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AIBU to ask DD to wait three weeks for her 18th birthday present?

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Nimblethimble · 04/05/2026 17:19

DD will be 18 three weeks before her last A level exam.

She needs AAA for her first choice uni (which is where she is very keen to go) and is currently working slightly below that.

She has asked for a gaming laptop for her birthday present which we have agreed to (siblings had the same gift at 18 but this wasn't an issue as they have birthdays well after the exam season has finished).

Would you give it to her on her birthday - YABU

Or wait til the exams are finished - YANBU

(In case it is not clear, she wants it on her birthday. DH and I think she should wait and focus on her exams.)

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MissFancyDay · 04/05/2026 17:23

I'd wait. Just tell her that delivery has been delayed 😃

JMSA · 04/05/2026 17:22

Unreasonable, sorry. The drive to do well has to be intrinsic and she’s old enough to self-regulate when it comes to gaming laptop usage! Or not, but again, that has to come from her.
What you could do is have a chat prior to her using it, just a reminder about expectations and such.

Clarabell77 · 04/05/2026 17:20

I couldn’t do it personally.

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