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Friends going out and sending pics to the uninvited 😵‍💫

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BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 19:45

Can’t quite understand what’s going on here. Genuinely perplexed.

We are a group of 6 neighbours. We only know each other because we’re neighbours, no other connection besides that.

We have all known each other a number of years. We have a group chat where we chat and share photos etc. We go out a handful of times a year and have girly nights in too. But keep in touch every few days via the chat, and in person as we all live close, so see each other in the street.

Tonight, 2 of the women have gone out together. I certainly wasn’t invited and I know that the other women in the group are all at home alone. The 2 who are out, are sending multiple messages, photos and videos of the night out to the Group chat.

No idea what to make of it. I’m a bit 😵‍💫 as I’m sure the other women and me would have loved a night out rather than sitting in alone on a Saturday night.

What do you think is going on here?

I know everyone is entitled to do whatever they want. But it’s a bit odd, no? To exclude others and then send all the pics. It’s not something I would do.

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Changeusernameagainn · 03/05/2026 04:48

Two people are allowed to go out together OP!

If it were three or four of them I'd be annoyed I'd been left out, but two of them going out on there own could have been for a whole range of reasons.

FrankieMcGrath · 03/05/2026 00:43

Namechange6578 · 02/05/2026 20:48

Going out together is fine, but posting pics on the group is just weird!!

This!

ThisSunnyBee · 02/05/2026 23:40

NoTouch · 02/05/2026 23:35

Two woman can go out together without seeking group approval first. Hw it came about is none of your business, and probably mundane.

They posted because they are thinking about you guys.

Dont make it into something it’s not and ruin the nice neighbourly thing you have going on.

Voice of reason at last. You are not 16 presumably

ThisSunnyBee · 02/05/2026 23:39

Dancingsquirrels · 02/05/2026 20:35

Would you really?

I wonder what that would achieve

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Pricisely nothing but would look pathetic

NoTouch · 02/05/2026 23:35

Two woman can go out together without seeking group approval first. Hw it came about is none of your business, and probably mundane.

They posted because they are thinking about you guys.

Dont make it into something it’s not and ruin the nice neighbourly thing you have going on.

SingingHinny · 02/05/2026 23:18

It’s incredibly juvenile to get upset because two friends have gone out without you. And it’s a bit of a stretch to think they’re ‘looking for a reaction’ by posting on your WhatsApp. If you wanted to go out, it was up to you to suggest it, not sit about at home bemoaning.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2026 23:12

ilovebrie8 · 02/05/2026 19:57

That’s a bit odd …sending pics to the rest of you.

It is a bit odd, but then equally that is kind of what SM is for isn't it: "Look at MEEEEE everybody!!"

JanBlues2026 · 02/05/2026 23:09

I would say - count me in next time, I’m due a night out! Anyone free on the Xth?

Blossoms217 · 02/05/2026 23:00

Have they bumped into each other whilst out

Cocktailglass · 02/05/2026 23:00

It's not a case of one person being left out, more a probably spontaneous let's go out. As you said, you're all friends because you're neighbours amd that's great. However I wouldn't want them to be my main source of friends, like school Mums. Having established true meaningful friendships before now, any extra like neighbours is a bonus but I really wouldn't want to go in too deep, just meet ups now and again. Xx

Ohnobackagain · 02/05/2026 22:57

@BrownEyedLassie jokey response ‘did we miss an invite?’

BitOutOfPractice · 02/05/2026 22:46

When you posted this it was still time to invite the other women round with a bottle of wine.

Vodkamartini3olives · 02/05/2026 22:42

They haven't done anything wrong. Two friends going out together is just that. They're clearly not being sly or shady about it. My friends often post pictures of nights out,.I like seeing them have fun. I certainly wouldn't see it as a personal slight.

TapestryNeedle · 02/05/2026 22:35

I would never be in any group, form or chat with a neighbour to start with. Especially the women

AppleKatie · 02/05/2026 22:16

Less than half is fine. They haven’t ’left you out’. They’ve just gone out

Dery · 02/05/2026 22:08

If 5 of them were out without you, i can see why it would sting but if it’s just 2 members of the group of 6 i can’t really see why anyone needs to mind. As someone said upthread, i think if anything they are trying to include everyone.

comeondover · 02/05/2026 22:05

In the absence of any issues between you, I wouldn't read it as the rest of you being excluded. Just those two decided to go out together. Maybe it was fairly spontaneous or they didn't give it much thought. I'd see the fact that they're sending pics as them actually including you in a way.

Blondeshavemorefun · 02/05/2026 22:02

2/6 are out. Leaving 3 and you not , so 4 of you not invited. Don’t see the issue tbh

DeskGnome · 02/05/2026 21:47

I’m sure the other women and me would have loved a night out rather than sitting in alone on a Saturday night.

So why didn't you go out then?

You're allowed out without your neighbours you know 😳

coolcahuna · 02/05/2026 21:46

I'm with you OP, this would really annoy me too - what are you supposed to say? Have a great evening?

OldGothNowadays · 02/05/2026 21:43

I really can't see the problem.

I'm in a group chat with 6 or 7 other friends. Sometimes we all go out together, sometimes a smaller group will meet up and sometimes we'll meet up with one other person.

If were doing something fun or we think others might be interested, we'll share photos ro tye group. Not because anyone is looking for a reaction but because (and hold on to your hats here) we actually like each other! We don't read malice into everything everyone does, we don't all expect to be included and it is quite nice to see people I like having fun.

It always amazes me that this is such a problem for so many people on here.

Coconutter24 · 02/05/2026 21:35

BrownEyedLassie · 02/05/2026 20:17

The normal MO is to put in the group chat “is anyone free on the 2nd to go to X”…..this definitely hasn’t been posted in the chat. It’s almost like they are saying “look what we got up to without you guys”…..very weird! No one has responded, I guess we are all at home like this 😵‍💫😵‍💫

You’re overthinking this massively.

Sprinkleofspice · 02/05/2026 21:19

I think going out together is fine but posting on the group chat is weird. I could only really understand that if the others were invited but couldn’t come, even then it would be rubbish to show much fun they’re having without the others. I think someone will have to reply or it’ll be so awkward to completely ignore it and then message about something else

corkscissorschalk · 02/05/2026 21:16

I don’t see why you are bothered to be honest?
I don’t care if a few of my friends do something.
I would be upset if the whole group did something I would enjoy and I was the only one not included, but aside from that then I wouldn’t be upset at all.

Nearly50omg · 02/05/2026 21:10

I’d set up another group chat with the other 4 and organise a night out just us 4 without the other 2!!