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Is it unreasonable for airlines not to provide wider seats for obese passengers?

531 replies

Kag13 · 04/05/2026 21:05

I have today spent a four and a half hour Jet2 flight seated next to a young man who was at least 20 stone, probably larger. I could not use the left hand armrest as his body (fat) buldged over it and into my personal space (which on a budget airline is not that large) and his leg was resting over part of my seat.
Luckily I am only 5’2” and not that big but what would happen if someone of the same size was seated next to him?
it made for a very uncomfortable flight for me. Am I being unreasonable to think this is not right?

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Bluegreenbird · 05/05/2026 07:17

I once flew with my three young children. We had the three on the window side with me on the aisle then the eldest across the aisle from me. When we’d boarded the stewards moved a very large man to the middle row next to my child. I assume it was to put him next to the smallest person they could see. He really struggled to get in to the seat and asked if he could have the aisle seat. Not great because I wouldn’t be able to easily help DC across the aisle.
We did agree though. Everyone was stuck until it was sorted. (DC had a great flight as she fell asleep for most of the flight resting on his big soft arm!)

Offherrockingchair · 05/05/2026 07:11

You should be entitled to a refund as you were not able to sit in your whole seat - you used half of it so 50% back!

asdbaybeeee · 05/05/2026 07:01

notimagain · 04/05/2026 21:23

If you mean something like the guage used at check-in or the gate for carry on how would that work on a full flight where there are no spare seats?

They would be turned away but would know they need to buy two seat anyway

notimagain · 05/05/2026 06:59

AbundantFlowers · 05/05/2026 06:45

I think it’s disgusting how small plane seats are. I’m a healthy BMI and feel completely unable to move on a long hall flight. This can’t be good health and safety.

No one is going to pay for 2 seats. They just need to stop being so fucking greedy and make flying more comfortable! It’s disgraceful.

Edited

Before the current fuel crisis airlines were making sub $10 on the average pax over the year (by coincidence this popped up in another thread last night)....they're going to be struggling to make any at all by the end of the year.

So no the airlines aren't being "fucking greedy", they are trying to make a profit in an enviroment where many passengers prime metric for deciding who to fly with is ticket cost.

Some airlines do offer more space in some seats, it's called Premium Economy or business class, but not everybody is able or willing to pay for it.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 05/05/2026 06:57

If you want a wider seat, pay for it. Airlines are not the most profitable businesses. If you choose Squeezy Jet, you know what the deal is! If you want fewer, but wider seats, that will cost you. You won’t get something for nothing but you are not required to fly. It’s your choice.

Some airlines have reduced seat width but by no means all. This info can be checked before you book.

Bake · 05/05/2026 06:56

I've had this on the bus and train so many times. Shorter journeys thankfully, but equally uncomfortable.

FasterMichelin · 05/05/2026 06:48

ObliviousCoalmine · 04/05/2026 21:11

You’re being unreasonable in your tone and wording, for a start.

Airlines have made seats smaller and smaller to get more people in, people are getting bigger, for a multitude of reasons (very few people are bigger because they chose that option).

You’re not going to get airlines making seats bigger, and you’re not going to get people booking two seats while money is tricker, so it’s a stalemate.

We all have to weigh up different social scenarios and whether we partake in them based on our various tolerance levels for things, if this is something that you can’t tolerate, then you can make that choice; just as others choose not to travel on the tube/go to big concerts etc based on how other humans occupy those spaces.

If you just came for a “fat people are gross” whinge, then crack on, but at least be upfront about it.

Why would OP be the one who no longer flies?

OP, I would complain to the airline, they might not do anything but they certainly won’t change anything if people don’t complain.

Did you ask in the flight if they could provide you with a full seat that you’ve paid for?

AbundantFlowers · 05/05/2026 06:45

I think it’s disgusting how small plane seats are. I’m a healthy BMI and feel completely unable to move on a long hall flight. This can’t be good health and safety.

No one is going to pay for 2 seats. They just need to stop being so fucking greedy and make flying more comfortable! It’s disgraceful.

Needspaceforlego · 05/05/2026 06:44

Daffodilsinthespring · 05/05/2026 06:15

Are airline seats smaller than theatre seats? I’ve never flown so have no idea.

They are like seats on a commuter train but with an arm rest that divides the seats.

Economy just isn't that comfortable. Pack them in. Sell them cheap.
I do love how back in the day trains were 1st. 2nd, 3rd class, and the names have changed to 1st. Business and Economy or on trains Standard.

80smonster · 05/05/2026 06:43

Maybe they could make an obese row, get them to all squish together, that or they can pay for 2 seats. Doesn’t seem fair that an expensive seat was dominated by someone who didn’t pay, be that theatre, plane, concert, it’s just the basic issue of paying for what you use.

wecangoupupup · 05/05/2026 06:42

I’ve been very, very large, and not spilled over seats.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 05/05/2026 06:40

@dottiehens Obese people can avoid trauma by not flying economy and spilling over the seat. It not anyone else’s fault they do this.

FeltCarrot · 05/05/2026 06:34

I wonder how larger people manage with the toilets, I’m not big and some of the loos are tiny! (EasyJet!)

