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Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

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Ilostallthepens · 03/05/2026 10:34

If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

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CostanzaG · 03/05/2026 11:04

Nope none of my business.
Life is for living 🤷‍♀️

Bellabelloo · 03/05/2026 11:01

No. I would see that number as quite normal if you spent a good few years enjoying yourself. Obviously if they were racking up notches on their bed post when married or in committed relationships and hurting people I would judge that!

MermaidsSideEye · 03/05/2026 11:00

JacquesHarlow · 03/05/2026 10:52

What's your opinion @Ilostallthepens ? What's your view on this topic?!

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Yes, why not tell us where you stand on this, OP? Otherwise we’ll just file you under ‘lazy journalist’,

gemini0606 · 03/05/2026 11:00

Nope couldn’t care less

kscarpetta · 03/05/2026 10:59

Not sure why I'd care or how I'd find out how many sexual partners another woman has 😂

But no, I wouldn't judge.

HoppingPavlova · 03/05/2026 10:59

Yep, I’d be judging them. But I would also judge men exactly the same in this scenario.

CherryViper · 03/05/2026 10:58

No, not at all

DoAWheelie · 03/05/2026 10:58

No judgement here. Life is for living and we only get one. As long as you are not hurting anyone then you should be free to enjoy the fleeting time we have as you see fit.

Fraughtmum · 03/05/2026 10:57

No. I am one of them 😅

Sprinkleofspice · 03/05/2026 10:57

It sounds quite high to me but I wouldn’t judge them because that’s just my opinion. I’ve mainly been in relationships but if I was single for years maybe I’d get to that number.

But I did once know someone who told me she’d been broken up with and she wanted to sleep with lots of men. She said she stopped when she got to 100 in less than a year. I was surprised about the number and felt that was probably not very healthy because she didn’t seem very pleased about having done it

Lovecats173694 · 03/05/2026 10:55

No. If I was having a relationship with someone all I care about is that they treated their sexual partners with respect and that they had a clean STI test. That’s it.

GardenCovent · 03/05/2026 10:54

I don’t know how I would know the number of someone else’s sexual partners.

CatamaranViper · 03/05/2026 10:53

I mean, neither DH or I can remember how many people we've slept with. It's not something I ever bothered to count. Sex is one thing, a relationship is something different. I'd probaby judge someone who's had loads of relationships more than someone who's had a lot of sexual partners

JacquesHarlow · 03/05/2026 10:52

Ilostallthepens · 03/05/2026 10:34

If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

What's your opinion @Ilostallthepens ? What's your view on this topic?!

SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 03/05/2026 10:52

Absolutely not and, as others have said, how would I know?
I suppose I am very slightly judgemental of people who talk about their sex lives in these terms. It’s not my business how many sexual partners you have had and, regardless of the number, if we are not exceptionally close friends, why are you telling me?

busyd4y · 03/05/2026 10:52

Nope, why I care, unless I suppose one of them was my partner at the time

EwwPeople · 03/05/2026 10:52

Not really in general, but very specific circumstances could change my answer.

toomuchfaff · 03/05/2026 10:50

OMG are you one of these HIgH VaLuE MaN.

Otherwise how would you know unless you ask?

TheCurious0range · 03/05/2026 10:49

No, unless the numbers were racked up while they were also in an allegedly committed relationship.
My number is pretty high for MN , I just enjoyed my youth and didn't settle down until I was in my mid twenties, so by that point I'd been sexually active for a decade

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 03/05/2026 10:49

I couldn’t relate to them as I need a relationship and connection before sex, but if meets their needs and they are happy then it’s no one else’s business.

layingwoody · 03/05/2026 10:48

Yes internally I would be raising an eyebrow.
I wouldn’t want to be with a man who had slept with 60 women and likewise would think a woman sleeping with 60+ men is grim. Each to their own but it’s not for me!

PauliesWalnuts · 03/05/2026 10:48

Wouldn’t judge at all - none of my business.

Freddiesfortune · 03/05/2026 10:48

How would I know? We don’t generally wear badges with this information on and we don’t generally go around telling strangers on the off chance they fancy judging us for something that’s none of their business.

FrenchBunionSoup · 03/05/2026 10:46

No. Although might privately wonder about whether they were content. I prefer a long-term relationship and would find having lots of one night stands unfulfilling, although each to their own.

Thechaseison71 · 03/05/2026 10:44

PumpkinScarf · 03/05/2026 10:42

Not something I think about, live and let live. I wouldn’t date a man with this many previous sexual partners though as I don’t think we’d be compatible.

Why not compatible