Would you be ok with being celibate 56?

Only you can answer whats right for you. If you're happy with decades of enforced celibacy then you'll be fine.

Personally I definitely wouldn't be happy. I'm the same age as you and I don't know what I'd do in your situation apart from get very frustrated and unhappy. I've currently got my dh up to 2-3 times a week which is great 😁.

Could you speak with your dh to try and appeal to him? Get him on a health kick to get the sap rising?

I don't think you should be thinking about this in terms of age and asking others about their perceptions of what is acceptable at a particular age. You should focus on what is important for you and how to make the most of your relationship with your husband. If your husband has always had a low sex drive, I'm curious about why you married him? Why did you stay with him? Are those reasons no longer valid and something has changed for you? Are you able to satisfy yourself whilst getting touch and love from, for example, massages from your husband? I understand why you are looking for opinions from others, but you will get a split of people saying 'no, awful couldn't live like that' and others saying they don't miss sex at all... but what about you? What is it that you are missing in particular and is there any way of satisfying yourself and keeping the connection with your husband? It is impossible to force him to suddenly change his sex drive after all these years, so it's really for you to work out what you really want. You probably should take this to therapy - no one can say what is or should be acceptable for you, so it's something you need to work through with someone other than your husband.

How long have you been married?

I think it wouldn't be ok if you were younger. But if the marriage is otherwise good, then at this age, I'd not be as concerned. Moving on, finding someone new and stable is going to be more of a challenge. Not impossible, but more difficult and there are no guarantees the other important elements of a marriage will be there. Think also that your health can also change at any time.

Would I be ok with it? No. I’m 57 and despite perimenopause (not quite finished) still have a sex drive that is very central to my life.

I would however probably be better able to cope now than when I was younger. I’d be inclined to try and distract myself tbh - I find the more I think about sex, the more I want it. I’m assuming at some point in my life I will stop either wanting or having sex, or dp will - eventually most of us have to find a way through it.

The alternative I guess is to talk; to find out how he is feeling about it and whether he would be ok with alternatives.

I wouldn't be happy. I've been in a couple of sexless relationships and while it's doable and has perks of its own, I'd be damned if I end up in one of those again.

Well im 36 and haven’t had sex in 10 years but for different reasons

How about 51 …? 😄

It’s been 9 years and I don’t miss it.

Would he consider therapy for both of you, if sex is something you’re not ready to give up?