BikingHoots · 05/05/2026 06:30

I don’t like obese people sitting next to me on a commuter train, sitting next to one on a flight where you are trapped is my nightmare. On the one hand I feel sorry for the obese passengers, it can’t be comfortable for them either. But if you have purchased a ticket and you have to contort yourself like a pretzel to avoid touching the larger passenger in the next seat, that isn’t fair or safe. Holding yourself taut to avoid someone else the whole flight can trigger all sorts of new and existing body issues like back pain. But just the encroachment on personal space is not acceptable. There is also a health and safety dimension if there is an incident on the flight.

The onus is on the larger passenger to either book two seats, to not travel by air, or to lose weight. The onus should not be on other passengers to try and suffer a long flight. The airlines need a way of checking at the gate. There probably isn’t a way to do this diplomatically, but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done. If they can weigh your luggage they can weigh the person, using health and safety as an excuse.

I have been on a couple of helicopter flights. They weigh the passengers beforehand to decide where to place you on the aircraft. If weight distribution is important for a helicopter why isn’t it for a flight? There probably is a good reason, someone might know.

dottiehens · 05/05/2026 06:30

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 21:48

Omg

why is the onus on op and not the ma who should have booked the seats

Because she opened a threat potentially inviting people to be mean with the comments. There is so much wrong with this threat but it is on the people making the nasty suggestions. There is so much ignorance as well about obesity reasons. Pretty sure if this is real issue. The airlines can find polite ways to deal with the situation rather than public shaming to add more trauma to an already very vulnerable people.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 05/05/2026 06:27

@DaffodilsinthespringBy and large similar unless you pay for a better class of cabin.

There isn’t a law to make them wider due to court claims and the width is easy to find. Around 17.5 - 18 inches for BA in economy. Emirates is similar - they all depend on aircraft. PE will be around 20 inches. So long haul is never going to be great if you are squished in or next to an obese person.

hattie43 · 05/05/2026 06:26

JulietteHasAGun · 04/05/2026 21:16

I would have found that very difficult to deal with. I can’t stand being touched at all. The thought of having a stranger pushed against me for hours is a nightmare. I do think individuals should be made to buy a second seat rather than encroach on others.

I agree with this . The thought of someone spilling into my seat would drive me mad . If you buy one seat you need to fit into it , if you can’t, either lose weight or buy two seats . It’s unfair to make someone suffer a horrible flight due to your size .

Daffodilsinthespring · 05/05/2026 06:15

Are airline seats smaller than theatre seats? I’ve never flown so have no idea.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 05/05/2026 06:10

There was a case against BA where a passenger claimed damages for injuries caused by an adjacent obese passenger and he lost the case. Various reasons given including over stating discomfort and he didn’t ask to move. Plus, it was economy - it’s to be expected! So there’s personal responsibility in this too it seems. You have to upgrade or ask to move at the very least.

wendywoopywoo222 · 05/05/2026 06:04

bumptybum · 04/05/2026 23:22

What happens when a flight is overbooked? Do they take your second seat before someone else’s seat?

Oh I wonder if they would 🤔 It’s never happened to me. I’m no longer obese so don’t have the worry of it anymore although if I was rich I would always book two seats as the extra space was very useful.

SuddenlyBecoming · 05/05/2026 06:04

Personally I think airlines should be forced to provide more comfortable seating full stop. Lots of people are uncomfortable on flights due to reclining seats or lack of legroom or width of seat / people hogging arm rests. All round unpleasant experience frankly and I say that as someone who is size 8'and 5'8" I can not imagine what it's like for people even size 14 or over 6'. Must be horrid.

Needspaceforlego · 05/05/2026 05:49

PollyBell · 05/05/2026 00:58

So you either want them to build bigger planes or rip all the seats out and put less seats but bigger so less passengers will be able to travel and the costs will go up all because of obese people?

that is the solution to obesity?

Nobody said all the seats should be changed. A few rows yes. All no.

Planes are frequently serviced and seats checked and replaced as necessary so it could be done when they are serviced. Or as new planes are ordered.

Applewisp · 05/05/2026 05:31

PollyBell · 05/05/2026 00:58

So you either want them to build bigger planes or rip all the seats out and put less seats but bigger so less passengers will be able to travel and the costs will go up all because of obese people?

that is the solution to obesity?

Nope. Banning obese people from flights is the answer. Motivate them to stop snacking.

Applewisp · 05/05/2026 05:29

Morbidly obese people shouldn’t be allowed to fly.

AEIOYOU · 05/05/2026 04:00

ObliviousCoalmine · 04/05/2026 21:11

You’re being unreasonable in your tone and wording, for a start.

Airlines have made seats smaller and smaller to get more people in, people are getting bigger, for a multitude of reasons (very few people are bigger because they chose that option).

You’re not going to get airlines making seats bigger, and you’re not going to get people booking two seats while money is tricker, so it’s a stalemate.

We all have to weigh up different social scenarios and whether we partake in them based on our various tolerance levels for things, if this is something that you can’t tolerate, then you can make that choice; just as others choose not to travel on the tube/go to big concerts etc based on how other humans occupy those spaces.

If you just came for a “fat people are gross” whinge, then crack on, but at least be upfront about it.

Was the passenger you @ObliviousCoalmine ?

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