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AIBU to post solidarity with the Jewish community here?

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RochelleMajerKrich · 03/05/2026 19:16

I deleted my previous account (due to poor mental health) but I’m back.

Solidarity with the Jewish community.

Much love to you all.

I will always support you.

OP posts:
BunfightBetty · 04/05/2026 23:09

cantstartagain · 04/05/2026 22:22

Eh? Who are you? 🤣

I left a comment directed at the OP, why have you twisted it and made it about you. Are you low on attention?

I think if you’re a non-Jew then wearing a pin of the Star of David is performative. Like wearing a Black Lives Matter t-shirt, or leaving a “Free Palestine” comment on a random YouTube video.

It’s done to appease conscience rather than to create substantive, systemic change.

It’s done to appease conscience rather than to create substantive, systemic change.

Well, I wonder about that.

Would the ability to create substantive, systemic change not depend on how many people started wearing them? What prominence they were given, if it was a movement that was reported on, debated, got a high profile, grew...

The marches have had an impact, haven't they? They've contributed to the rise in antisemitism and legitimised antisemitic views, while leaving Jewish people more fearful. Perhaps an attempt to redress the balance could go some way to doing that. I'd like to think so, at any rate.

Perhaps a badge wouldn't be the thing that would do it, but something needs to happen to turn this shit around.

balabusta · 04/05/2026 23:08

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 17:19

Mentioned after OP baited it twice yes.

Why does a genocide have to be the 'worst' genocide to be worth discussing? What an odd standard to measure mass murder by.

No, i was referring to a poster claiming that Gaza was the worst atrocity since the Holocaust.

The demonization of israel as somehow uniquely evil is both driven by and a contributor to anti semitism.

Obviously that poster, like many others, relies on social media as the sole source of their knowledge.

cantstartagain · 04/05/2026 22:22

drspouse · 03/05/2026 20:58

Well, I could have stopped working with my Israeli colleague but I don't. It could impact who else is prepared to have me work with them.
Is that performative or is that about my livelihood? Or is it just a very very small gesture of solidarity with a friend.

Eh? Who are you? 🤣

I left a comment directed at the OP, why have you twisted it and made it about you. Are you low on attention?

I think if you’re a non-Jew then wearing a pin of the Star of David is performative. Like wearing a Black Lives Matter t-shirt, or leaving a “Free Palestine” comment on a random YouTube video.

It’s done to appease conscience rather than to create substantive, systemic change.

AcquadiP · 04/05/2026 19:19

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:22

It's really breathtaking.

Sure, Jews have generally been treated well in the UK (second time around at least). Yet the British government only allowed children on the kinder transports in 1938 - their parents were deemed to be too Jewish and were abandoned to their fate, mostly murdered.

And the winds can always change in the UK too. We see it happening.

I think it's important to add that an estimated 70 - 80, 000 Jewish refugees arrived in GB prior to the start of WW2 in 1939; and a further estimated 10,000 arrived during the war.

I agree that anti-Semitism was a factor in the decision to stop refugees. But it wasn't the only one. Once the war began, the Government's view was that arrivals from a Nazi-occupied country were potential spies or enemies. There was also grave concern as to whether there would be sufficient future food supplies to feed the existing population and my Grandparents lived through rationing and shortages of various food types throughout the war. The future food supply concern was such that the government issued a pamphlet to pet owners at the beginning of the war advising them to euthanise their pets as feeding them would become unsustainable. An estimated 750,000 cats and dogs were put to sleep as a consequence.

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 17:19

balabusta · 04/05/2026 15:30

And the idea that Gaza (so yes it has indeed been mentioned) is the worst atrocity since the Holocaust. The partition of india, the Pakistani genocide in Bangladesh, the Indonesian genocide in East Timor and West Papua,.Sri Lankan genocide, Russia in Chechnya, Rwandan genocide, Khmer Rouge in Cambodia, Sudan,.DRC, Biafra civil war, Syria, Iraq, Rohingya genocide, Balkan civil war etc etc (sadly plenty more). But no THIS is the worst....
Perhaps the pp needs to read about history and not jsut get information from social media.

Mentioned after OP baited it twice yes.

Why does a genocide have to be the 'worst' genocide to be worth discussing? What an odd standard to measure mass murder by.

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 17:18

ShockingBritain · 04/05/2026 15:34

Indeed they are.

Thanks @RochelleMajerKrich for a thread supporting the Jewish community.

Could you link me to a thread set up to bash Jewish people? I'm struggling to find one.

CoffeeCantata · 04/05/2026 16:13

HermioneWeasley · 03/05/2026 19:41

Agree, solidarity with our Jewish community, always but especially now.

Me too.

