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Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

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SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:28

A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

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ExpressCheckout · 03/05/2026 15:28

I once ate a lovely dessert at a restaurant that looked just like that dress Cake

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 15:26

Blanknotebook · 03/05/2026 15:14

I’m getting ‘Little House on the Prairie’ vibes.

Im getting little Bo Peep has lost her sheep

Blanknotebook · 03/05/2026 15:14

I’m getting ‘Little House on the Prairie’ vibes.

CherryRipe1 · 03/05/2026 14:50

Not rtft but I'd imagine that dress would be a wow in the AB/DL community.

TemporarilyCantDoMyself · 03/05/2026 14:36

Style and Beauty AKA Just Another Mumsnet Warzone. 😂
And there's me thinking it was a naice discussion about frocks! 👗

Reallyneedsaholiday · 03/05/2026 14:34

I guess all of our faces have subtitles at times 😂😂😂

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:33

SummerFate · 03/05/2026 14:24

She said she was cooking for nine, not that they were there right now.

The spuds are just peeled so catching up. 😁

This thread is another level 😆

Tunnocksmallow · 03/05/2026 14:32

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

Wow that’s very “what happened to Baby Jane” will she have a very powdered face too? 😬

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:31

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:28

Your post today at 12.19 was deleted. Obviously for a reason by the mods.

Ergo Im not getting into a slanging match. Ive been perfectly polite with you in the face of your snarkiness and clear riling, but it ends now.

Ah yes

it was a reference to another thread about the exact same dress. Nothing more nothing less.

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:28

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:19

Wasn’t that just me posting a photo of the dress from a other thread

What do your 9 guests think of you on your phone?

Your post today at 12.19 was deleted. Obviously for a reason by the mods.

Ergo Im not getting into a slanging match. Ive been perfectly polite with you in the face of your snarkiness and clear riling, but it ends now.

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:27

Will she only have showed you the dress? Because even though she’s not on mumsnet…. Someone in her family or who she showed might be.

Only size 4 available. No wonder since it’s been the sale for years. She must be tiny!

BeepBoopBop · 03/05/2026 14:26

Is your friend one of the York sisters?

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:25

Take it your friend hasn’t responded to you message yet?

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:25

SummerFate · 03/05/2026 14:24

She said she was cooking for nine, not that they were there right now.

That’s a relief!

SummerFate · 03/05/2026 14:24

She said she was cooking for nine, not that they were there right now.

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Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:21

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:17

The one on the previous page.

I didn't report it as I don't believe in reporting

Even when you see racist or really abusive posts?

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:19

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:17

The one on the previous page.

I didn't report it as I don't believe in reporting

Wasn’t that just me posting a photo of the dress from a other thread

What do your 9 guests think of you on your phone?

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:17

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:15

What’s been deleted?

The one on the previous page.

I didn't report it as I don't believe in reporting

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:15

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:13

Not at all.

Oh dear, our conversation is moot now anyway as the mods deleted your post. I wonder why that was?

What’s been deleted?

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:13

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:07

Touch hyperbolic! 😂

Not at all.

Oh dear, our conversation is moot now anyway as the mods deleted your post. I wonder why that was?

user233675892 · 03/05/2026 14:12

SummerFate · 03/05/2026 14:01

Well if it was conditional it wasn’t a real apology anyway.

I suspect when you apologise for calling some of us 'loons' in the first instance, simply for not agreeing with you, others might be more inclined to apologise to you. I know I'm not.

It's so odd how all you want to do is snipe at people who aren't joining in with making fun of the dress. Some of us with actual friends have offered to help you with your initial question, How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? But you seem to have no interest in engaging with that. Which makes me inclined to think that maybe, just maybe, a desire for reconciliation wasn't the reason you started the thread.

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 14:07

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:05

Cheered me up to see so many of them

Not everyone is out to cut the tripe out of each other thankfully

Touch hyperbolic! 😂

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 14:05

Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 13:59

Sure!

Cheered me up to see so many of them

Not everyone is out to cut the tripe out of each other thankfully

SummerFate · 03/05/2026 14:01

Tikitaka20 · 03/05/2026 13:32

You can still stand by everything you’ve said and apologise. If you won’t apologise to me, I’m taking back my apology.

Well if it was conditional it wasn’t a real apology anyway.

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Heisrevising · 03/05/2026 13:59

MargoChanningsglass · 03/05/2026 13:56

Just nipped in while cooking for 9.

I was being perfectly polite with you. It would mean me taking a lot of time to explain my views, which I dont have to-day.

I will say though that you should perhaps treat me with the politeness I did you, and cut out the snarkiness. Prime example there of mumsnet sniping😆

White im here thanks so much for the notifications folks, especially the hearts!

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Sure!

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