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AIBU to be amazed my friend does all her laundry in one day?

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Laundryqueen1 · 03/05/2026 08:52

I called over to a friend yesterday evening with my dc. She was just coming down the stairs with an empty laundry basket when she answered the door.
she took a few minutes to answer the door so as she opened the door, she apologised and said she was putting away the laundry.
I jokingly said oh no bother I must put mine away, It’s been sitting there all week I need to clear the basket for the next lot.
she then proceeded to tell me she does ALL her laundry on a Saturday- washes, dries, irons and puts away! IN ONE DAY! I nearly fell to the floor. She said she had two and a half loads.
I was even more baffled because she couldn’t have us round until 7ish because she had a crazy busy day. Her dd had training, her ds had a friend over for a playdate, her dd then had an appointment in the afternoon. Then she had to collect her dh from the train station. My mind is blown! She fits her laundry in between doing all of this…and she irons! 😅 where am I going wrong?

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OompaLoofah · 03/05/2026 11:00

2.5 loads, we have that in just bedding/towels each week. 🤔

MrPickles73 · 03/05/2026 10:59

Bedding is 2-3 washes per week, sports kit 1 and then there's all the normal stuff. it's not abnormal for me to do 1-3 washes a day, everyday.

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 10:58

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:52

We ALL have other things to do in the morning.

I (used to) put my machine on as soon as I woke up, then did ALL the other things, then hung it out before leaving before 7.

Up early & organised 💁🏻‍♀️

Yeah but I don’t have a billion washes a week so I don’t have the need. I wake at 6:30, I get myself ready, I wake my dc at 7 and then we have brekkie and make lunches etc. we leave at 7:30 and 8 depending on what’s going on. My washing machine takes an hour and a half…I’m not adding another factor to my morning for no reason.

Scabbyhands · 03/05/2026 10:56

Washing loads per week. Family of 3
2 x bedding
2 x towels and bathmats
2 x sports gear
1 x whites
2 x darks
1 x lights

That’s at least 10 per week. We wear things multiple times apart from my work uniform which has to be fresh every day. On top of that there will be a tea towel wash once per fortnight, woollen wash every few weeks and door mats once a month. I’m baffled how she manages only 2.5 per week!

suki1964 · 03/05/2026 10:55

When I was a child, blazer was dried cleaned once a year , they weren't washable back then ( 70's )

Two adults here, DH is a manual worker - jeans, tees and hoodies , I work 4 hours a day - with uniform which consists of black leggings and black tees - clean tee daily , leggings maybe twice a week - a tiny space in the machine

I probably do three, sometimes four washes a week

I might have something sat at the bottom of the laundry box for weeks until I have enough to justify a load

Machine goes on at 5am, same as the dishwasher before I head out at 5;30, DH empties it and hangs out either outside or on the airer at 7am when he wakes

If it's been outside its usually dry time I get home at 10am . None of the work clothes get ironed. Social clothing and sheets do but I do that weekends whilst catching up on a programme

We also dont wear just once before washing. The rare occasion we go out we are out for a few hours, we have showered before we dress, clothes come off and are hung on the wardrobe door to air and be reworn

Probably spend an hour a week on laundry

Unlike when we first got together and it was a weekly trip to the launderette , trolly and large bag, one big machine, 2 small, trapped in there for at least 3 hours getting it all washed and dried . Read an awful lot back. then :)

WanderingWellies · 03/05/2026 10:55

theresbeautyinwindysun · 03/05/2026 09:03

I have no understanding why people spend valuable time ironing. I just don’t understand it.

Because the clothes look nicer on, they fold more neatly and they fit into drawers better. And it’s a task that can be done whilst enjoying something on the telly with a glass of wine, unlike scrubbing the bathrooms or cleaning the kitchen. I’d rather iron for 2
hours than spend 20 minutes folding the laundry - have hated that task since I was a child!

BumpyaDaisyevna · 03/05/2026 10:54

I do all mine on a Sunday! Four loads. Darks whites coloureds towels.