SeriousTissues · 04/05/2026 15:45

Much love to the Jewish community x

ShockingBritain · 04/05/2026 15:34

BlakeCarrington · 03/05/2026 20:50

In contrast, threads bashing Jewish people are a dime a dozen, so how great to have one reassuring them how loved they are 🥰

Indeed they are.

Thanks @RochelleMajerKrich for a thread supporting the Jewish community.

ShockingBritain · 04/05/2026 15:33

Davros · 03/05/2026 19:31

Oh no, I pressed YABU by mistake

You can change it. Just click on preferred answer and it changes

ShockingBritain · 04/05/2026 15:31

SpecialAgentMaggieBell · 03/05/2026 19:19

Who TF voted that you were being U? Confused

There are antisemites everywhere, including on MN. You should see some of the posts regarding conflict, appalling comments.

balabusta · 04/05/2026 15:30

BunfightBetty · 04/05/2026 11:11

Wow, if you really genuinely believe that people recognise Polanski as being antisemitic because he ‘disagrees on Gaza’, you really need to inform yourself much more of what he’s doing, saying, allowing and encouraging within his party.

I’m not going to derail this thread by detailing it here, but you will find other current threads where you can be informed - if you want to be.

And the idea that Gaza (so yes it has indeed been mentioned) is the worst atrocity since the Holocaust. The partition of india, the Pakistani genocide in Bangladesh, the Indonesian genocide in East Timor and West Papua,.Sri Lankan genocide, Russia in Chechnya, Rwandan genocide, Khmer Rouge in Cambodia, Sudan,.DRC, Biafra civil war, Syria, Iraq, Rohingya genocide, Balkan civil war etc etc (sadly plenty more). But no THIS is the worst....
Perhaps the pp needs to read about history and not jsut get information from social media.

DoraTheExplorer9 · 04/05/2026 11:52

RochelleMajerKrich · 03/05/2026 19:45

😭

I want to stand with the Jewish community..my heart is hurting when I think of what they’re going through

I want to set an example but I don’t want to ‘culture appropriate’ which makes me wonder if wearing those pins my husband ordered might be offensive

it’s so hard to know what’s right

at the end of the day we both just want to let Jewish people know that you are no alone

we stand with you

and we hate all the whataboutery which always raises its face when it comes to antisemitism

So so much love to the Jewish community here and abroad

❤️❤️❤️

I know I can’t speak for all Jews but I would never view your wearing of a Star of David as cultural appropriation. It’s a truly heartwarming gesture so thank you!

BunfightBetty · 04/05/2026 11:11

PoorEileen · 04/05/2026 10:28

as pointed upthread i had a practising Jewish grandmother, my mother and I have a Jewish surname but are atheist. My grandmother was Eastern European.
I actually think this thread and I await this comment to be removed, is disingenuous and actually a bath faith post wanting to target Zack Polanski.
I am politically homeless, have no skin in the game but the fact he is being called antisemetic for standing up for his beliefs regarding Gaza is insane. Why don’t people understand that opposing Zionism isn’t an issue with Jewish people?! Why can’t we oppose the death of Muslims in what is a live streamed genocide? Israel’s government have literally murdered premature babies. Hamas are evil. They do not represent Muslims. We know this. So why does Israels government who are complicit in evil represent Jews?! The things that if you fact check on independent sources the idf have done are some of the worst things I’ve heard of since the holocaust. Are you saying every member of the Jewish community who oppose this, of which there are 1000s, many who have and will continue to protest, are also antisemetic? The images the media are posting of Polanski which I would post but find abhorrent, are so racist I am glad my grandmother won’t see them. They’re some of the worst imagery of belittling features belonging to a Jewish person I have seen.
Once again, not a green supporter, no skin in the game but it’s madness how the only Jewish person leading a political party with a chance of getting in is being slated for antisemitism. Bullshit. Do you know what’s antisemitism? Young men trapped in the mansosphere thinking “Jews run the world and they’re the illuminati”. It’s denying the holocaust. It’s making Jewish people fear to leave their homes because someone wants to harm them for being Jewish. It’s little thugs who wear Norwegian black metal t shirts that read “support your local gestapo captain” in Norwegian looking at you funny inside a pub because one you went to school with tells his thug friend your surname is Cohen and they’re staring you out and laughing as they walk past you. By not allowing criticism of Israel, or pissing all over the only Jewish leader we have labelling him antisemitic that is actually eating into the disgusting stereotype of “self hating Jew”, this does not help anyone.
We should despise racism in all its forms and not make allowances for it simply because you dislike the Jewish person it’s being aimed towards. My Jewish aunt and uncle are the most conservative people I have ever met and Polanski’s politics would send their heads spinning, but I very much doubt they’d label him an antisemite because he disagrees with their stance on Gaza. Because to my family, antisemitism means something and isn’t a word we chuck around
to score points.
Of course this will likely be jumped on, removed of I’ll have backlash. But I am sick of disingenuous posts giving support to a community I’m a hell of a lot more able to have a say on than plenty others who do, when all it really is bad faith posting to dig at a Jewish man or support Isreal. You don’t care about the way Jewish people feel when a Jewish woman earlier up thread said we should be allowed to criticise the actions of a government without it watering down the genuine meaning of antisemitism.
I remember my grandma trying to teach me Hebrew, turns out I can barely speak English, I remember her cooking beautiful Jewish dishes her mother taught her, I remember her telling me that being evacuated to a boring place with no handsome men when her friends were all meeting soilders was heartbreaking for her. I will remember her stories of rations and telling me that when children in the street had a birthday, other families donated butter and eggs so each child in the street could have a slice of cake. She was my idol and I miss her and her stories but I am relieved that she hasn’t had to live through fear of antisemitism but also the pretence that is solidarity which is and clearly always was a reason to slate a Jewish person.

