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To think there will be many more disabled adults in 20 years?

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Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 22:04

I’m disabled myself, just to put that out there.

It just seems like the number of people with a disability, usually a psychiatric one, is going through the roof.

40% of disability benefit claimants are claiming for mental health related reasons. The number of anxious children and teens on here, and that I know in my own life and family, is really really high. So many schools refusers and kids in need of extra support, special school placements and so on. It seems there are a lot of unemployed young adults living at home who simply don’t have the mental acuity to get a job, live independently, have a life of their own.

3 children in my family are currently school refusing, one we only found out about today but it was not a surprise as she’s always been very anxious and has selective mutism.

My AIBU is, should we be doing something to prepare for what may be a very high number of adults not working in years to come? How will we sustain them all?

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chaosmaker · 11/05/2026 07:19

The planet is overpopulated with humans, we don't need more people being born but to scale back. How did 'The Matrix' put it? Something about humans being a virus on the planet. True then, true now.
The planet is finite and humans want ever more from it. I think that too many of us also had an impact on MH.

LoremIpsumCici · 10/05/2026 11:24

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:25

Shocking that his wife has disabilities and making posts like that. You can't have ADHD because you can type. Words fail me

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I missed it all, but one of the symptoms of ADHD is oversharing.
This translates into very long, rambling posts with TMI and soul baring.
ADHDers will also do this in verbal conversations as well.

In a professional setting, they’re the ones who go down umpteen side trails, and throw in so many extrarraneous details to the point that the audience and even they can lose sight of the purpose of the presentation.

CostOfLoving · 10/05/2026 10:10

chaosmaker · 08/05/2026 23:28

Diet, environment, ivf and ever earlier intervention with premature births. I think all these are factors. Also biology teaches you that an egg is very selective in which sperm it allows in to fertilise it. Surely made up embryos are not in the resulting foetus' best interest?

IVF doesn't mean "made up embryos" as standard. They usually just put the sperm and eggs in with each other for a chance to fertilise. Basically increasing their chances of meeting, rather than forcing them to!

The injecting of sperm into egg is only done in certain cases (although this is always what they show on TV if IVF is referenced).

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:39

Imagine calling me a pearl clutcher when I said I've lost two people to suicide. Words fail me. They really do. You have NO idea and you are only on here to hurt people. That's clear.

Anyone who would laugh at a post like that needs to have a good look at themselves

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 18:27

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:25

Shocking that his wife has disabilities and making posts like that. You can't have ADHD because you can type. Words fail me

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Some people get their kicks by upsetting other people. I think they are one of them.
It is really sad.

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:26

Just waiting for the words "old school" to be typed

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:25

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 18:24

Calling a post mentioning suicide "diatribe", and also the tone that you did not believe PP has ADHD because she can post more than a few sentences online... is both disgusting and ableist.
Like I said, you should have kept that thought in your head.

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Shocking that his wife has disabilities and making posts like that. You can't have ADHD because you can type. Words fail me

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:24

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:23

Go and pearl clutch somewhere else...

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Off you bore. Unhappy person - and it shows

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 18:24

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:21

I only had a lighthearted poke at the length of the post. I made no comment in any way, shape, or form whatsoever about her unfortunate past. I see the baying mob with pitchforks are out tonight...

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Calling a post mentioning suicide "diatribe", and also the tone that you did not believe PP has ADHD because she can post more than a few sentences online... is both disgusting and ableist.
Like I said, you should have kept that thought in your head.

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:23

If you think I'm a baying mob. Do jog on. Typical response when you've been caught bang to rights laughing at someone who is very vulnerable

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:23

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:22

Don't bother trying to gaslight people. It won't wash

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Go and pearl clutch somewhere else...

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:22

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:21

I only had a lighthearted poke at the length of the post. I made no comment in any way, shape, or form whatsoever about her unfortunate past. I see the baying mob with pitchforks are out tonight...

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Don't bother trying to gaslight people. It won't wash

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:21

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:17

Two members of my family have committed suicide in the last three generations and you are mocking someone who said they tried to kill themselves. I suggest you never respond to me again. You are a very unhappy person that's clear if you think someone trying to end their life is something to mock

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I only had a lighthearted poke at the length of the post. I made no comment in any way, shape, or form whatsoever about her unfortunate past. I see the baying mob with pitchforks are out tonight...

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JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:18

I hope no one you love ever makes a suicide attempt or succeeds. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Keep your nasty spiteful opinion to yourself

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:17

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:13

Double disgusting? Wow, I'm a menace to society...

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Two members of my family have committed suicide in the last three generations and you are mocking someone who said they tried to kill themselves. I suggest you never respond to me again. You are a very unhappy person that's clear if you think someone trying to end their life is something to mock

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 18:15

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:13

Double disgusting? Wow, I'm a menace to society...

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The PP mentioned a nearly successful suicide attempt. If you think that is something to mock, then you really need a new hobby.

ruethewhirl · 09/05/2026 18:14

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 17:32

Not particularly...😂

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You should be thoroughly ashamed of yourself. I sincerely hope the pp you mocked after they shared such sad details of their life knows better than to give your so-called opinions any weight whatsoever.

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 18:13

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:08

Do you think you are funny? How actually dare you. How dare you make posts like that and laugh. You're disgusting. And youre more disgusting because your wife has disabilities

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Double disgusting? Wow, I'm a menace to society...

JollyDenimSeal · 09/05/2026 18:08

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 17:32

Not particularly...😂

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Do you think you are funny? How actually dare you. How dare you make posts like that and laugh. You're disgusting. And youre more disgusting because your wife has disabilities

LoyalMember · 09/05/2026 17:32

ruethewhirl · 09/05/2026 17:29

Was there a particular point to that particular helping of bile, or did you just get out of bed on the wrong side today?

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Not particularly...😂

ruethewhirl · 09/05/2026 17:29

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Was there a particular point to that particular helping of bile, or did you just get out of bed on the wrong side today?

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 16:15

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Wow. Some thoughts should stay in your head, and that was one of them

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suburburban · 09/05/2026 14:54

chaosmaker · 08/05/2026 23:28

Diet, environment, ivf and ever earlier intervention with premature births. I think all these are factors. Also biology teaches you that an egg is very selective in which sperm it allows in to fertilise it. Surely made up embryos are not in the resulting foetus' best interest?

Yes I’ve always wondered about the IVF outcomes

theodextrey · 09/05/2026 00:29

I’ve had a chronic physical illness all my life that comes with depression/anxiety and brain fog and chronic fatigue. I’ve always continued working despite this.

I’ve always loved working but what makes it so miserable is having toxic coworkers or a toxic boss.

People you work with can make or break a job(if you have to work in close quarters or on a team)

Especially for someone already struggling in the first place. I don’t know the solution for this widespread problem.