To be sceptical about the reasons a carer wants to adopt my adult disabled brother?

He could end up with no carer at all if you complain . What are you basing your views of this lady on ? Is it something that your brother has said . If he is happy and cared for then that's the most important thing surely or would you be happy with him living with you ! He could end up in a care home or in a single room .

I really don't think that's something you need to worry about. She is in a position of trust with a person that lacks capacity. Any improper relationship would see her removed as a shared lives carer and your brother removed under safeguarding / her potentially prosecuted.

my sibling lives in supported accommodation and has carers 5 times a day. They are a wheelchair user and severely mentally and physically disabled. I have full LPA and am involved in their lives on a daily occurrence (remotely) but it pays for peace of mind.

Your brother is deemed to have capacity, you should all apply for full lasting power of attorney asap.

Not everywhere that offers assisted living for people with the same challenges as your brother is an ‘institution’. I don’t know where in the country you are, but there are charities like SJOG UK that have options that are absolutely focused on the person and their wellbeing, and they live in normal houses in residential areas, with staff who get to know them properly, help them explore their interests, etc.

So if there isn’t a Shared Lives alternative to this current carer, there may yet be other options to explore. And not all look like being warehoused away from the general population in a psychiatric unit. But with my safeguarding hat on, unless your brother has misreported what she said, I would have concerns and would escalate.

You can't adopt an adult. If he lacks capacity I would suggest you apply for deputyship for health welfare and finance. You would then be able to make decisions in his best interests providing he lacks capacity. She won't be able to do that as would be a conflict of interests.

The caring allowance is the £600. The allowance I get is under £400. It's different depending on where you live.

Yes I do get paid for caring for 3 late teens with learning disabilities I care for. All cooking meals, washing laundry, changing bedding, reminding them to shower, setting out clean clothes for them to wear each day, driving them to all appointments and accompanying them to all UC appointments, dentist, GP appointments, as well as driving them to football training and matches as they all play for disability teams, cricket training and they play for different teams so 3 lots of driving to and from matches to and fro. Taking them to see family and former foster carers and collecting them after. Things most teens can manage alone like catching a bus or getting their hair cut these people can't do unless accompanied so it's a lot of commitment. On top all admin for them so all have a spreadsheet of their pip and UC finances. Shared Lives determin how much of their UC they pay for their room and food but they pay £26.07 per week for all food etc. less than £4 per day each. I spend a lot more than that on their meals. They have a home cooked meals almost every day but I do occasionally treat them to a takeaway.

@EasyEVwhen you say your brother is ‘deemed to have capacity’, it doesn’t really work like that. Capacity is decision specific. A person can have capacity for some things and not others.

He also surely gets an allowance though ?
So she could be taking that also on top of her 600 ?

I guess that is slightly more reassuring, although terrible things can still happen to people who have unnanounced social worker visits or commissioner visits.

Presumably you also get paid though? Caring for a disabled adult in your own home might also come with additional financial protections, e.g. in Universal Credit, not being subject to a bedroom tax if you rent etc. You might be scrupulous in your accounting of their PIP etc, but others might not be. It's not hard to see how, if someone is a bad actor, they can exploit a disabled person financially. It's rare, but obviously not impossible.

The person who had me fooled over the care and exploitation of disabled person, in the end it turned out she actually saw her position as quite cushy, even for the modest financial gain because she provided such a basic, low effort version of "care" doing whatever she wanted to do basically. It was horrible when it unfolded.

All Shared Lives Carers have both planned and unannounced visits where the SW speaks with the person receiving care privately as well as speaks with the carer. A visit happens roughly every 8-12 weeks but the person being cared for might also see SW in-between too.

For thos saying the brother gets benefits and th carer wants those. I'm a Shared Life Carer and every penny her brother spends has to be accounted for. I keep a spreadsheet for the 3 people with learning disabilities I care for. I put in what they withdraw from cash till then they keep receipts to show what they spent money on. The money from PIP goes into their own bank accounts and I do this in case I am audited. They decide how to spend their own money but as their a pointer I occasionally point out to them if something they want looks very expensive or I think they can get same item cheaper elsewhere.

One sister and the other carers who had safeguarding concerns about her.

Do you live in the UK? There are supported living houses where your brother could live with people with learning disabilities. Its a really good service and you still get to spend time with your brother as you do now. Unfortunately I dont have a good feeling about this woman's motives. It sounds like shes doing it for the money and if shes already cut one sister off, it wont be long before she cuts all his family off.

Sorry, I kniw you have legitimate concerns about him moving but she sounds dodgy AF.

Have she had any unannounced visits? Have you seen inside her home??

Would the other carers who put in a safeguarding complaint about her have him back?

I see exactly why you’re hesitating, OP, but I do also think she sounds dangerous.

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But then he might end up being moved miles away, or put in a care home, or in a shared house with carers popping in.
It's not like ending this placement will definitely result in something better.

You can’t apply for an LPof A. Your brother has to give you LPofA (he would have to sign, with someone providing a certificate to say he has capacity to make this decision). If your brother lacks capacity to make decisions about care, accommodation, health care, money, property you can apply for Deputyship at the Court of Protection.

Raise your concerns with the organisation again and again (if and when you have them, with evidence, within a well put together letter). And that’s it. You’re not able to take on his care, she isn’t able to adopt him. Hopefully she will be removed and replaced, but you don’t want to cause something to be done in an emergency resulting in a rushed forward plan such as a care facility that isn’t ideal. Pass on your concerns, show that you are present in his life so they don’t ignore, and let them deal with it.

As PP have said, you cannot apply for LPA. Your brother would have to do that. You could of course give him the forms, but he would need to understand what the forms mean, and sign them. It sounds like he cannot do that, so you need to apply for a deputyship.

I realise you don't want to rock the boat because your brother seems to be happy, and it would be hard to find another carer. But this carer sounds completely unsuitable.

I nearly fell for it completely once.