Friends going out and sending pics to the uninvited 😵‍💫

Op's group isn't for 'shared events'.
"We have all known each other a number of years. We have a group chat where we chat and share photos etc. We go out a handful of times a year and have girly nights in too. But keep in touch every few days via the chat, and in person as we all live close, so see each other in the street."

Why wouldn't we share photos? No secret. Full story - We went half way up the country to camp for a horsemanship clinic. Everyone in the group knew it was on. I booked up to go alone, discovered my friend had done the same, so we decided to go together in my car. Even if anyone else decided to go there wouldn't have been room in the car for them and camping gear.
It's not unknown for some of the group to do stuff without the rest, usually they share photos on our WhatsApp and others make nice comments about them.
We're a group of friends, not joined at the hip. Maybe we come from a tougher generation not so easily offended.
The person who passively aggressively sent the text could easily have asked if anyone was going to the clinic and would like to car share.😂

to my thinking a whatsapp group is for shared events, if you are branching off, you can share on facebook, rather than sharing in the group, imo

@Yeseyeam so why did you share the photos, why didnt you invite them?

I'm surprised at the number of people who think this was wrong, and who would be sending passive aggressive messages. Immature.
A group of friends will go out all together for sure, but there's also nothing wrong with a couple of them deciding to do something smaller scale together. They shared their photos because, like me, they see nothing wrong with what they did. You're supposedly friends who might enjoy seeing what they've been up to.
I'm reminded of the time when a friend and I (part of a larger group who often do stuff together) went off in my car to an event. We were camping and had my little Honda crammed with gear to suit all weathers. Got a txt 'It looks lovely, I wish you'd told me you were going, I could have come with you'. We felt really uncomfortable and actually thought it was a bit rude. If we'd wanted to invite anyone else we would have done, it was just fun to go as a pair for a change.

It is not a Benidorm hotel it ia people doing normal things with each other

it doesnt seem very inclusive

Yes! Why not? Wouldn't you hope your friends are having a good evening?

I’m not seeing the issue

if 5 of the 6 had gone out fair enough but just 2 not a problem

some of the replies in here are ridiculous snide comments and the other 4 getting together because the other 2 have gone out

make an issue of this and you will definitely damage the friendship group

in a group you will naturally be closer to some than others

Don't do that!!
It's not a group outing that one or 2 have been excluded from. I really think it's normal and natural that pairs within the group should be able to make deeper friendship and do things together occasionally, without inviting an extra 4 people. I think they are sending the pics so that you dont think they ate going behind your back.

Yes this, I dont know anyone in normal life that acts like this but if i got a reply like a 12 yo I would not invite them to anything again

You know people are allowed to go out as twos right, and that it’s not a situaon where everyone else is entitled to go too?

But that wouldn't be a joke, would it?

It would be snide, sarcastic, irritating, awkward, possibly lead to unravelling of the friendly rapport between neighbours. It would achieve nothing positive

OP, I hope you have the sense to ignore people who just like to stoke up drama

Do none of you socialise as pairs or 3’s? Does it always have to be as a group?

It’s more common than we like to beleive, loads of threads around about school mum cliques etc, always people wanting to be invited, thinking they are entitled, they’ve been left out. But do nothing to sort stuff themselves. Always.

I’d not be fussed about this but I have an active social life and am able to organise stuff. So I’d likely say looks brill have fun, and then a few days later say something like Jenny and Sarah’s night looked fab, shall we do a group one?

but I’d not get worked up by two of 6 going out, nor would I perceive it as sending to the uninvited. They are just sending to all the neighbours.

if you want a night out, then organise one. Don’t complain as others have one and you wanted an invite.

I honestly can't believe that grown up women behave like 12 year old girls.
People don't have to go out in large groups all the time. It's just not a mentality I get. It's controlling jealous and enviously absolutely off-putting and anyone like this would be dropped as a potential friend quicker than quick.

They probably thought they were sending pictures to each other and have just responded to each other posts, not realising it was in the wrong chat

But come on, grow up, people are allowed to go out!

Posting in the group chat is v odd imo. As PP said I agree these type of friendships fizzle out eventually

Sometimes I'd just rather go out with one person than it be an inevitably noisier group event, I don't think I could be put out by this.

They aren’t saying that - you are choosing to interpret it this way op.

I dont have to be invited or included in everything and can see photos of others people's events without relating it to me

If you make them the centre of your friends where this is an issue for you maybe make other friends, it doesn't sound healthy

They have posted whilst being drunk or in an excited mood without too much reasoning I think. Many people do. It seems you're not really friends so don't be too bothered. Perhaps those two ladies are closer.

I wouldn't chase them, but if you really care open a thread inviting others in the chat for a night out to start a tradition

Agree. It's a non issue for me

Tell the others to come over tonight with a bottle of wine since its bank hol.