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AIBU to be amazed my friend does all her laundry in one day?

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Laundryqueen1 · 03/05/2026 08:52

I called over to a friend yesterday evening with my dc. She was just coming down the stairs with an empty laundry basket when she answered the door.
she took a few minutes to answer the door so as she opened the door, she apologised and said she was putting away the laundry.
I jokingly said oh no bother I must put mine away, It’s been sitting there all week I need to clear the basket for the next lot.
she then proceeded to tell me she does ALL her laundry on a Saturday- washes, dries, irons and puts away! IN ONE DAY! I nearly fell to the floor. She said she had two and a half loads.
I was even more baffled because she couldn’t have us round until 7ish because she had a crazy busy day. Her dd had training, her ds had a friend over for a playdate, her dd then had an appointment in the afternoon. Then she had to collect her dh from the train station. My mind is blown! She fits her laundry in between doing all of this…and she irons! 😅 where am I going wrong?

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FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 16:28

MyMonthlyNameChange · 03/05/2026 14:52

Genuine question though - where would you store the dusted off but still muddy cycling gloves?

Because DH has all his cycling gear in his wardrobe - we don't have a garage or anything like that. So if they weren't washed and put away, they'd just be lying around looking minging until he next used them again.

This thread is making me realise that so much of my laundry headache could actually be solved by having more space and more storage! Sadly not really an option at the moment. Maybe part of the reason I'm washing clothes all the time is just to get them out of the fucking way and back in the drawers?!

Fair. My cycling stuff is in the garage with the bikes. My running belt goes on a shelf in wardrobe for such accessories.

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 16:26

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 16:24

It’s an AEG, a rated. I love it tbh. The cycle times don’t bother me at all.

So two settings - 1.5 hours or 20 mins?

mine has about 20 settings and all have different times (including a setting for soft toys, one for trainers, one for silks….)

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 16:24

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 15:51

What brand?

get yourself a Miele. Pricey but I’d give up my right arm before I gave up my Miele

It’s an AEG, a rated. I love it tbh. The cycle times don’t bother me at all.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:58

OneTimeThingToday · 03/05/2026 15:51

I love a MN washing thread. Akways brings out the extremes.

Does anyone else just eash tbibgs when they need to, dry outside if its nice but uses the dryer if necessary, will do something lije the eibter ckats or blankets on a nice spfibg day before they are packed away and has no idea exactly how many loads that equates to weekly?

Good to see someone else who has a twatty phone too. Weirdly I can read your list just fine 😂

yes, that's what I do, except for the dryer (I don't have one) so I do watch for 'good drying days' & get a load put in!

BeachClub · 03/05/2026 15:58

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 15:51

What brand?

get yourself a Miele. Pricey but I’d give up my right arm before I gave up my Miele

I'd say the same about my Bosch and it's half the price of a Miele.

BeachClub · 03/05/2026 15:56

I do 5-6 loads a week and tend to spread them over 3-4 days.

It depends on how often you wash things like towels, bedding, bras. That of course is another thread but some people aren't as obsessive with these things and so it drastically reduces the amount of loads.
I can wear my bra for 4 days straight for example so I only need to wash them all every couple of weeks.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 03/05/2026 15:55

theresbeautyinwindysun · 03/05/2026 09:03

I have no understanding why people spend valuable time ironing. I just don’t understand it.

Some clothes look terrible creased

mindutopia · 03/05/2026 15:53

We don’t own this many clothes. I pretty much need to do a load every day so it can dry because I only have one day’s worth of spare school uniform, PE kit, sports kit for evening training, clothes for mucking out my horse, pyjamas. I wear the same jeans most of the week but really only own 2 shirts so have to wash one in case I need it for the next day if the other one ends up sweaty or splattered with dinner.

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 15:51

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 15:50

Nope it has a 20min wash for 3kg

What brand?

get yourself a Miele. Pricey but I’d give up my right arm before I gave up my Miele

OneTimeThingToday · 03/05/2026 15:51

I love a MN washing thread. Akways brings out the extremes.

