AIBU to not want them to drop in randomly to watch trains?

Really? Would you be happy with people just randomly dropping in? I know I wouldn't.

Mom is making her life easier by making yours stressful. You have to be firmer. Tell mom next time she arrives unannounced you will not answer the door and give her an alternative location to watch the trains. You’re not the bad guy.

The OP says she's autistic and so is the kid and it's a social communication issue and autism is clearly relevant.
Why on earth are so many people dismissive when people talk about autism or autistic people have a communication struggle with someone?
How the fck would you know what is and isn't to do with her autism if she thinks it is

Autism has nothing to do with it, a parent thinks their child is entitled to turn up when they feel like and the OP can say no

the friend with a child is unreasonable whether the child has autism or not and the op can say no whether they have autism or not

autism is not the centre of this a sense of entitlement is

You are not being unreasonable at all.

Oh how silly! I did not look at the interests of my
friend’s children before buying my house and I highly doubt you did either!

I would hate this and have to tell my friend to find somewhere else to trainspot.

Apologies if I've missed it, but how often are they popping in?

Autistic or not autistic, it's a bit cheeky to think you can keep knocking on someone's door to sit in their house just to watch trains go by.

How often do friends visit each other generally, once a week? Once a month? She's not even popping in to visit you, she's turning up to use your home. That's not OK by anyone's standards. I care about my friends, but if they kept turning up all the time, I'd be sick of the sight of them! 😁

Presumably whatever your doing, sitting watching TV, hoovering, changing the bed, wiping down the bathroom, cooking, you're having to stop what you're doing to entertain them.

It's ok to tell her it's not always convenient, and mean it. She's cheeky. You're not in the wrong here.

Yanbu. I've recently moved to a village which has a farm used by children with mild autism...I had a friend message me ..I'll come and spend the afternoon at yours...I'm working and not at home...if it works for you and you want to host good but every single week .no yanbu. In my case I never messaged back and tbh I'm out until 6pm ...

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Can you?

Sure you did 😄

Can you let the matter lie now?! For all our sakes!

I left that out of the quote because it doesn’t relate to the discussion

Dont be ridiculous.

You don’t have to reply to me but just telling me to let the thread move on isn’t helping. I was defending another poster you had ripped into.

If you want people to let it go, then you need to stop coming back on every comment

'Especially as you keep coming back at people' you left that bit out of your quote

You seem like you want to fight me, i am now quivering behind my phone screen 'hun' 😭😭

The matter has died, please allow the thread to move on and stop 😩

And where did I claim to know what you were thinking?

I said ‘I would think you would understand that ND people don’t ’let things go’ like that,’

If you are going to have a dig at me then fine. But be accurate, okay hun?

‘Obsessive harassment’ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is a public chat forum. You have sniped at everyone who has addressed you. You know you were in the wrong so just walk away.

Lord knows what's going on with the replies on your thread @FlatPat . As she's ignored your request to get in touch first and not just turn up at your home, the next step is to say 'I'm afraid I can't invite you in. This is why I asked you not to turn up without arranging it first. Another time maybe, when we've agreed to meet up'.

Its not your call what I do either @LiviaDrusillaAugusta

And you claiming to know how I am thinking is nonsense - I will defend myself against your obsessive harassment as much as i feel the need to

That’s not your call though. I would think you would understand that ND people don’t ’let things go’ like that, especially as you keep coming back at people. If you want people to let it go, then I suggest you do it first.

Well I am audhd and i am a sen mum and I find the number of threads bashing autistic people under the guise of innocent questions appalling.

I thought we let this matter lie yesterday, its time to let it go.

You can’t post comments like you did without expecting pushback though. I am AuDHD and found your comments very offensive, as did a lot of people. The irony in claiming to defend ND by having a pop at someone with autism is not lost.

And as far as I know there’s isn’t a time limit for replying.

Please go and overexplain to someone else, I am fully capable of understanding life for autistic people thank you very much.

Coming and contributing utter patronisation, days later, is not as helpful or constructive as you may think.

The question was answered, move on.

Which is exactly what you just did. Aren't you a little ray of sunshine?! Op is autistic. This is exactly the kind of nuanced judgement they will be inclined to overthink. It completely throws me if something I'm not expecting happens. However crippling rejection sensitivity dysphoria will prevent me saying anything. But thanks for your constructive contribution.

YANU, it's not fair to just drop in....