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Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

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Ilostallthepens · 03/05/2026 10:34

If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

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BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 03/05/2026 10:44

How would I even know?

Preppyprepper · 03/05/2026 10:42

I couldn't care less generally, but I would assume they had low self-esteem or something else going on. Knowing most men, I can't think of 60 I have met that I would happily sleep with, so I would assume the woman has very low standards or is trying to gain approval from men because there is something wrong in her life/wrong with her personality.

I would generally have a little bit less respect for them if I knew, but I would otherwise not care and would never say anything or admit this in real life.

PenelopePinkerton · 03/05/2026 10:42

I don’t care as I’m not planning on sleeping with them.

BrassOlive · 03/05/2026 10:42

No, if anything I'm quite envious. I've had a handful of really lovely, exciting flings and one night stands. If I hadn't met DP so young I'd have happily had more.

Flomingho · 03/05/2026 10:42

No, its their business ans as long as their actions aren't harming other people. I am more likely to judge a person who has stolen someone else's partner.

PumpkinScarf · 03/05/2026 10:42

Not something I think about, live and let live. I wouldn’t date a man with this many previous sexual partners though as I don’t think we’d be compatible.

DeskGnome · 03/05/2026 10:41

Couldn't give a shit.

Madarch · 03/05/2026 10:40

Nope. Crack on, I say.

GoldMoon · 03/05/2026 10:40

It's not my business and why would I even know ?

MegaMewtwo · 03/05/2026 10:40

No. 50 men at age 50 would be less than 1.5 a year if they started at 16. Might be more like they slept with several a year in their 20s, then had a few relationships. Not really that unusual.

If it was say 5 partners a month for their entire life, I might wonder if they really enjoyed it or if there were other issues at play.

But ups and downs over decades are to be expected.

Weddinghoildaywoos · 03/05/2026 10:39

Honestly yes but I judge both men and women. I wouldn't go near a man who had a high number.

Thechaseison71 · 03/05/2026 10:39

I don't care

Reportingfromwherever · 03/05/2026 10:37

No.