Most goes in the tumble dryer a few things are hung up to dry.

we don’t really iron anything other than DH irons his shirts and trousers. I iron what I need as and when I need it.

in the evening when we are watching tv DH and I fold it into a basket for each of us. It’s each persons job to put their own basket away (kids are teens).

apart form the folding (which takes us 30 mins) it doesn’t take much time? Ten minutes to sort into four washes and then it’s just a few mins here and here to put in dryer and put a new wash on?

it just goes in in the background of the day.

BoredZelda · 03/05/2026 10:54

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:41

the machines are a huge fire risk. It's not good practice to leave them running when you're not home.

i used to & used to think my friend who wouldn't was a bit mad, but we had quite a few fires reported & I looked into it, now I don't do it.

Looked in to it how? Because in my looking in to it, a well maintained, relatively new appliance isn’t any more of a risk than any other electrical appliance.

TheyGrewUp · 03/05/2026 10:54

Whites, coloureds, darks.
1 x towels, 1 x bedding so 5 or 6 washes a week plus the maintenance wash of the dishcloths/teatowels with biological detergent at 95° to keep the machine fresh

Towels, bedding and nightclothes are tumbled - it's easier.

Everything else goes on the airer in the spar room.

I wash when there's a full.load so not all on one day but sometimes there might be five loads ready so I do them. I sort and put away on Sunday mornings.

Just me, dh and grown up dd for 3/4 noghts a week.

DH has a clean proper shirt every day, dd and I have clean tops every day. I might get two days out of a dress on a work day. Obs undies every day.

There's about two hours of ironing weekly. Cleaner does it.

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:52

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 09:10

No. I have other things to do in the morning. I just couldn’t fit that in before leaving at 7:30/8
Getting dressed, sorting lunches etc.
I also live in Ireland where I don’t trust the weather 😅
When is the washing machine being put on? When you are asleep? That would freak me out tbh.

We ALL have other things to do in the morning.

I (used to) put my machine on as soon as I woke up, then did ALL the other things, then hung it out before leaving before 7.

Up early & organised 💁🏻‍♀️

Kitchenbattle · 03/05/2026 10:50

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:46

Yep.

funny how many of us working full time manage, when others declare it impossible!

(im currently not working due to health issues. But managed for decades & never had a dryer!)

Oh my god it’s almost like we all live differently…funny thought isn’t it.

  1. I wouldn’t dream of putting my washing on while the house is asleep.
  2. As I said my washing machine takes 1.5hours min.
  3. I am getting ready for work and making breakfast/lunches In the morning (no school dinners here)
  4. I live in Ireland by the sea, the weather cannot be trusted most of the year.
so yep it’s not something that I want to make possible. It wouldn’t help me anyway. 2 loads on a Saturday isn’t back breaking for me.
BoredZelda · 03/05/2026 10:49

Mymanyellow · 03/05/2026 09:40

No way can you have three loads a month! I live alone , bedding and towels there’s two there straight off every week.

How small is your machine? Or, how many towels/bedding are you using? My washing machine is a 9kg, a king size duvet set and a couple of towels and it’s probably just over half full.

Mrsmch123 · 03/05/2026 10:48

This is me! Everything done on a Sunday. Towels, bedding, clothes the lot!

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:46

Roads · 03/05/2026 09:07

Of course it's an option if you work. Confused I work and am out the house 7-4ish most days as I said if it's going to be a nice day you peg a load out and then bring it in when you get home. Isn't that what most people do?

Yep.

funny how many of us working full time manage, when others declare it impossible!

(im currently not working due to health issues. But managed for decades & never had a dryer!)

maftaz · 03/05/2026 10:46

I'm retired now, and my mum told me that when my granny was alive and younger with kids she had a washday on a Monday, hail rain or shine. She had a washboard and a mangle and sunlight soap. It was very hard work and took up most of the day. She had two of those hanging maid things in the kitchen over the range and a couple of washing lines in the back garden. She never got a washing machine as she eventually lived alone and said she didn't need one, and her wise words were, that they would have everyone washing ten times a day to see the drum going round!

Funny that.

Bellasmellsofwee · 03/05/2026 10:43

I do a load of washing and put it away everyday. There’s 5 of us in the house, 3 adults and two children, plus a massive dog so we have throws for the sofas which I wash and change every other day.

