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Paramedics made my father go to hospital

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wecangoupupup · 02/05/2026 17:57

My father has atrial fibrillation. He has had this for years.

He has been told multiple times what to do in the case of an episode of AF. Today, he had one while I was visiting. It took a long time to pass, so in line with his consultant’s plan my mother called 999, after the usual medications had been given at home.

In the time it took for the paramedics to arrive, the attack passed and when they did arrive, it had been nearly an hour since it had ended.

They still made him go to hospital as they “couldn’t rule out a heart attack”, despite my father insisting that he knows his body, knows what an AF episode feels like and knows when it has passed. All he wanted was to go to bed and sleep off the effects of the beta blockers he had taken.

They still essentially made him go to hospital, saying that they would make him sign forms if he didn’t which showed he had refused medical advice. I was present and the paramedics essentially made it sound as though he would be at the back of the queue if it returned and he needed an ambulance again.

Fast forward 10 hours and he’s still in hospital, no doctors available to read his ECG or his blood test results, and he’s been sleeping in a hard plastic chair. AIBU to think this is ridiculous? Paramedics really shouldn’t be encouraging patients to attend hospital when it’s not necessary.

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TeaPot496 · 02/05/2026 18:03

Put a complaint in as the paramedics need retraining. Did you call to cancel the ambulance and they attended anyway?

Also, your father could have absolutely refused to go, as he can choose to leave now.

But the coercion and bullying is unacceptable.

wecangoupupup · 02/05/2026 18:02

hahabahbag · 02/05/2026 18:00

If they hadn’t made him and it had been a heart attack, some families would then sue.

you can refuse but they do make you sign something to say it’s against their advice

We do understand that and he would have been willing to sign, but they were really quite forceful in that they think it would be a bad idea. They also made it sound like there wouldn’t be an ambulance later for him if needed.

He has had plenty of AF episodes and knows exactly what they’re like, he’s very experienced in them now.

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PassTheCranberrySauce · 02/05/2026 18:02

Your mum called an ambulance, which suggests that it was an emergency. He probably ticked a number of ‘heart attack’ boxes, so the paramedics had no option but to proceed to A&E.

Its very annoying that he’s been waiting so long.

My mum has AF, she’s never called an ambulance. She did have an ablation, which improved things immeasurably.

hahabahbag · 02/05/2026 18:00

If they hadn’t made him and it had been a heart attack, some families would then sue.

you can refuse but they do make you sign something to say it’s against their advice

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