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Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

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Ilostallthepens · 03/05/2026 10:34

If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

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Octavia64 · 03/05/2026 11:48

No

Overtheatlantic · 03/05/2026 11:48

No. I do judge both boys and girls who start having sex in their early teens though. I accept that’s a me thing but I’ve felt that way since I was in my early teens.

honeylulu · 03/05/2026 11:47

I wouldn't judge as such but something in my brain would be saying "eurgh, yuck". But the same for men as well as women.

What amuses me about these threads is that there are lots of people saying oh so what, good for them about being splattered with body fluids of many strange people. And on other threads people have their washing machines thundering away constantly because they can't cope with using their own bath towel to dry themselves with more than once. I'm assuming these aren't the same people ...

CuriousKangaroo · 03/05/2026 11:47

No. I’m curious as to why anyone would.

SuperGinger · 03/05/2026 11:47

No of course not.

ginasevern · 03/05/2026 11:45

It wouldn't appeal to me in a man and therefore I guess I would be judging.

BowlCone · 03/05/2026 11:44

No- how would I know and why would I care?

I do think some people (not all) who have lots of short term things or ONSs are doing it from a place of unhappiness, but I’d worry about them rather than judging them.

PinkArt · 03/05/2026 11:44

Nope. I judge people who judge them though, given it doesn't affect them in any way.

LetsBeWellBehaved · 03/05/2026 11:42

kscarpetta · 03/05/2026 11:17

If you've been sexually active for 30 years then 50 partners is less than 2 a year.

2 different men a year on the basis that there was no long term relationship.

I don’t care what anyone does, so not ‘judging’ but this wouldn’t appeal to me in a partner at all (men).

Pinkdumpling · 03/05/2026 11:41

Ive had loads and still doing it.
Want to judge me on a number could not care what you think.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/05/2026 11:39

I do remember being mildly taken aback when a friend I used to house share with would come home after a trip (we were cabin crew) and say, ‘I had a fuck!’ with a satisfied grin, when I knew her fuckee was a notorious (but admittedly very attractive) married man who’d once left a note under my hotel room door - ‘The door is open, come and kiss me goodnight’.

Admittedly I was tempted, but…

Other than that, people didn’t usually tell you, but I was a bit askance while watching Four Weddings and A Funeral when Andie McDowell (?) spent several minutes enumerating to Hugh Grant all the 30 odd blokes she’d slept with. And that was portrayed as an admirable thing.
I just hoped she’d got herself tested for STDs.

TBH I found Andie McD very annoying anyway - too many teeth that she was IMO too fond of displaying.

corkscissorschalk · 03/05/2026 11:38

I’d make judgements about them compared to me. For example that they were quite trusting of others to put themselves into vulnerable situations with people they didn’t know well.
I’d think that they probably were less inclined to think a lot about health issues and worry about them.

Meadowfinch · 03/05/2026 11:37

Over what period of time? 12 months? 50 years?

No, of course not. What people do in the privacy of their bedrooms is none of my business.

ZoeyBartlett · 03/05/2026 11:35

Nope

GiorgioArmageddi · 03/05/2026 11:35

Changingplace · 03/05/2026 11:29

I do agree, but the description of ‘body count’ is vile.

If anyone asked me that I’d judge them on that basis more than any number I wouldn’t give them anyway.

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It is very telling that this phrase is used for both sex and violence; of course, a higher body count is considered negative (obviously!) in violence and they want you to make that same connection about sex. I hate this for any of us. You’ve had sexual partners, not a body count. Those people aren’t dead (well, mostly); they’re alive out there and hopefully happy and healthy in themselves.

AgnesMcDoo · 03/05/2026 11:32

I really couldn’t care less. It’s not my vagina

silkencushion · 03/05/2026 11:31

Yes, I would. If it was getting on for 100ish then I would assume she had psych issues and would wonder if she had any STDs. It's not just women- I would think the exact same thing of men and I would find it a massive turn off to date a man with that number too.

Condoms are not 100% effective so I would wonder if he would be likely to pass something on to me. This isnt about moral judgment its factual that the higher the number of partners you've had the more likely you are are to have been exposed to various STDs

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 11:31

zurigo · 03/05/2026 11:30

How on Earth would you even know? No one knows how many people I've slept with apart from me. It's hardly something that comes up in conversation!

It really does in some people’s conversations.

TheWickerFan · 03/05/2026 11:31

Nope, I could not care less, as long as it was all consensual then why would it matter to me or anyone else?

Plasticdreams · 03/05/2026 11:31

Not at all

zurigo · 03/05/2026 11:30

How on Earth would you even know? No one knows how many people I've slept with apart from me. It's hardly something that comes up in conversation!

PRPrincess · 03/05/2026 11:30

Yes.

Slimbutcellulite · 03/05/2026 11:30

I’m neutral I just don’t think about it and if I do I have no opinion. I sort of just never really consider how often other people use their genitalia like I don’t think about how much other people use their legs for walking etc etc

yeesh · 03/05/2026 11:29

Nope. I couldn’t give a single fuck.

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 11:29

Yes. I wouldn’t want a relationship with a man who’d had 50 or 60 sexual partners and I wouldn’t expect a man to want a relationship with a woman who’d slept with that many men.

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