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Crush on child's teacher - AIBU to even think about it?

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TernPixel05 · 03/05/2026 18:31

I think I’ve developed a bit of a crush on my child’s primary school teacher. We get on really well, but I’m assuming this is just them being friendly/professional.

I wouldn’t act on anything while my child is in their class, but AIBU to wonder if something could be possible once they’ve moved to a different class? Or is it only appropriate once they’ve left the school entirely?

Has anyone ever been in a similar position?

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MyLimeGuide · 09/05/2026 11:36

Dexternight · 03/05/2026 18:44

Grow up

Why? I assume they are both adults therefore there is nothing wrong with having a crush in the slightest. Makes life more fun IMO 😍

EvelynHugo12 · 09/05/2026 11:34

Oh no don’t be that guy. There are other guys/girls out there.

WombatStewForTea · 09/05/2026 11:24

Dontbeconspicuous · 04/05/2026 00:43

“Everyone involved” - surely there were only two people involved? The teacher and parent. I assume there was no audience to the request for a date. No more awkward than any other asking-out situation then.

Fwiw I think it’s inappropriate and v unlikely that the teacher returns the op’s feelings.

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Oh no there was an audience. The parent asked at pick up infront of some other parents and staff

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/05/2026 01:42

Dontbeconspicuous · 04/05/2026 00:43

“Everyone involved” - surely there were only two people involved? The teacher and parent. I assume there was no audience to the request for a date. No more awkward than any other asking-out situation then.

Fwiw I think it’s inappropriate and v unlikely that the teacher returns the op’s feelings.

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If a client asked me out, as a SW, another public servant, I would advise my supervisor. I would also advise coworkers if I felt harassed in any way, or like I needed to distance.

There’s no indication from the OP about the sexes involved, but I’ve been sexually harassed by clients for about three decades now and I’ve never either acted on it or kept it secret.

Dontbeconspicuous · 04/05/2026 00:43

WombatStewForTea · 03/05/2026 18:44

We had a parent ask out a member of staff after his child left her class...it was awkward for everyone involved

“Everyone involved” - surely there were only two people involved? The teacher and parent. I assume there was no audience to the request for a date. No more awkward than any other asking-out situation then.

Fwiw I think it’s inappropriate and v unlikely that the teacher returns the op’s feelings.

cadburyegg · 04/05/2026 00:28

Haha yabu. I’m a single mum and as much as I like the look of a couple of teachers at the school I’d never do anything about it!

Hatty65 · 03/05/2026 21:34

I've taught with lots of lovely young male teachers who have had single Mums develop crushes on them. It's so common and I have never, ever seen it reciprocated.

It's not a Hallmark film. The teacher is kind and empathetic with your child, but it is a professional relationship, not a personal one with you.

wafflesmgee · 03/05/2026 21:32

No

Dexternight · 03/05/2026 21:28

Additup · 03/05/2026 19:12

A bit harsh. You can't help who you fancy.

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But you can have boundaries, morals, and respect.

Pearlstillsinging · 03/05/2026 20:39

Good Lord, No!
As a former teacher, I can tell you that it isn't an unusual scenario but people can make themselves look very silly acting upon imagined reciprocity. School have policies about professional behaviour.
Just imagine if you did start a relationship with your child's teacher and it didn't work out, how would you, your child and the teacher feel then?

fundamentallyauthentic · 03/05/2026 20:29

I would love to know if you feel anything on his part. If you do, then ask him out, but only when your child moves to a different class.

cariadlet · 03/05/2026 19:52

We had a young male teacher at the school where I teach. It was clear that some of the mums fancied him. The poor bloke found it very embarrassing.

It's ok to have a crush on your child's teacher. Nobody can help their feelings. But please don't act on it.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/05/2026 19:51

Don’t shit on your own doorstep - it’s good advice

101Alsatians · 03/05/2026 19:48

I have a crush on one of DSs teachers.

He is SO good with DS and means so much to him, wouldn't dream of interfering with that even if it was reciprocated.

Office romances are one thing, school is NOT the place to fuck about IMO.

MrsPinkSky · 03/05/2026 19:35

Giraffapuses · 03/05/2026 19:23

I absolutely would. Connection is rare. Teachers are people too. He might like you. Maybe ask if they'd like to go for a coffee. Life is short. Joy is worth it. They can always say no.

Not a single thought for the OP's DC there.

GroovyChick87 · 03/05/2026 19:30

Giraffapuses · 03/05/2026 19:23

I absolutely would. Connection is rare. Teachers are people too. He might like you. Maybe ask if they'd like to go for a coffee. Life is short. Joy is worth it. They can always say no.

OP doesn't know anything about this teacher beyond what she sees in a professional context. He/ she might be married or dating, a different sexuality to what is assumed. Imagine being rejected and having to see that teacher for the rest of their child's school career. Even if the teacher wanted to there's probably policies about this sort of thing and they won't want to risk their job. No one is that desperate that they pin hopes on one person.

Giraffapuses · 03/05/2026 19:23

I absolutely would. Connection is rare. Teachers are people too. He might like you. Maybe ask if they'd like to go for a coffee. Life is short. Joy is worth it. They can always say no.

GroovyChick87 · 03/05/2026 19:21

Absolutely not. If they are professional at all, they won't entertain the idea. Do you know if they are even single or have any reason to assume they fancy you too? Some crushes are best left as a crush. It's not appropriate to ask out every person you may be attracted to.

darksideofthetoon · 03/05/2026 19:19

On the scale of bad ideas, this is probably a solid 7 with 10 being a complete no no.

MermaidsSideEye · 03/05/2026 19:18

Under no circumstances.

SoGoodToSeeYou · 03/05/2026 19:17

Why are you using they to hide their sex?

Anyway, ‘they’ are at work doing their job. Leave them alone.

mikado1 · 03/05/2026 19:17

Completely different scenario but a teacher friend of mine met a guy one evening and he asked her out - she wasn't interested. Then he turned up as a married dad at parents' night the following week 😳

outerspacepotato · 03/05/2026 19:15

Don't shit where your child goes to school.

MrsPinkSky · 03/05/2026 19:14

We get on really well, but I’m assuming this is just them being friendly/professional.

And yet you've made it clear you don't really assume this at all?

Additup · 03/05/2026 19:12

Dexternight · 03/05/2026 18:44

Grow up

A bit harsh. You can't help who you fancy.