Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

That's what I was thinking. I mean there's fun, and there's having really low standards, no boundaries and no respect for either yourself or the people you are using and discarding week in, week out.

To have racked up that many at such a tender age simply indicates that no-one wanted to stay with him for long enough to slow the numbers down a bit.

I think it's sad to have nothing but a long, long string of underwhelming one night stands to your name and rarely ever think 'I'd really love to see him/her again.' Or to hope that you will, but they never call you, because you were the throwaway shag that they wouldn't have had if they'd been sober.

If all your 'relationships' consist of fleeting casual sex with people you barely know and don't especially care to see again, it's a sign that you aren't exercising very good judgement or discernment in your life. It's the equivalent of eating absolutely nothing but McDonalds and chicken shop food. It shows you have no self respect.

That is alot for that age.

Honestly, I don’t have the free time or the inclination to consider other people’s personal lives. And when I last checked, I was not the morality police.

I Think good on them, hope they had a blast.

No. It's none of my concern how many sexual partners others have had. Why would you know or ask even?

It makes no difference to anyone or anything. It like judging someone on how many times they've eaten a sandwich, or been shopping, or watched a film.

People all over the world are having sex right now. And always will be. And it's none of your business.

No, i'd just be jealous!

Good for these women!!

That said, if a straight man was bragging about that number, i'd assume he was a twat and not very good in bed

It's multifaceted. There are so many kinds of judgements.

An actress having lots of sexual partners (a la Marlene Dietrich) can be seen as irresistible, alluring, a femme fatale.

A less famous woman can also be seen as foolish as so many women are murdered. If you are going home with multiple random men, you could run that risk.

For Mata Hari. it was fatal and having multiple lovers (one French and one German, during WWI cost her, her life... in front of the firing squad).

A lesbian with many many women partners, like Jo Carstairs (The Queen of Whale Cay), was seen as rather dashing... then again would she have bedded so many women and some of the best looking ones too if she hadn't been a rich oil heiress? Probably not.

History shows that if you have money (and fame) life can be a conveyor belt of sex as there will always be a ready never-ending supply of partners; Madonna, Mick Jagger; Pablo Picasso; Barbara Hutton; Peggy Guggenheim, Leo Di Caprio, etc are pretty good examples of this...

Interestingly enough, in the first publish diaries of Anais Nin, the general picture is one of this adventurous creative bohemian woman exploring life and experiencing numerous love affairs because she was so brilliant and alluring - a woman that men were clamouring to be with her. She is their muse. She is their everything.

Since then we have learnt more of the actual reality instead of Anais' version of reality. Sadly a lot of her great love affairs where with men, who to use a MN term, were Cocklodgers, as Anais (or more precisely, Hugo, her cuckold husband) was footing the bill. So the Houseboat on the Seine, which you are renting and have moved in your penniless lover, looks a lot less romantic and attractive after a while... I imagine. Still it's a pretty fantasy.

I wouldn't judge like 'boo, you whore', but depending on the person and why they were telling me I might think it was a sign of insecurity. Not always though, I know some women who just have a naturally higher libido.

If a woman had slept with 50-60 women I think I'd just be impressed that they'd found so many, to be honest - lesbians aren't exactly renowned for being into casual flings!

Wouldn’t know or care.

My partner has had more than 60, and no, it did not bother me. He was single in his early 20s and so had fun. It was safe, consensual so why woukd it bother me? He is an excellent boyfriend and treats me with respect

Well yeah? The same applies for any number of other things that you might not find desirable in a partner.

Good for them, I don’t really care, but that’s not for me. It’s not necessarily a deal breaker either but a lot of people seem sensitive/defensive about this.

I personally don’t care but I wouldn’t date someone who had (man or woman) because it makes me think we view sex differently.

BUT I wouldn’t also never ask. Anyone who randomly told me I would think was a freak though.

No

Yep, relationship wise is different from just a random person. Some people still won’t mind though.

Never. I’d only want to ask if any of them were any good just so I can add to my already very negative data about men being able to bring women to orgasm.

It's funny how there was always this idea that lots of partners made women sluts, and men studs. I can honestly say I've never thought of a man as a stud at all, in any way. Especially not for being known to shag around. I've never thought of women as sluts either though. I think that was always just a very misogynistic and male-centric view being presented as a general one.

Well, maybe that person just slept with a lot of very clever people with whom she felt an ‘intense intellectual bond’? Are you afraid you wouldn’t measure up?

No. It’s nothing to do with me.
Sleeping with 1000 and publicising it - yes but normal people, definitely not.

I've not really thought about it but privately, yes I probably would be a bit 'ew' at a woman but I'd only feel that way if they were braggy about it. I would also be put off by a man with, I dunno more than 20/30 previous partners. If that eliminates most men that's fine by me because I wouldn't want another man anyway 😅

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To the extent that I would not be interested in dating the person, yes, I would judge as it would provide critical information. I don’t care what someone does, but that life is not for me. It’s not the way I experience attraction. I need an intense intellectual bond to feel sexual attraction. I want a partner who reciprocates.

It doesn’t affect me, obviously. What care? What are you talking about?

Did you read ops question?!

your attempts to attack my sexuality say nothing about me and show a lot about you.

Depends what you call high. Some people have never had many LTRs so it stands to reason they will have a much higher count than someone who married quite young and stayed married.

I do think there is something really quite icky about people who will seemingly shag anything the minute they've got a couple of drinks inside them and they openly boast of huge, huge numbers though. They must have absolutely no quality control. Even worse when they will do it completely sober and there's no excuse.

But I certainly don't judge women any more harshly for that than men. I think it's a seedy and quite sad way to live your life, irrespective of your sex. I am no puritan, I had plenty of fun back in the day, but I had my limits and my standards. Some of the numbers young people talk about now, I think they can't possibly have any standards or any self respect. It's just nasty and I bet a lot of them feel insecure and empty inside.

No but I do judge the men who judge women for these things.