 get a cleaner why ever not?

And also consider --- are there other areas of life where the money would be better spent?

The answer is ALWAYS get the cleaner (assuming it is affordable).

Between my husband and I, we work only 4 days each so equivalent to you. We have a cleaner and a lawnmower person. If I could afford a gardener we would have one, but alas, so we have a jungle garden.

Oh I totally agree, nothing wrong with getting a cleaner. I have one. If you have a cleaner because you don't have time or can't be bothered or whatever reason that's nobody else's business. But that's irrelevant to my point. If you are 'exhausted' but only working 3 days a week, there's a health issue there.

I don’t work at all and I have a cleaner, so go for it

If you can afford it and you want to get a cleaner why not?
It shouldn't be a moral issue but a financial one.

But she doesn't really have a husband to share most of the load with. Financial, yes. But nit physical and not largely mental. Of course it's worth considering if she's more exhausted than she used to be etc. but if she's busy with work 3 days, family and childcare two days and then is using the last two days to do all the housework, doing all school runs and night time wake ups, I'm not overly surprised she's tired.

Oh dear, this disingenuous concern is so dull. Enjoy your martyrdom; I certainly won’t be competing for whatever prize it is you think you’ll get.

If you can afford it then go for it.

Another option would be to consider investing in some automation- would a good robovac & mop be useful for example- every night you'd stick it on and wake up the next morning with hoovered and mopped floors.

Although I'm yet to find bathroom cleaning automation!

My child free time amounts to 1 hour on a Tuesday and 2.5 hours on a Thursday when they are in school and pre school. Other weekdays I work and we're both off the weekend. I want to see how it feels when both are in school as I'll then have 9-3 on 1 day and 3 hours on the other so I may feel more on top of things. It's currently organising and tidying I struggle with so can't even get to the point where a cleaner would help..anyway, get the cleaner if you can afford it, enjoy your life

Even my small one bed flat seems to take up almost one of my week end days to keep on top of. If you can afford it, absolutely go for it! Plus you're also giving someone else more work, so win win:)