AIBU to tell my partner to get a taxi home?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/05/2026 18:08

How did this play out in the end @Lill1e ?

Did he ever respond, even after you opened the wine? Was he apologetic or entitled enough to be miffed that his lift wasn’t an open ended offer?

Cocktailglass · 06/05/2026 17:52

We say if not ready to come by a time then it's a taxi.

helpmelosemybigbelly · 04/05/2026 22:02

I wonder what time he gets back

Silverbirchleaf · 04/05/2026 21:58

Surely he would have given you an indication as to when the event finished and what time he needed picking up? Or you could just have rung him and asked.

AcquadiP · 04/05/2026 21:51

Holdinguphalfthesky · 04/05/2026 19:07

“As I’ve not heard from you and I too would like some evening to relax, i’ll assume you’re getting a cab. Have fun and see you later.”

It’s so disrespectful to just leave you on read.

This.

Whiteheadhouse · 04/05/2026 21:46

We teach people how to treat us, and you have somehow given him the message that you will tolerate him being rude and disrespectful of you and your time.

Well done for opening the wine.
Perhaps have a look at how much you let slide.

They get worse not better if you don't have firm boundaries.

Leeds2 · 04/05/2026 21:39

Is he home yet?

BudgetBuster · 04/05/2026 21:37

NotMajorTom · 04/05/2026 20:52

I think I’m the odd one out here thinking it’s a bit harsh. I can imagine someone saying they were out, they didn’t let their husband know a time but said they’d pick them up, but when it came to it he said “you didn’t reply so I had a beer, get a taxi” wouldn’t get the same responses

If he didn't reply and read the message, he can get fucked 😂 That's the height of ignorance

LumpyandBumps · 04/05/2026 21:11

I hope that you are able to relax and enjoy your wine.

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 20:54

They arranged to pick him up a few hours after they dropped him at 12 - it was 7.30 and he waant responding

NotMajorTom · 04/05/2026 20:52

I think I’m the odd one out here thinking it’s a bit harsh. I can imagine someone saying they were out, they didn’t let their husband know a time but said they’d pick them up, but when it came to it he said “you didn’t reply so I had a beer, get a taxi” wouldn’t get the same responses

Shinyandnew1 · 04/05/2026 20:30

Enjoy your wine!

Iloveacurry · 04/05/2026 19:48

Enjoy your wine op! Cheers!

toomuchfaff · 04/05/2026 19:44

Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:02

Never. We only have one car between us and he doesn’t drive it. It’s my car

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Sod that then. Open the wine tell him to uber. You're not a taxi; and youre definitely not a taxi that is left on read and ignored.

Open the wine.

Everintroverte · 04/05/2026 19:42

No I hate this too, glad you have opened the wine!

BudgetBuster · 04/05/2026 19:41

I definitely would have given him a timeframe before he went out / before ye went seperate ways... I often do this with my DH. I'll say text me for a lift if you're home before 5pm but I'm not coming out after that, you can get a taxi.

You know for next time!
Enjoy the wine 🍷

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:38

Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:34

🤣 brilliant thank you and thanks to everyone for your replies. The wine has been opened 🍷

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Yay 👏👏👏👏👏

You literally waited ages - get it into your head he’s made other plans

enjoy your wine!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 04/05/2026 19:36

I would've told him this at 2pm

What kind of gentleman is this?!

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Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:34

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:31

Good - then open that wine girl - when he comes in say you were around til 4pm
and then tried to get hold of him and he didn’t reply so you thought he’d made other plans - love you darling - look back at tv

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🤣 brilliant thank you and thanks to everyone for your replies. The wine has been opened 🍷

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Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:31

Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:28

No honestly I’m not. It’s actually lovely to have the house to myself for a change 😝

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Good - then open that wine girl - when he comes in say you were around til 4pm
and then tried to get hold of him and he didn’t reply so you thought he’d made other plans - love you darling - look back at tv

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Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:28

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:21

You said you’d pick him up in a few hours from 12 - that way gone - so get your wine and assume he’s made other plans

unless you are crossed he is out so long…

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No honestly I’m not. It’s actually lovely to have the house to myself for a change 😝

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Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:27

NotMajorTom · 04/05/2026 19:24

Does he not drive or do you not let him?

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He can drive but hasn’t driven in a while due to an injury so is very nervous driving my car

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NotMajorTom · 04/05/2026 19:24

Lill1e · 04/05/2026 19:02

Never. We only have one car between us and he doesn’t drive it. It’s my car

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Does he not drive or do you not let him?

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:21

Lill1e · 04/05/2026 18:50

Ladies why is it when men go out they forget that they have to come home 🤦‍♀️ my OH is out since 12 today at an occasion and I told him I’d pick him up in a few hours (I came home at 12) and I’m still waiting on the call to pick him up!! Texted him to know if he had a time in mind and he left me on read 😳🤨 I want to relax with a glass of wine and watch tv not be sitting here waiting on him! I’m so mad. Think I’ll just tell him to get a taxi at this stage right??

You said you’d pick him up in a few hours from 12 - that way gone - so get your wine and assume he’s made other plans

unless you are crossed he is out so long…

Millymollymandy4 · 04/05/2026 19:20

Holdinguphalfthesky · 04/05/2026 19:07

“As I’ve not heard from you and I too would like some evening to relax, i’ll assume you’re getting a cab. Have fun and see you later.”

It’s so disrespectful to just leave you on read.

Yes this!