Me or dh will put everything in the washing machine when we wake up, then I will put it in the drier when it’s done, and then I sort, wash and fold and put it all away as soon as it’s done.

I put eveything in the drier all year round. But then, I don’t think any of us own anything that shouldn’t go in a drier. I don’t sort colours or fabrics for the washing machine either, it all just goes in. Never had an issue.

I don’t work but when I did, me and dh would dry and put everything away in the evenings.

I can’t stand washing just hanging about and I’m here all day so why not.

We always wash the bedding on a Sunday and it’s dh job to put it all back on.

we don’t iron either. Shirts come out the drier, get a shake, hung straight up and are fine. They don’t look crumpled at all and other than a few shirts, we don’t really wear anything that would need ironing.

I grew up with a father who would iron socks and t towels, so I thought fuck that shit at a very young age. I’ve never owned an iron since I moved out at 16!

Iloveeverycat · 03/05/2026 10:41

Tshirtking · 03/05/2026 08:59

You put laundry in washer, press on then do other stuff. Then you put that in dryer switch on then out other stuff in washer then get in with other stuff. You repeat this 2 and a half times. All she is really doing is spending 5-10 mins each time loading and unloading. There's plenty of time for the other stuff.

This, and I don't iron either.

TheCurious0range · 03/05/2026 10:41

topcat2014 · 03/05/2026 10:34

Do you run a hotel 😀

No but 2 adults one DC lots of gym and sports kits, gym towels, plus the usual clothing, uniform, pyjamas, 2 lots of bed linen (that's two loads just there)! We had PIL to stay last weekend so another set of bedding and another couple of towels although got all of that in one load. I remember fondly when I lived alone and did 2-3 loads a week.....

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:41

NoelEdmondsHairGel · 03/05/2026 09:04

We do all of ours on a Saturday (well DH does it). Around 5-6 loads. Doesn’t stop us going out though - we’re not sitting supervising the machines.

the machines are a huge fire risk. It's not good practice to leave them running when you're not home.

i used to & used to think my friend who wouldn't was a bit mad, but we had quite a few fires reported & I looked into it, now I don't do it.

MyMonthlyNameChange · 03/05/2026 10:41

FoxRedPuppy · 03/05/2026 09:51

Why are you washing cycling gloves???

Controversial on MN but I often peg our washing the night before, if the weather is going to be good. Then bring it in the next morning. I realise this leads to it being “darker on”.

Until recently when the weather improved, all cycling gear would come back splattered in mud. It's mountain biking, not road cycling. So, extra fucking messy.

(Don't get me started on cycling.)

flapjackfairy · 03/05/2026 10:40

PenelopePinkerton · 03/05/2026 10:33

Depends on the size of your family and how soiled your clothes get. We have between 8-10 people here and I love a bit of gardening so I’m usually going through a couple of outfits a day. Then there’s all the bedding so we have two machines that are on at least once a day each if not more.

Oh stop it now ! You are giving me washing machine envy ! it is my lifes ambition to have a laundry with 2 washers and 2 dryers!

Chewbecca · 03/05/2026 10:40

I do most of it in one day too. One light, one dark, one towels. DH does bedclothes on another date.

I use the short cycle for most things. Peg it out. Bring it back late pm. Only iron about 3 items, away it goes.

Crikeyomalley · 03/05/2026 10:39

MayDaySunshinePlease · 03/05/2026 10:36

People who have large capacity machines, don't change their bedding & towels often enough, put everything in mixed loads I guess.

I usually add some bedclothes and towels with my mixed loads and a third for the left overs so 3 loads a week . I'm trying not to wash things as frequently as well - not after every wear if not visibly stained

user7463246787 · 03/05/2026 10:39

Family of 4. Kids are older teens. We, ha, I always do one sometimes two loads of clothes a day then 3 or 4 loads of bedding/towels a week when the weather suits to hang outside this time of year. Saving it all for one day wouldn’t work at all here!

Sidebeforeself · 03/05/2026 10:39

You can only “peg out” if you have space, tumble dry if you have one etc.This is a typical example of a thread where many posters assume everyone has the same set up they have.