Wow, if you really genuinely believe that people recognise Polanski as being antisemitic because he ‘disagrees on Gaza’, you really need to inform yourself much more of what he’s doing, saying, allowing and encouraging within his party.

I’m not going to derail this thread by detailing it here, but you will find other current threads where you can be informed - if you want to be.

Bikenutz · 04/05/2026 11:02

I can’t speak to @RochelleMajerKrich’s motivation for starting this thread but the victims of the attack in Golders Green and the wider circle of people who it affects are on my mind. There are more pressing concerns around things like personal safety.

balabusta · 04/05/2026 10:54

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:30

So…if it wasn’t mentioned here - the OP (and you seemingly) are jus desperate for an argument that no one else wanted.

They supposedly just wanted to express their solidarity with Jewish people. Which for the most part was supported and sympathised with in the comments. With one poster noting that it felt performative (which is fine, people can have opinions can’t they).

To say “oh someone is going to bring up Gaza soon” when no one has, and then multiple comments later to say the same thing is just bizarre. Maybe someone will, maybe they won’t. But as things stood they hadn’t, so why try and derail your own thread which was supposedly only designed to show your support for a group of people having a tough time.

So the poster who was complaining that antisemtiism is being weaponised to stop protests was referring to which protests exactly? Trans rights?

PoorEileen · 04/05/2026 10:28

as pointed upthread i had a practising Jewish grandmother, my mother and I have a Jewish surname but are atheist. My grandmother was Eastern European.
I actually think this thread and I await this comment to be removed, is disingenuous and actually a bath faith post wanting to target Zack Polanski.
I am politically homeless, have no skin in the game but the fact he is being called antisemetic for standing up for his beliefs regarding Gaza is insane. Why don’t people understand that opposing Zionism isn’t an issue with Jewish people?! Why can’t we oppose the death of Muslims in what is a live streamed genocide? Israel’s government have literally murdered premature babies. Hamas are evil. They do not represent Muslims. We know this. So why does Israels government who are complicit in evil represent Jews?! The things that if you fact check on independent sources the idf have done are some of the worst things I’ve heard of since the holocaust. Are you saying every member of the Jewish community who oppose this, of which there are 1000s, many who have and will continue to protest, are also antisemetic? The images the media are posting of Polanski which I would post but find abhorrent, are so racist I am glad my grandmother won’t see them. They’re some of the worst imagery of belittling features belonging to a Jewish person I have seen.
Once again, not a green supporter, no skin in the game but it’s madness how the only Jewish person leading a political party with a chance of getting in is being slated for antisemitism. Bullshit. Do you know what’s antisemitism? Young men trapped in the mansosphere thinking “Jews run the world and they’re the illuminati”. It’s denying the holocaust. It’s making Jewish people fear to leave their homes because someone wants to harm them for being Jewish. It’s little thugs who wear Norwegian black metal t shirts that read “support your local gestapo captain” in Norwegian looking at you funny inside a pub because one you went to school with tells his thug friend your surname is Cohen and they’re staring you out and laughing as they walk past you. By not allowing criticism of Israel, or pissing all over the only Jewish leader we have labelling him antisemitic that is actually eating into the disgusting stereotype of “self hating Jew”, this does not help anyone.
We should despise racism in all its forms and not make allowances for it simply because you dislike the Jewish person it’s being aimed towards. My Jewish aunt and uncle are the most conservative people I have ever met and Polanski’s politics would send their heads spinning, but I very much doubt they’d label him an antisemite because he disagrees with their stance on Gaza. Because to my family, antisemitism means something and isn’t a word we chuck around
to score points.
Of course this will likely be jumped on, removed of I’ll have backlash. But I am sick of disingenuous posts giving support to a community I’m a hell of a lot more able to have a say on than plenty others who do, when all it really is bad faith posting to dig at a Jewish man or support Isreal. You don’t care about the way Jewish people feel when a Jewish woman earlier up thread said we should be allowed to criticise the actions of a government without it watering down the genuine meaning of antisemitism.
I remember my grandma trying to teach me Hebrew, turns out I can barely speak English, I remember her cooking beautiful Jewish dishes her mother taught her, I remember her telling me that being evacuated to a boring place with no handsome men when her friends were all meeting soilders was heartbreaking for her. I will remember her stories of rations and telling me that when children in the street had a birthday, other families donated butter and eggs so each child in the street could have a slice of cake. She was my idol and I miss her and her stories but I am relieved that she hasn’t had to live through fear of antisemitism but also the pretence that is solidarity which is and clearly always was a reason to slate a Jewish person.

