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AIBU to be amazed my friend does all her laundry in one day?

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Laundryqueen1 · 03/05/2026 08:52

I called over to a friend yesterday evening with my dc. She was just coming down the stairs with an empty laundry basket when she answered the door.
she took a few minutes to answer the door so as she opened the door, she apologised and said she was putting away the laundry.
I jokingly said oh no bother I must put mine away, It’s been sitting there all week I need to clear the basket for the next lot.
she then proceeded to tell me she does ALL her laundry on a Saturday- washes, dries, irons and puts away! IN ONE DAY! I nearly fell to the floor. She said she had two and a half loads.
I was even more baffled because she couldn’t have us round until 7ish because she had a crazy busy day. Her dd had training, her ds had a friend over for a playdate, her dd then had an appointment in the afternoon. Then she had to collect her dh from the train station. My mind is blown! She fits her laundry in between doing all of this…and she irons! 😅 where am I going wrong?

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MillicentFaucet · 03/05/2026 14:11

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 03/05/2026 13:55

I dont understand why people don’t put washing away. I clean and dry it and put it away. It’s doesn’t hang about anywhere. What’s with that?

Edited

It's an anathema to me too. My DC were putting away their clean laundry when they were about 8/9 ish. What's the point of clean clothes that aren't in people's bedrooms ready to be used again?

likeafishneedsabike · 03/05/2026 14:07

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:42

A family of 4, washing clothes, bedding, towels etc frequently enough to be clean is more than 2 loads of washing a week, so not to my standard you're not. If you have lower standards, that's your choice, but don't pretend it's the same thing.

Thank you - exactly . If your standards are lower and you don’t mind your kids going into school in used clothes and sleeping in a bed that hasn’t been changed in a fortnight, then all power to you! You probably have plenty of spare time as a result. But at least own it - hold up your hands and say ‘we don’t go in for a lot of laundry here’. Don’t pretend that everyone in your house is just as clean as in a household that runs a wash every day.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 14:05

PixelDreamer · 03/05/2026 12:46

The stats I can find now all lump washing machines and dryers together.

The information I'd seen reported had tumble driers as highest/high risk but then washing machines, dishwashers, fridges and freezers all at the same level of risk.

Ovens and microwaves were the lowest risk.

We're crossing posts 🤣🤣

personally wouldn't leave washing machine, dishwasher, tumble dryer, on when
I go out

Air Fryer, sage coffee machine & (old!!) oven get turned off at the wall after use. When the kitchen gets re done the new oven won't get turned off at the wall)

friddge/freezer was new in 2020 & stands in the kitchen in a well ventilated position & isn't over loaded so (fortunately) a risk I'm happy taking.

kettle, tv, everything else are plugged in & on at the wall but not actively 'on' when I'm out.

think that covers everything 🤣🤣

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 14:05

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:42

A family of 4, washing clothes, bedding, towels etc frequently enough to be clean is more than 2 loads of washing a week, so not to my standard you're not. If you have lower standards, that's your choice, but don't pretend it's the same thing.

Bedding doesn’t need to be washed weekly when you shower/bathe every day. I do 1set per week in those two loads. The odd time I’ll do a second set depending on the time of the month (I get a bit sweaty)

Whatwouldnanado · 03/05/2026 14:04

It’s not as though she has to haul down to the river and bash it on stones! Around three loads of coloured stuff and a load of whites each week here. Each wash takes 30 mins then whatever in the dryer or out on the rack in the garden. My only ironing is half a dozen shirts for dh and a couple of other bits for dds. Hang it up/put away immediately it’s dry. Usually get it done on Sat afternoon within a few hours. Loads of time to do other stuff.

NoMoreSocks · 03/05/2026 13:58

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:38

But you don't need to launder swimsuits after one use! Just make the swimmer rinse their suits in cold water to get the chlorine out, since it eats fabric! Then put all the swimsuits in a wash with other things once a week.

It’s all the towels and he only has two pairs of jammers plus racing ones as they cost a fortune so they need to be cleaned more frequently. Most of the training is mornings and it’s a tight turnaround to get back and eat before school.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 03/05/2026 13:55

I dont understand why people don’t put washing away. I clean and dry it and put it away. It’s doesn’t hang about anywhere. What’s with that?

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 13:54

FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 13:52

I’ve never washed my running belt! And muddy cycling gives would get dried and dusted down- they are just going to get muddy again!

Swimwear shouldn’t be washed each time, it breaks down the fabric. Just rinse.

And Beaver uniforms are only work for a few hours so don’t need washing every week!

And that’s awesome.

And that’s you.

Someone else does like throwing in their cycling gear for a wash.

It’s like people really struggle with comprehending that people have different preferences.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:54

Ncisdouble · 03/05/2026 12:37

I belive one of the top 3 are dishwashers as well. Fridges are top 6? If I remember top 10 correctly

we weren't talking about dishwashers though. I don't have (or want) one, but I wouldn't set it to run when I was out if I did.

Fridges (when age, location are taken into
account) are not that high on the list. It looks high when very old ones or those in bad locations (sheds, under stairs etc) are included.

FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 13:53

And yes I meant to write darked on (damn autocorrect!)

Ive always hung washing out over night. Sometimes if it rains I just leave it until it is dry again 😂.

caringcarer · 03/05/2026 13:53

I wash bedding and towels at weekends on a hotter wash. Midweek it's 1 or 2 loads per day of clothing.

FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 13:52

I’ve never washed my running belt! And muddy cycling gives would get dried and dusted down- they are just going to get muddy again!

Swimwear shouldn’t be washed each time, it breaks down the fabric. Just rinse.

And Beaver uniforms are only work for a few hours so don’t need washing every week!

caringcarer · 03/05/2026 13:52

I wash 2 loads of washing most days. I put 1 load of washing and drying on overnight to use the 3.4p kwh.

GenieGenealogy · 03/05/2026 13:51

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 11:50

Who doesn't use towels for a week??? You wash towels every day?? I do replace hand towels every three days. But are you saying that your towels are basically single-use???

Not at all - we are very much a house where towels get used for a week or more and dried on radiators or towel rails between use. But there are people on this thread who are doing a whole load every week of JUST towels, so they can't be using them all week. Unless they have a teeny tiny machine which only fits 4 towels into it.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:49

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 12:34

Sorry, is this daily washing? I'm getting that from the 1 x sox and pants. It sounds like you're washing everything you use every day. Have I read that right? If so, you don't need to wash bedding, towels, and jeans after once use. More like once a week. And most people save up their smalls and tops and wash them when they have a full load. It's not a case of just washing everything you used yesterday, today.

Sorry if I read it wrong!

Yes you read it wrong. That's the loads of washing she does each week (ie one wash for everyone's pants & socks)

Aliflowers · 03/05/2026 13:49

Also to add I suspect people who are doing lesser loads per week are probably overloading their machines. It should be at a maximum 3/4 full. Any more than that you’re putting too much load on it and your clothes arent getting washed properly

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 03/05/2026 13:48

Standard sized UK machines are between 5ish and 13ish kg per load.

So ‘I do two loads per day’ etc is meaningless. A half filled 5kg machine, or a slightly overstuffed 13kg machine?

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 13:47

Mapletree1985 · 03/05/2026 13:14

I don't have a washing machine but my work does, so I do it there, once a week. It takes me like 2 minute to load and start the machine, then come back during break and take 2 minutes to transfer wet clothes to dryer, then come back during next break, take dry clothes out of dryer & put them in bag to take home. Every couple of weeks I do a linens and towel wash as well. I would be genuinely astonished to find it took me more than 15 minutes a week to do my laundry, maybe 20 in a linens and towels week.

You take your dirty washing to work, wash and dry it there @Mapletree1985 ? Do your colleagues?

JehovasFitness · 03/05/2026 13:43

2.5 loads sounds about right to me. Two adults and one baby and we do two full loads per week PLUS one load for bedding and towels monthly.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:42

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 12:16

Mine are clean…I clean them on a Saturday…

A family of 4, washing clothes, bedding, towels etc frequently enough to be clean is more than 2 loads of washing a week, so not to my standard you're not. If you have lower standards, that's your choice, but don't pretend it's the same thing.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:38

NoMoreSocks · 03/05/2026 12:46

I don’t know how people get laundry done in a day. It’s a never ending story here, I don’t think it’s ever really done except in a heat wave and then it ends up hanging round waiting to be ironed and put away for days.
We seem to have a lot of time sensitive sports kits that require immediate attention, DH for example has one pair of running shorts he prefers and likes to wear them three times a week, one teen has training kit that is required twice a week, one teen has swimming 6 times a week, I have two sets of gym kit but it’s needed 5-6 times a week.

But you don't need to launder swimsuits after one use! Just make the swimmer rinse their suits in cold water to get the chlorine out, since it eats fabric! Then put all the swimsuits in a wash with other things once a week.

Aliflowers · 03/05/2026 13:35

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 11:58

My towels get washed at least once a week
(they get done on a 'good drying day' not on set days)

bur WHY would towels ever be left 'festering' mine now go in the heated towel rail after a shower (which is cold in summer as it comes on with the heating) or sometimes I put them
in the line for a blow.

As a child they either went on hooks in the airing cupboard or over the bannister. (Different houses)

various other arrangement when there were too many of us for the heated towel rail, but always somewhere fir them to dry out properly.

Because with 5 people in the house all using bath sheets they can’t all hang on the towel rail. And I’m not having towels littered around the house drying so they’re not damp going into the laundry basket. We all use a towel twice then wash it. In between washes they go into a drying rail in the hot press but once deemed used they go into the laundry basket to get washed. And not up to me as chief washing machine operation to deem others towels as clean or dirty. So they’re used and into laundry basket damp where they’ll be out that day/next morning for a wash

if you can line up your washing day with your weekly towel use more power to you.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:31

PrincessofWells · 03/05/2026 11:43

Changing pyjamas every day ffs . . .

I know! Crazy.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 13:29

Iwanttobeafraser · 03/05/2026 11:51

I was using a certain amount of hyperbole! :)

Yes, I aim for weekly. Although what actually happens is the children leave the old towels still hanging up and bring up new ones and so we do it fortnightly, but it's about 8 towels by then! Grin

🤣🤣

shuffleofftobuffalo · 03/05/2026 13:27

Assuming she’s not sitting in front of the machine and watching it wash, that’s very achievable. I’ve just put on a massive load of bedding and towels, it will wash for about 3 hours, then I’ll hang it out. Total time about 20 mins max, including putting on another load to dry overnight. I between I will take DD to her friend’s, do the shopping and have a Sunday chillax.

my washing machine is so big I could rent it out as. Spare room - if I wasn’t fussy about how I treat different fabrics I reckon I could easily do 2.5 loads a week.