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weddingdilemma2026 · 03/05/2026 17:18

We have been invited to a wedding of a friend. The invite requests “money towards a honeymoon instead of a present” we have no idea how much to give. Don’t want to look flash and potentially give more than close relatives but then again don’t want to look miserly.
If you were invited what would you suggest is a reasonable amount? The wedding isn’t for a few months so the amount isn’t a problem.
It is also local so no additional spending needed to travel or stay away.

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Hiddeninthetrees · 03/05/2026 17:45

Savvysix1984 · 03/05/2026 17:42

Minimum £75 per person invited, unless close family then minimum £100

Per person? That seems excessive.

Savvysix1984 · 03/05/2026 17:42

Minimum £75 per person invited, unless close family then minimum £100

Hiddeninthetrees · 03/05/2026 17:39

£50-100 depending on how close you are.

Alittlefrustrated · 03/05/2026 17:36

£100 if you can afford to. £50,if more of an acquaintance than a friend, is acceptable.

Tink3rbell30 · 03/05/2026 17:30

Eww outright asking to pocket people's money 🤢 it doesn't matter what you give to be honest, they'll still make a fortune.

StandOutSpace · 03/05/2026 17:28

£100 i would say x

Doseofreality · 03/05/2026 17:26

I’d give them a John Lewis voucher and give no fucks about it. A wedding isn’t a fundraising event for a holiday.

darksideofthetoon · 03/05/2026 17:26

£100 is a reasonable round number assuming you’re ok financially. If very close to the couple, maybe double it. I have seen £1K given if person is incredibly well off.

But anything is fine so long as it fits your personal finances.

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 03/05/2026 17:25

How close? Someone you work with and invited to the evening do £50, a proper friend and there the whole day £100/150.

TigerRag · 03/05/2026 17:23

What can you afford?

VanGoSunflowers · 03/05/2026 17:22

How close are you to them?

5foot5 · 03/05/2026 17:21

When we were in this position it was for a relative ( a DN). We gave £100 per guest, i.e. three of us in our family going so gave £300. This was about 3 or 4 years ago.

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 03/05/2026 17:19

£100?

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