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AIBU to be amazed my friend does all her laundry in one day?

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Laundryqueen1 · 03/05/2026 08:52

I called over to a friend yesterday evening with my dc. She was just coming down the stairs with an empty laundry basket when she answered the door.
she took a few minutes to answer the door so as she opened the door, she apologised and said she was putting away the laundry.
I jokingly said oh no bother I must put mine away, It’s been sitting there all week I need to clear the basket for the next lot.
she then proceeded to tell me she does ALL her laundry on a Saturday- washes, dries, irons and puts away! IN ONE DAY! I nearly fell to the floor. She said she had two and a half loads.
I was even more baffled because she couldn’t have us round until 7ish because she had a crazy busy day. Her dd had training, her ds had a friend over for a playdate, her dd then had an appointment in the afternoon. Then she had to collect her dh from the train station. My mind is blown! She fits her laundry in between doing all of this…and she irons! 😅 where am I going wrong?

OP posts:
Tableforjoan · 03/05/2026 13:25

We must do at least 2 loads a day sometimes 3.

Takes four loads just to do the bedding for the whole house.

I only iron school and work clothes regularly though everything else is if required.

WonderfulSmith · 03/05/2026 13:21

I’m the same, sort of.

I have to have a routine. Bed linen changed on Friday night and washed and dried. Then on Saturday morning load one, washed and into the dryer, load two is washed and hung up (this is none tumble dryer stuff), load three washed by which time the dryer has finished, load four (whites) on to wash and into the dryer with load three. Towels on after that and into the dryer the next day. Ironing done on a Sunday. Heat pump dryer which doesn’t cost nearly as much to run as people think. Only two people though.

Kitchen linen and sports clothes are done every other week at some point in the week.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:20

chocolateaddictions · 03/05/2026 11:11

Me too. Towels and sheets alone is 3 loads. Throw in 2 sporty tall teens whose clothes are massive, uniforms and a DH who gyms every day - does your friend just not wash stuff very often OP? Ask hee how often she changes her sheets and towels.

We only change towels once a week and sheets once a fortnight but everyone has a king size bed so it’s all massive sheets etc.

Your teenagers each have a king-size bed? Blimey, talk about spoilt! They'll get a shock when they go to uni and have what most young unmarried people have - a single!

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:19

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 13:04

Night-time critters you say?
Any excuse to send out the bat signal

I think I saw one of those in the garden the other week.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:18

Lovingapeacefulgarden · 03/05/2026 12:52

As a family of 5 I do easily 15 loads of washing a week between bedding, towels, swimming stuff and clothes. How people do so little amazes me.

FIFTEEN! I appreciate there are five of you, but that's an average of three loads per person per week. I am a single person and there's no way I do three loads per week.

Sprinkleofspice · 03/05/2026 13:16

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 11:25

You don't use detergent to wash your pants?

It did sound like that from the post! I use unscented Ecover or Surcare on pants but nice smelling detergent and conditioner on clothes

ThatLemonBee · 03/05/2026 13:15

We do once a day at least , more Fridays and Saturdays as I wash all bedding towels and throws

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:15

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 13:04

Night-time critters you say?
Any excuse to send out the bat signal

LOL!

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:14

likeafishneedsabike · 03/05/2026 10:29

Absolutely the same about jeans, but school trousers and skirts need a wash after a full day of school. Playing football at lunchtime in the mud, sitting on filthy canteen chairs - you get the picture.

Skirts absolutely don't need a wash because they've touched cafeteria chairs! Our immune systems are built to withstand everyday germs like that, and you're not letting their immune systems develop by washing everything!

Germs are GOOD for us!

Mapletree1985 · 03/05/2026 13:14

I don't have a washing machine but my work does, so I do it there, once a week. It takes me like 2 minute to load and start the machine, then come back during break and take 2 minutes to transfer wet clothes to dryer, then come back during next break, take dry clothes out of dryer & put them in bag to take home. Every couple of weeks I do a linens and towel wash as well. I would be genuinely astonished to find it took me more than 15 minutes a week to do my laundry, maybe 20 in a linens and towels week.

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 13:04

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:59

Well, they might do! And I can just imagine all the critters that come out at night having a high old time playing with the laundry!

Night-time critters you say?
Any excuse to send out the bat signal

AIBU to be amazed my friend does all her laundry in one day?
CalliopeFosterBeauchamp · 03/05/2026 13:03

I live alone and I do an average of 2.5 loads per week!!

One load of cottons and delicates at 30 degrees, and one load of towels, bath mats, flannels etc at 60. And every other week I wash bedding.

My washing machine doesn’t hold a huge amount, and I don’t have a dryer.

Maybe your friend doesn’t wash towels or bedding very often? Maybe they wear clothes several times before washing?

