AIBU to feel uneasy about MIL wanting one-to-one time with baby?

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Mamibaba · 02/05/2026 16:54

I only saw MIL twice in the three years before baby was born even though we live in the same town. Didn’t see her whilst pregnant but she expects to now have access to baby and one to one time. Is it right that I don’t feel comfortable with that as I don’t feel I know her wel enough.

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Lmnop22 · 02/05/2026 16:59

Depends what she means by 1 to 1 time! Like sitting in your house with baby and you go for a nap or bath? Or she wants to take the baby out and away from you for extended periods?

Miranda65 · 02/05/2026 16:58

But surely your partner/husband knows her well enough? The baby is his child too!

Nearly50omg · 02/05/2026 16:57

YOU are the baby’s mother not mil and if mil wants to visit BOTH of you then that is what you need to consider but he’ll no to the one on one time!

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 02/05/2026 16:56

How old is your baby and what exactly is mil saying?

Fwiw never leave your baby with anyone ypu dont want to.
What has your dh/dp got to say about it?

No relatives needs "alone time" with a baby.
All other things being normal/ equal... A baby should be with its mother and the mothers needs should be centred.

ProudAmberTurtle · 02/05/2026 16:56

Hard to say without knowing you all

S0j0urn4r · 02/05/2026 16:56

She's practically a stranger by the sound of it. So YANBU.

Dodorogers · 02/05/2026 16:55

You aren’t being at all unreasonable. What does your partner think?

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