Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

Actually this yes. If a man or woman had 5 partners a month for their entire life I would wonder what happened. But as you say 50 partners at 50 works out to little over 1 a year which does not seem baffling to me.

I’m not a raging misogynist so, no.

I would wonder why they were telling me though.

As friends/acquaintances? I don’t care, you do you.

As romantic partners, it would be off the table. Everyone I know with higher numbers has a detached atitude that also includes cheating or sleeping with cheaters, which I have an issue with.

Well you’re making assumptions about other people, are you genuinely interested in what they’ve got to say or just looking for validation about your opinion/choices? Don’t think a single person here has used the word ‘slut’ or words to that effect.

Also, people can dislike the idea of ‘high body counts’/ONS/casual sex because of their own experiences.

Nah. People are saying the men who do this are gross too.

Have you slept with a lot of people OP? That's your business; no one cares. Some people would look down on your for it if they knew, but most people have no idea.

I think if you are trying to get people to say it's an empowering or good thing, you are on to a loser. People have their own views on this. I personally think it's a sad reflection of someone's failings and low standards, but other than that I don't care, and I would never, ever ask.

Also, to the people asking 'how would they know' - in my various social circles, especially in youth, people would know vaguely who had slept with whom. I remember someone whom I quite liked asking me out, but it was a hard no from me as I knew of at least 10 (very questionable taste) women he had slept with.

Why do some of you assume that someone who has a lot of casual sex has no self respect?

I had a lot of casual sex in my younger single days. I did it for pleasure but I had no interest in a relationship. It was always with someone I had an attraction to and it was always safe. I certainly wasn’t looking for something to fill my life. I genuinely don’t see how that was disrespecting myself?

Wouldn't judge anyone. Their sex life is no ones business but theirs

How would I even know? I have less than no interest in the sexual pursuits of the vast majority of people.

I don't judge anybody on the number of people they've had sex with because it's their business and doesn't impact me in any way.

That said, it would hugely put me off someone I were dating.

I can’t find somebody appealing until I’ve got to know them. It’s not even that I’m looking for something in particular, either we have chemistry or we don’t. Just looking acceptable or good isn’t enough for me. I think I’ve madly fancied about 5 people.

I cant think of 50 men I have even enjoyed shaking hands with, how on earth can people find 50 people they are that attracted to? I think in my entire life I have been attracted to about 10 men tops.

Sex only has the ‘value’ an individual places on it, though. One person might see it as a sacred thing saved for your wedding night, one person an enjoyable pastime to be freely engaged in as long as everyone’s enthusiastically consenting. The first position is no more ‘mature’ than the second.

What’s the connection between having a high number of men/women you’ve had sex with, and having self respect?

Isn’t having self respect for yourself just following your values or something?

I would judge someone who was always flirting with attached men, or deliberately dressing provocatively, or making lewd jokes all the time, and was a virgin.

But I wouldn’t judge someone who was respectful of people in relationships, and dressed in an appropriate way for the situation, and wasn’t behaving inappropriately, but who had a different sexual partner each week.

So I wouldn’t judge for the sexual aspect but I would for the behavioural aspect.

I think people should do what they want, but I wouldn’t choose them as a partner, as I’d want my partner to have the same attitude towards sex as me.

My friends all have similar attitudes to sex as me, so maybe I wouldn’t gel with someone as a friend, who sleeps around.

As I said on a similar post, no I don't care. Why would I. But also how would I know? The only time I've ever had a conversation about this was when I was in my teens and me and my friends were all having our first sexual experiences.

No I wouldn’t judge them I would just assume they must like sex a lot more than I do, nothing wrong with that.

How would I know?

and raised to be judgy as well. Wouldn’t be too proud of yourself 😂

I wouldn’t judge any of them. I would think fair play

No, I couldn’t care less what other people do.

That said I would judge myself if I had slept with 60 people, and I wouldn’t be with a man who had slept with 60 women. It just speaks of placing too little value on sex and a kind of immaturity that matters to me.

Yes and yes.

Not just women, men to! It’s disgusting 🤮 thankfully I was raised with self respect

No, I don’t judge as such, in the sense of thinking badly of them. But I suppose the idea of someone having loads of sexual partners is something I don’t quite understand and is a bit alien to me. We’re all different.

How would you know?