Bikenutz · 04/05/2026 09:48

Sorry @beethecrackon24995 if I’ve made things worse. I am frustrated with the ignorance that these kinds of threads attract, whilst appreciating the kind sentiment of the majority.

beethecrackon24995 · 04/05/2026 08:41

OP whilst I appreciate the sentiment as it us lovely, I hate posts like this as they always bring out the jew hating MN brigade and also, end up about Israel

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:35

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:28

Israel isn't an "ethno religious state".
But fair enough that if you oppsoe the existence of any nation state with any national or religious identity then, yes, youre consistent as i said

If you believe only Jews are not allowed self determination then yes you're anti semitic

Oh good, well we agree then. You can be one without the other - as long as you’re consistent with your views.

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:30

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:24

So? It was inferred here (antisemitism has been weaponsied to stop protest....protesting what exactly?) and its been said (multiple times) elsewhere to try to explain away and dismiss antisemitism

So…if it wasn’t mentioned here - the OP (and you seemingly) are jus desperate for an argument that no one else wanted.

They supposedly just wanted to express their solidarity with Jewish people. Which for the most part was supported and sympathised with in the comments. With one poster noting that it felt performative (which is fine, people can have opinions can’t they).

To say “oh someone is going to bring up Gaza soon” when no one has, and then multiple comments later to say the same thing is just bizarre. Maybe someone will, maybe they won’t. But as things stood they hadn’t, so why try and derail your own thread which was supposedly only designed to show your support for a group of people having a tough time.

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:28

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:19

You asked how someone can be anti Zionist without being antisemitic, and I answered that question. Explaining the distinction isn’t the same thing as giving my own view on Zionism.

A person could (for example) oppose all ethno religious nation states consistently, or oppose nationalism generally, without harbouring prejudice against Jewish people. Whether you agree with that position is separate from whether it is antisemitic

Israel isn't an "ethno religious state".
But fair enough that if you oppsoe the existence of any nation state with any national or religious identity then, yes, youre consistent as i said

If you believe only Jews are not allowed self determination then yes you're anti semitic

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:24

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:20

No one here had said that - despite the OP desperately hoping they would. Twice.

Perhaps that is the thought of “a lot of commentators”. But that doesn’t mean those are the views of everyone and certainly no one here has expressed those views. If the OP wanted that conversation (again) they should have started a different thread.

Edited

So? It was inferred here (antisemitism has been weaponsied to stop protest....protesting what exactly?) and its been said (multiple times) elsewhere to try to explain away and dismiss antisemitism

balabusta · 04/05/2026 08:22

Dilbertian · 04/05/2026 07:41

… if we think the only way Jews can be safe is we send them all off to live separately from the rest of us!

Patronising, much? Zionisim is also the belief that Jews have the agency to make their own choices about where they live. A Jew can choose to live in Israel or to live in any other country. You don’t get to send us anywhere, not even in the name of ‘safety’.

I’m sure you meant well, but think about your statement in the context of Jewish history: for 2000 years we have been repeatedly ‘sent away’ ie thrown out of countries where we were established, law-abiding, communities.

We will not be sent away any longer. Like any other citizens - we will choose for ourselves.

It's really breathtaking.

Sure, Jews have generally been treated well in the UK (second time around at least). Yet the British government only allowed children on the kinder transports in 1938 - their parents were deemed to be too Jewish and were abandoned to their fate, mostly murdered.

And the winds can always change in the UK too. We see it happening.

HobGobblynne · 04/05/2026 08:20

balabusta · 04/05/2026 05:33

Yeah, because no one has said that the rise in antisemitism is all because of Gaza.
And it's all Israel's fault actually because they say they represent Jews.

For a lot of commentators, supporting the Jewish community is somehow conditional on them distancing themselves from Israel. There are good Jews (usually one with one Jewish grandparent who rediscovered their judaism in order to declare themselves anti zionist) and bad Jews (the ones deserving of antisemitism).

No one here had said that - despite the OP desperately hoping they would. Twice.

Perhaps that is the thought of “a lot of commentators”. But that doesn’t mean those are the views of everyone and certainly no one here has expressed those views. If the OP wanted that conversation (again) they should have started a different thread.

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