This is bonkers mummy behaviour

It’s ridiculous isn’t it. Who is the bloody adult here. Kids need safe boundaries and shown how to behave. This type of parenting is doing them a disservice in the long run.

I’d just shout “get in the changing room now you little shite”.. What style of parenting is this?

I do find this really irritating but to be fair swimming with small kids is a learning curve. I remember the day I discovered a post swim banana magically made everyone do what they were told. It was like a shining light from heaven beamed upon our changing cubicle. Which we were already in, though.

Love the wild fox bit 🤣
But I think that’s it, they are afraid of the tiny tyrants in a way that I don’t remember being. Maybe not wanting to provoke a public tantrum? Is that socially unacceptable?

When the adult, who is supposed to be in charge, asks the child to make all the decisions, that can be overwhelming and frightening for the child. It's like the pilot saying to the passengers - 'does anyone know how to fly a plane?'.

The adult is supposed to know all the answers. The child doesn't know what the right answer is. It's too much responsibility. Gentle parenting thinks it's empowering to give the child choices constantly. But in reality the child feels much more secure when it knows someone is taking care of their wellbeing by making safe choices for them.

Parenting like in this style was less common when mine were little. I was pretty gentle in my overall parenting style (I am a quiet and gentle person after all) but I definitely knew what my limit was and would not have allowed one of mine to behave like this, especially if other people were being annoyed by the noise etc - there’s a time to step in firmly but lovingly and just crack on with what needs to be done. Tantrums are going to happen whatever you do 🤣

But as you say people parent differently now and this is what they believe to be right. I’m waiting with interest to see how my future GDC are parented - I won’t be a judgy grandparent though. By my mum’s standards I was a very permissive parent and by HER mum’s standards my siblings and I were basically left to run wild 🤣 (we definitely weren’t). But society is changing for sure, it always has.

Yep, unfortunately these kids have hit the workforce. They are pathetic, but in a way not their fault, was the way they were brought up, which benefits neither themselves or society.

I saw similar behaviour in a park one time. I found it stressful AF.

It was constant and over the top.

Absolute nightmare parenting.

I am dealing with the fallout from this type of carry-on in the (secondary) school I teach at. Children completely in control of their entire household, can pick and choose how they behave/when they attend, have zero resilience, and parents expect me to handle the fallout (‘please ring me immediately, my child is very upset’).

Nope.

Having said that at 2 I would just pick my kid up and take them in a changing room 🤣. I also wouldn’t be using treats as bribery at any age.

I think lots of parents now are genuinely afraid to say no to or make their young children do anything as they worry they will traumatise them or damage their development.

It's not really due to laziness as they often make life a lot harder, it's a genuine belief that stopping a toddler doing something, turning off the ipad, making them get in the buggy or brush their teeth, is kind of an assault?

Exactly, we’ve been giving our son age appropriate choices since he could answer. Funnily enough he doesn’t have many tantrums and he makes good decisions quickly and is secure in his decision making.

I’ve been chatting away to him in the supermarket, narrating our day since he was a new born. His speech is fantastic and his world awareness is incredible
for a 6 year old.

I saw a man like this in the park the other day, trying to persuade a very reasonably-behaved toddler to go home for almost an hour. He must’ve said “Ok, five more minutes” at least five times. It came across like he was scared of his young child, it’s the sort of behaviour you’d use to try and coax a wild fox out of the playground. It’s not gentle parenting, it’s permissive parenting

Children’s brains aren’t mature enough to handle complex choices. I can’t believe the push back this is getting

Imagine giving children choices 🙄

Why is it pathetic to ask a small child what they want in a supermarket? 🤯

This is not gentle parenting! This is just... arsing around 🤣

@Commecicommeca26
She wasn’t at her wits end. she was asking. toddler what his preferences were rather than be an adult and say ‘right in here let’s go’, you see them
in supermarkets asking small
kids what to buy, it’s quite pathetic

Ohh dear goodness little Joe will go to school in a few years and wonder why he cant wander around the school finding a classroom like he wants to. This type of parenting tends to result in problematic behaviour from over indulged children who lack boundaries.

Every time a thread like this comes up, gentle parenting gets a bashing because it gets confused with permissive parenting. Also, imagine being at your wits end, soaking, trying not to lose your rag and then a whole thread being made about your parenting choices 🤯

Totally agree and we’ll all have to suffer the consequences

Permissive parenting 🤦‍♀️
School will be a laugh and a half 🙄

If it was a pool in Cornwall then I also met this family..
I was actually quite sad for the mum because she sounded desperate. I've been in childcare most of my life (children's nurse, childminder, nanny) and I had to restrain myself from trying to 'help' her. It probably wouldn't have gone down well..

I mean just cut the crap and get the child sorted out!!!!
people like that really annoy me!

And everyone I’ve ever known practice gentle parenting has made a rod for their own back by not setting any boundaries. She’ll rue the day!

Can't see any parenting going on here.... It's like those who say their child is their best friend...