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AIBU to feel annoyed after a friend called me constantly negative?

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 12:31

Would you be annoyed if a friend turned round and just said im
constantly negative? And full of drama? In a horrible way? Yet she’s always got something going on her in life too??? Feeling a bit annoyed :(
or is she right!????

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 18:29

Ok thank you

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Sprinkleofspice · 04/05/2026 17:31

Might be a bit of a wake up call for one or both of you if she says you’re constantly negative but you think she’s even more negative than you. Perhaps a chance to evaluate whether you enable each other, and whether both of your mindsets is really helpful

JLou08 · 04/05/2026 17:30

I think honest feedback from friends is good. It gives you the opportunity to recognise what needs to change and do it. Better than everyone quietly slipping away because you drain them and are completely oblivious to your behaviour and impact on others.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 04/05/2026 17:19

Your posts do always come across as negative and tbh they dont always line up with other things you've posted so you also come across as a bit of an attention seeker.

No idea what you're like in real life but your friend woild know you better than a bunch of randoms off the Internet

FasterMichelin · 04/05/2026 17:10

Maybe you’re not good together. Maybe your negativity is rubbing off on her and she doesn’t like it.

KateBushAgain · 04/05/2026 17:09

TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:53

She’s probably a lot more negative than me that’s the joke

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But that’s her cross to bear, we can’t change other people.
Maybe take a break from this person and prioritise your own wellbeing.

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 04/05/2026 16:59

How on earth can we say without any examples or context? The manner of the OP is very similar to those people who post attention seeking things on social media like "some people just don't know when to stop". Based on that I'd say friend may have a point about drama.

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:54

Pinkdumpling · 04/05/2026 13:18

I think she may be right.

Thanks….

shea probably more negative than me

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KilkennyCats · 04/05/2026 16:54

She knows you well, op…

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:53

KateBushAgain · 04/05/2026 12:56

I think it can become a bit of a habit .
Is this friend someone you offload to and now you’re stuck in a bit of a conversational rut ?
If its more a generalised personality trait I’d recommend a daily gratitude practice.
I believe we attract the energy we put out .
Gratitude can be life changing , look into it .

She’s probably a lot more negative than me that’s the joke

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:52

ohyesido · 04/05/2026 13:49

She may be right but does she have any right to criticise you?

She’s probably more negative than me lol joke

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:52

SunnyRedSnail · 04/05/2026 15:18

Sounds like she has hit a nerve?

Perhaps you are? Most people are unlikely to snap and say such a thing unless its true.

My DH is a very negative person and it can be really draining.

But she’s probably more negative than me?????

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TheOpalFox · 04/05/2026 16:52

Branleuse · 04/05/2026 15:30

Quite a shitty comment from her especially if she let's off steam to you or she seeks support from you about her problems.

Yes this!!!!!

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Branleuse · 04/05/2026 15:30

Quite a shitty comment from her especially if she let's off steam to you or she seeks support from you about her problems.

Ilikewinter · 04/05/2026 15:21

Nothing worse than a 'mood hoover' !

SunnyRedSnail · 04/05/2026 15:18

Sounds like she has hit a nerve?

Perhaps you are? Most people are unlikely to snap and say such a thing unless its true.

My DH is a very negative person and it can be really draining.

BlackBean2023 · 04/05/2026 15:15

Tillow4ever · 04/05/2026 13:45

I recognised your username so did an advanced search. Based on what I found, I would say your friend is correct.

What you do with that is up to you.

This.

ohyesido · 04/05/2026 13:49

She may be right but does she have any right to criticise you?

Tillow4ever · 04/05/2026 13:45

I recognised your username so did an advanced search. Based on what I found, I would say your friend is correct.

What you do with that is up to you.

Pinkdumpling · 04/05/2026 13:18

I think she may be right.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 04/05/2026 13:03

How could we possibly know if she’s right? Chances are there’s something in it, so maybe you should reflect on it.

KateBushAgain · 04/05/2026 12:56

I think it can become a bit of a habit .
Is this friend someone you offload to and now you’re stuck in a bit of a conversational rut ?
If its more a generalised personality trait I’d recommend a daily gratitude practice.
I believe we attract the energy we put out .
Gratitude can be life changing , look into it .

canklesmctacotits · 04/05/2026 12:54

The irony!

BeOpalQuail · 04/05/2026 12:39

Maybe check it out with other people. I have a friend who is really negative. I honestly think she doesn't understand how much she moans and how draining this is.

5128gap · 04/05/2026 12:38

We don't know you so don't know whether she's right. You could:
Ask her for examples and see if they are accurate.
Ask your mum or sister if that sounds like you to them.
Reflect on whether anyone else has ever accused you of similar.