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AIBU to feel sad about ageing and becoming invisible?

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Madformaltesers · 03/05/2026 00:11

Been out tonight for a family meal..I'm mum (single parent) out with three sons and spouses all in their thirties, i am in my fifties.
I am old, it’s evident, when I am out, i like a dance but I'm old and they were not playing any 80s music!
I've come home, realising I wont ever turn heads again, I've been there, done that and Im now invisible.
I will never be youthful again.
God I feel sad, I am successful, my children, grandchildren are amazing and my legacy but the absolute sadness that my life is marching on has really upset me.

OP posts:
Chiefangel · 03/05/2026 00:24

I like and don’t miss it for the world.

nocoolnamesleft · 03/05/2026 00:22

I find it a great relief to be fairly invisible these days.

Calendulaaria · 03/05/2026 00:20

I'm over 50 and nobody ever looks at me with interest. It's a relief to be honest. I was touched, assaulted and leered at so many times on public transport and at pubs etc, when I was young that I find it relaxing being older with no attention. I guess we are all different though and I'm sorry that you are finding it sad.