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Friends going out and sending pics to the uninvited 😵‍💫

116 replies

BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 19:45

Can’t quite understand what’s going on here. Genuinely perplexed.

We are a group of 6 neighbours. We only know each other because we’re neighbours, no other connection besides that.

We have all known each other a number of years. We have a group chat where we chat and share photos etc. We go out a handful of times a year and have girly nights in too. But keep in touch every few days via the chat, and in person as we all live close, so see each other in the street.

Tonight, 2 of the women have gone out together. I certainly wasn’t invited and I know that the other women in the group are all at home alone. The 2 who are out, are sending multiple messages, photos and videos of the night out to the Group chat.

No idea what to make of it. I’m a bit 😵‍💫 as I’m sure the other women and me would have loved a night out rather than sitting in alone on a Saturday night.

What do you think is going on here?

I know everyone is entitled to do whatever they want. But it’s a bit odd, no? To exclude others and then send all the pics. It’s not something I would do.

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gdyuttrrrr · 02/05/2026 21:09

If it was 4 of them leaving 2 out I’d understand, but 2 out of 6…I don’t think that’s a big deal? I would assume they’re closer with each other than you realise?

AltitudeCheck · 02/05/2026 21:05

I'd guess they met by chance and ended up on an impromptu night out, had a few drinks and then thought of the rest of the friend group and wished you were there and this is a clumsy way to 'include' you all in their fun. I bet they'll have sore heads and be a bit embarrassed tomorrow! I wouldn't dwell on it.

JudgeJ · 02/05/2026 21:02

Error404FucksNotFound · 02/05/2026 19:47

I'd have invited the other women round to mine and told them bring a bottle

A bottle, as well as a couple of dolls and a lot of pins maybe'

redskyAtNigh · 02/05/2026 21:00

If it has been 5 out of the 6, you would be right to be annoyed. But 2 out of the 6? it's 2 people who are friends going out together and sharing pictures with other people who are also their friends. Probably because they think you might be interested.

You don't have to do everything together. I think the fact that you don't do much outside the group is colouring your view. If I see my friends out together I'm just pleased for them. I might say "that looked like fun, if you go again, let me know and I'll join in if I'm free", but it would be no particular big deal if they didn't.

Grizelina · 02/05/2026 20:59

I would like the post and put something along the lines of “looks like a great night out, would have liked/loved to have joined you - anyone up for next week?”

That way all the other uninvited in the group chat get motivated to go next week in a larger group, dousing the two ladies out tonight.

Smittenkitchen · 02/05/2026 20:58

For those saying they seem like teen-agers worrying about such things: My mum has friends in their late 80's and one is over 100 even and there are often feelings hurt and people getting upset over not being invited to things.

IWaffleAlot · 02/05/2026 20:50

Has anyone commented?

TheGardenRose · 02/05/2026 20:49

Group chats are the work of Satan.

Namechange6578 · 02/05/2026 20:48

Going out together is fine, but posting pics on the group is just weird!!

DisappearingGirl · 02/05/2026 20:48

I agree with you OP. Nothing wrong with going out as the two of them, but I wouldn't be sending pics to the rest of you.

Papster · 02/05/2026 20:48

Idontjetwashthefucker · 02/05/2026 20:41

How classy

I knew you’d appreciate it with your username

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 02/05/2026 20:45

I don't see the issue. It's two of them out of six. There are bound to be some friendships that are closer than others within that group. There is no law that says that you all have to do everything together.

If four or five of them had gone out for the night and left out just one or two of you, I'd get it. But that's not what happened.

PoppinjayPolly · 02/05/2026 20:43

BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 20:30

Exactly. For various reasons, none of us have a good social life outside of the group, which makes it a bit harder. We’re all nice women, the reason for this is because we have all moved here from different cities to start over. Actually that’s the first time that’s dawned on me that we have all moved here from far away!!

So have you organised a night out?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 02/05/2026 20:41

Papster · 02/05/2026 20:14

‘Looks fun. Got to rush as I’m being spit roasted by your husbands’

How classy

Goinggonegone · 02/05/2026 20:38

I'd think they were just trying to include the rest of you, as it were.

TofuTuesday · 02/05/2026 20:37

But do you have to do everything as a six? That’s so tiresome, organising everyone’s diaries and budgets each time. Just like the photos and say you’d love to arrange a drink with anyone who’s up for it next week.

HoardingCow · 02/05/2026 20:36

Hi. This is my first ever post on mums net. Lol

I would say its a little 50/50

If you've known each other that long and have a group chat and send pictures and do all the girly nights in.
Im sure you lot have gossip and talk about anything and everything assuming you are all home alone. So having some company is great. You get to.know each other more and get closer this way.
They may not have planned it and bumped into each other and carried on the night together. You just never know. If I were you I would message and say... "uhum excuse me. Where was my invite" something not to offend but being friends for a few years like you mentioned i would be straight forward BUT you dont always have to invite everyone out each time. If you want to go deeper. They might like each other more than the rest of you...thats not a problem though they might just have more in common ect. not wanting to start anything here but you just do not know what happened. If it was just planned between the 2 of them then I would outright ask where was my invite. But not trying to seem jealous or annoyed so use the words for you and some emoji to cut through any feelings that dont want to be seen.

HoardingCow · 02/05/2026 20:35

Error404FucksNotFound · 02/05/2026 19:47

I'd have invited the other women round to mine and told them bring a bottle

Sorry ignore message you can tell im new here. I think I replied to the wrong person now cant find out how to delete the message 🤦‍♀️

Dancingsquirrels · 02/05/2026 20:35

TalulahJP · 02/05/2026 20:04

i’d post something sarcastic like:
“looks like fun, guess my invite got lost in the post 🤣”

Would you really?

I wonder what that would achieve

BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 20:30

PoppinjayPolly · 02/05/2026 20:22

I’m sure the other women and me would have loved a night out rather than sitting in alone on a Saturday night.
when did you last organise the night out?

Exactly. For various reasons, none of us have a good social life outside of the group, which makes it a bit harder. We’re all nice women, the reason for this is because we have all moved here from different cities to start over. Actually that’s the first time that’s dawned on me that we have all moved here from far away!!

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PoppinjayPolly · 02/05/2026 20:22

I’m sure the other women and me would have loved a night out rather than sitting in alone on a Saturday night.
when did you last organise the night out?

LivingTheDreamish · 02/05/2026 20:21

Yes posting in the group chat is a bit off, I'd feel the same OP. These kinds of friendship groups always unravel eventually.

Mrsknowitall · 02/05/2026 20:20

I’d just write in the group - ah man all these pics and vids are making me want to have a drink now, liz and @ daisy fancy bringing a bottle round mine and making a night of it?

pikkumyy77 · 02/05/2026 20:17

I don’t see the problem? You are neighbors not conjoined twins. This is such a weird teenager way of looking at socializing. Its not a competition or a zero sum game. There’s nothing being stolen from you by these women. Poor things thought you were better friends than you are since you can’t stand to see anyone have fun and not be included.

BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 20:17

The normal MO is to put in the group chat “is anyone free on the 2nd to go to X”…..this definitely hasn’t been posted in the chat. It’s almost like they are saying “look what we got up to without you guys”…..very weird! No one has responded, I guess we are all at home like this 😵‍💫😵‍💫

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