Hallywally · 03/05/2026 13:01

Me, adult DS and child DD who is with us 50% of the time. DS generates the most washing as he goes to the gym a lot/plays a lot of sports. Probably do around 3-4 loads a week, 1 light, 3 dark. Use a tumble dryer for most of it but DS has quite a few fancy non tumble dry tops which are annoying. Seem to wash a lot of towels. Wash my bedding once a week, DD’s every two weeks & DS whenever he can be bothered to change his bed.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:59

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 12:41

Yes, I remember that old thread. Also your undies will fill up with insects if you leave them on the line overnight 😁

Well, they might do! And I can just imagine all the critters that come out at night having a high old time playing with the laundry!

BountifulPantry · 03/05/2026 12:55

I do mine one week day evening so it doesn’t take up valuable weekend time. Wash and hang out one day, then fold iron and put away the next. I tend to have 2 loads one dark one light.

But then again i only do my own washing as childfree and my partner does his own! When we were young my mum put one load on every evening before bed on a timer, so when she got up she could hang it on the maiden. The dry clothes from the day before were then folded and put in the airing cupboard or put on the ironing pile for dad to tackle at the weekend. Seemed like a good system! A little bit every day.

Lovingapeacefulgarden · 03/05/2026 12:52

As a family of 5 I do easily 15 loads of washing a week between bedding, towels, swimming stuff and clothes. How people do so little amazes me.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:51

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 09:51

1 for socks and pants for a start! Why separate them?!

Yes, I separate by colours, not clothing type. So in my darks load there will be socks (mine are all black), dark jeans, dark T-shirts, dark undies, and dark tops. And my colours loads will have undies, tops, T-shirts, and pale-blue jeans too. I do have a delicates load.

I also separate by temperature, so I have hot darks, hot whites, and medium colours. (No hot colours, as they will fade.) The hots are for the things that need to be washed on a hotter temp, like towels, pants, socks, bedding, and pyjamas. Everything that's either slept in or worn on your feet or undercarriage, basically. So a hot darks wash will include my black towels, dark undies and socks, and my dark bedding. Medium darks are dark jeans and tops. Hot whites includes the white bedding and underwear. But low or medium whites will be things like tops with lace - actually, the delicates wash.

I'm single. It's still complicated!

P.S. My categories are:

Hot darks
Hot whites
Medium colours
Medium darks
Dark delicates
Coloured delicates
White delicates

🤣🤣🤣

flapjackfairy · 03/05/2026 12:50

honeylulu · 03/05/2026 11:33

My husband does the laundry. I just asked him how many loads per week. He said between 3 and 4 (family of 4 though eldest away at uni some of the time).

He is astounded to hear about those who do 2 loads a day. Are those families who soil themselves daily and piss the bed every night?

yes 2 disabled children who do just that. And sometimes more than once. And thank-you.for putting it so compassionately !
Anyone who is aghast at a family doing more than 4 loads of washing a week must have a v poor imagination imo !

PixelDreamer · 03/05/2026 12:46

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 12:34

Not according to the fire service statistics.

Edited

The stats I can find now all lump washing machines and dryers together.

The information I'd seen reported had tumble driers as highest/high risk but then washing machines, dishwashers, fridges and freezers all at the same level of risk.

Ovens and microwaves were the lowest risk.

NoMoreSocks · 03/05/2026 12:46

I don’t know how people get laundry done in a day. It’s a never ending story here, I don’t think it’s ever really done except in a heat wave and then it ends up hanging round waiting to be ironed and put away for days.
We seem to have a lot of time sensitive sports kits that require immediate attention, DH for example has one pair of running shorts he prefers and likes to wear them three times a week, one teen has training kit that is required twice a week, one teen has swimming 6 times a week, I have two sets of gym kit but it’s needed 5-6 times a week.

Bubble678910 · 03/05/2026 12:44

My MIL (mother of 7!) used to do all washing in one go on one day. If your washing wasn't in the pile by, say, Thursday, then tough you'd have to wait another week!

I find laundry the only household task that we haven't yet got a good system for. We are a 'wash when it's dirty' family, and we have an ironing lady who comes every other week, but still it's always the task that's left until last to do!

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 12:41

Dressfinder · 03/05/2026 12:39

Darked on. It's a silly MN joke from an ancient thread.

Yes, I remember that old thread. Also your undies will fill up with insects if you leave them on the line overnight 😁

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 12:41

MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 11:50

I do mine in one day, I WFH so once every hour or so I leave my desk to stretch my legs & load/unload machines as required. I'm not sitting in front of them being hypnotized by watching my knickers go round and round

that's brought back a memory, my Ted & I doing that when I was little. I think I must have been about 3, nearly 4 when we got our first automatic machine & the twin tub went. I lived watching the clothes & all the soap bubbles splashing around 🤣

Dressfinder · 03/05/2026 12:39

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:38

Being darker on? What does that mean?

Darked on. It's a silly MN joke from an ancient thread.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:38

FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 09:51

Why are you washing cycling gloves???

Controversial on MN but I often peg our washing the night before, if the weather is going to be good. Then bring it in the next morning. I realise this leads to it being “darker on”.

Being darker on? What does that mean?