Does anyone else just eash tbibgs when they need to, dry outside if its nice but uses the dryer if necessary, will do something lije the eibter ckats or blankets on a nice spfibg day before they are packed away and has no idea exactly how many loads that equates to weekly?

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 15:50

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 14:52

To the poster who said her washing takes 1.5 hours minimum. Does your machine not have a faster wash? Unless it’s very dirty, my washing is nearly always done on a 28 minute cycle, ( machine also has 14 minute cycle) and is perfectly clean.

Nope it has a 20min wash for 3kg

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:41

DeedlessIndeed · 03/05/2026 15:29

God, I do one load a day!
What about tea towels and dishcloths? Does she mix these in with the clothes? And surely bedding / towels need a hotter wash.

I do tea towels & dish cloths together in a separate wash. I don't like the thought of them being washed with pants/socks/bath towels etc but it always turn a bit nasty on here with people saying the idea is that things get clean, doesn't your machine work etc.

But I've always done everything (except rare delicates) on 40°. 💁🏻‍♀️

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:33

Tableforjoan · 03/05/2026 14:58

I don’t know about your machine but on mine those are the freshen up cycles. I’d only use them on barely worn clothes and a half empty drum definitely not my full load including towels.

I use a claimed 59 minute cycle I’d never is though because I’ve waited when it says 16 minutes left and come back after 10 and might still say 13 minutes to go 😅

Yeah mine does that sometimes too! It's annoying if I'm waiting to go out. I've occasionally had to stop it & do the rinse/spin cycle when I get home again, but I don't like doing it because the clothes get much more wrinkled.

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 15:32

DeedlessIndeed · 03/05/2026 15:29

God, I do one load a day!
What about tea towels and dishcloths? Does she mix these in with the clothes? And surely bedding / towels need a hotter wash.

On Mumsnet everything is chucked in! I do separately:
coloureds-weekly
whites/ pales weekly
tea towels-when there’s a carrier bag full
bedding -2-3 weekly
towels-weekly
bath mats- now and again

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:30

MyMonthlyNameChange · 03/05/2026 14:52

Genuine question though - where would you store the dusted off but still muddy cycling gloves?

Because DH has all his cycling gear in his wardrobe - we don't have a garage or anything like that. So if they weren't washed and put away, they'd just be lying around looking minging until he next used them again.

This thread is making me realise that so much of my laundry headache could actually be solved by having more space and more storage! Sadly not really an option at the moment. Maybe part of the reason I'm washing clothes all the time is just to get them out of the fucking way and back in the drawers?!

We did have a huge garage at the time where muddy gloves went with muddy bikes, sandy kayaks, camping gear etc it does make a HUGE difference (& my current life IS very different. 😢). In your situation I'd put them (well he would be told to!) in a bag (just a tote bag) with the footwear he uses & helmet etc). Then the bag out in the least PITA spot possible.🌷

DeedlessIndeed · 03/05/2026 15:29

God, I do one load a day!
What about tea towels and dishcloths? Does she mix these in with the clothes? And surely bedding / towels need a hotter wash.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:24

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 14:52

To the poster who said her washing takes 1.5 hours minimum. Does your machine not have a faster wash? Unless it’s very dirty, my washing is nearly always done on a 28 minute cycle, ( machine also has 14 minute cycle) and is perfectly clean.

Mine has a 30 minute wash, but I always use the cycle where it weighs the load & takes into account what heat (40°) & spin (1200 if drying indoors/800 line drying) you've chosen and then determines how long it needs. Usually about 1hr 40 mins.

I don't really mind how long it wants to take to do what it considers a good job, it's doing it. Not me!

it's a balance of time & agitation. Faster washes are more agitation & harder in the clothes, 'Eco' washes are longer & slower, more soaking lower agitation.

each make of machine varies & people need to check their specific machine if they're trying to save money, because it's not always the wash you'd think it would be. But if they're happy with the extra expense & extra cost & feel the wash is good enough then 💁🏻‍♀️

TheEasterBunny3 · 03/05/2026 15:19

I do between 12 - 15 loads a week! For 5 of us.

