To think women need not disclose exact savings to partners?

The problem is that the definition of “partner” varies enormously.

Doesn't and never has bothered me, had joint accounts from the day we married then a savings and an account each...if my dh asked what was in my personal I would happily tell him and vice versa tho saying that I or him just need to log in and see tbh lol. If you feel secure and trust who your dh is there's no need for secrets and I just realised he must know because if I happen to say I've been and got kids clothes or booked a holiday etc he transfers me several times a month but I don't expect him to and it's just one of those things we are comfortable doing what we do no huge convos needed etc just natural for us to share everything

Doesn't and never has bothered me, had joint accounts from the day we married then a savings and an account each...if my dh asked what was in my personal I would happily tell him and vice versa tho saying that I or him just need to log in and see tbh lol. If you feel secure and trust who your dh is there's no need for secrets and I just realised he must know because if I happen to say I've been and got kids clothes or booked a holiday etc he transfers me several times a month but I don't expect him to and it's just one of those things we are comfortable doing what we do no huge convos needed etc just natural for us to share everything

My husband is a lovely, generous man and I can’t see anything ever going wrong, but I do still have a few k tucked away in a separate isa to all of our shared family finances. It was a savings pot I’ve had all my life, and would be my immediate rainy day fund if something suddenly happened.

I have a friend who asked to separate from her husband and that very day he moved money out of the joint account to somewhere she couldn’t access it. I’ve heard of other women on here who have found they’re married to secret gamblers or husbands who lose everything on bitcoin.

My husband also has a small amount of personal savings which I don’t pry into.

I think it’s normal to allow each other to have financial independence.

So how would that work when you’re family planning, buying a house, planning holidays, weddings etc??

It’s a bit strange not to know whether your partner has 2k or 20k or 200k in savings.

I wouldn’t tell someone I was getting to know but I’d tell someone I was planning a life with.

I’ve never felt the need to keep any secrets from DH or vice versa. We have joint bank accounts, savings and investments and for tax reasons individual accounts. DH has full access to my accounts, passwords, pension funds etc. It’s all been fully discussed throughout our marriage and particularly when we were retirement planning.

Can't abide the term 'partner'. People seem to use it for someone they've been seeing for a matter of weeks these days.

Nothing wrong with keeping your own personal finances a secret as long as you don't mind if your partner hides their finances from you.

Not if you were in a long term
committed relationship/marriage, no. If you don’t trust them enough to share then you should question your relationship.

I couldn’t be with someone who I felt I needed to keep secrets from.