I think Id have 3 loads a week if it was just me living here.

I really want to know what she washes and for how many people (Im assuming she doesn't separate into different colours/types like I do).

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:14

MyMonthlyNameChange · 03/05/2026 14:45

Haha! I'm finding it hilarious how triggered I am by this thread*. This is the sort of thing DH (who never does the laundry) says to me. As if I'm deliberately making my life harder for no reason.

But to answer your question, yeah, basically. DH's cycling and running gear is a sweaty, muddy, shitshow. The teen's netball stuff is always a bit niffy after one use. I suppose I could not wash the netball skirt but when I'm washing everything else anyway what's one extra small skirt? It feels a bit minging not to wash the karate gi after an hour of rolling around on the mats where teenager's sweaty bare feet have been treading. Also, sensei gets a bit arsey if the gi isn't sparkling white. And football kit speaks for itself!

Honestly, there. is. so. much. laundry. all. the. time. I don't need solutions or challenges. I think I just really need the validation of someone agreeing with me that yes, yes there is.

*Not at all meant in a snarky way.

Yes, yes there is, if you don't like clothes festering or the kids not going to activities clean! 🌷

other people aren't so bothered, that's up to them 🌷

busyd4y · 03/05/2026 15:11

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 14:52

To the poster who said her washing takes 1.5 hours minimum. Does your machine not have a faster wash? Unless it’s very dirty, my washing is nearly always done on a 28 minute cycle, ( machine also has 14 minute cycle) and is perfectly clean.

But it costs more and uses more water, I'm happy for a longer wash.id get a log jam if the washing took a fraction of time of the drying

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 15:08

northernballer · 03/05/2026 15:00

Is that not really expensive in terms of energy and water though? I always use the eco setting and it has saved me loads - I do 2 loads a day so every penny counts!

I presumed it would mean less energy and water!

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 15:07

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 14:36

Do I really though? I don’t think I’ve posted it for ages, and never on random unrelated posts tbf…I don’t see your comment as funny tbh.

Well humour me then & post one. I love seeing other people's kitchens. My current one is bloody tiny & I can't settle on how I'm going to re-do it (well now I'm disabled 'how it's going to BE re-done because I can no longer do it myself 😥)

the comment wasn't funny, it was just rude.

Lovingapeacefulgarden · 03/05/2026 15:06

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 13:18

FIFTEEN! I appreciate there are five of you, but that's an average of three loads per person per week. I am a single person and there's no way I do three loads per week.

I know its so much but swimming alone is 1 load, school t shirt whites are 1, bedding 3 loads, towels 1 and the rest is clothes as the kids are very outdoor types plus have gym kits including mine.

northernballer · 03/05/2026 15:00

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 14:52

To the poster who said her washing takes 1.5 hours minimum. Does your machine not have a faster wash? Unless it’s very dirty, my washing is nearly always done on a 28 minute cycle, ( machine also has 14 minute cycle) and is perfectly clean.

Is that not really expensive in terms of energy and water though? I always use the eco setting and it has saved me loads - I do 2 loads a day so every penny counts!

Tableforjoan · 03/05/2026 14:58

Allseeingallknowing · 03/05/2026 14:52

To the poster who said her washing takes 1.5 hours minimum. Does your machine not have a faster wash? Unless it’s very dirty, my washing is nearly always done on a 28 minute cycle, ( machine also has 14 minute cycle) and is perfectly clean.

I don’t know about your machine but on mine those are the freshen up cycles. I’d only use them on barely worn clothes and a half empty drum definitely not my full load including towels.

I use a claimed 59 minute cycle I’d never is though because I’ve waited when it says 16 minutes left and come back after 10 and might still say 13 minutes to go 😅