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Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

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SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:28

A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

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TeddybearBaby · 05/05/2026 08:33

@ThatBlackCat Yes, I’m responding to all her replies to people who think she could have been a bit more delicate / tactful / kind because the way I read her post, it wasn’t asking if she was unreasonable to not like the dress it was more about hurting her friends feelings and how to repair the relationship. Someone thought that her posting the dress wasn’t kind and opened her friend up to ridicule but rather than taking those views on board and learning something she doubled down on being right so I just didn’t see the point. I do think some people post to get validation and don’t really want other perspectives, that was probably the situation here.

ThatBlackCat · 05/05/2026 08:22

TeddybearBaby · 05/05/2026 06:26

Why do people post on here when they don’t really want opinions…… AIBU? Yes. No I’m not, you are!

Have you see the picture of the dress she posted? No one thinks she is BU.

Mysterymasheen · 05/05/2026 07:59

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

OMG, it’s like a bridesmaid dress from 1988!
I think you reacted relatively well as I’d have burst out laughing!

TeddybearBaby · 05/05/2026 06:26

Why do people post on here when they don’t really want opinions…… AIBU? Yes. No I’m not, you are!

mcmuffin22 · 04/05/2026 21:56

AccordingToWhom · 02/05/2026 15:53

There is such a thing as objectively hideous after all.

😆

NormasArse · 04/05/2026 21:50

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

That reminds me of some festoon blinds my friend’s mum had in the 80s.

They were bloody awful too.

NormasArse · 04/05/2026 21:48

Mischance · 02/05/2026 15:41

Anyone mad enough to spend that sort of money on one dress would not be my friend. People are using food banks FGS!

What are people who work hard and save hard allowed to spend their money on?

The poverty crisis isn’t of their making- look up, rather than across.

MargoChanningsglass · 04/05/2026 20:40

OP have you heard from your friend yet?

OhYeahOhYeah · 04/05/2026 20:26

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

Oof that isn’t the nicest D&G item I’ve ever seen x

Usernamenotav · 04/05/2026 19:03

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

GOOD GRIEF

Usernamenotav · 04/05/2026 19:02

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:31

You haven’t seen it 🫣

Edited because I asked you to post the dress but you already have

Oldartist · 04/05/2026 18:35

No, I wouldn’t have reacted any better than you, and I’m good at not showing feelings.
(it’s really giving me Moira Rose vibes).

Padz12 · 04/05/2026 18:07

Don’t worry about it!

Youremyannie · 04/05/2026 17:55

It's amazing to her.

Nearly50omg · 04/05/2026 17:27

I hope the admins have noted that the op is being stalked and bullied by this horrible person who clearly has nothing else better to do!

Illegally18 · 04/05/2026 17:04

Besafeeatcake · 03/05/2026 23:01

FFS because she did.

No she didn't FFS.

Besafeeatcake · 04/05/2026 17:02

SummerFate · 04/05/2026 00:13

Not entirely sure what this means. If anything.

I was responding with the same language to someone else who responded to me.

Kelly1969 · 04/05/2026 14:36

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

Omg that is one vile dress!
It looks like it’s made from shiny pink bin bags, my face would have told her exactly what I thought too, it’s bloody ridiculous!

Kelly1969 · 04/05/2026 14:29

She needs to get over it, people have different taste, does she expect her friends to be fake and pretend they like something they don’t

Catdoorman · 04/05/2026 13:48

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:48

Well, it’s your fault if she finds the thread and never speaks to me again 😄 But here it is:

I would have loved that in 1984, when I was 13. Not so much now 🫣.

Petlover9 · 04/05/2026 13:25

DownyBirch · 03/05/2026 22:07

We've been told about both. Read OP's posts.

Sorry, I was in too much of a rush! When I saw the dress AND the price I had to have a G&T; the word monstrosity came to mind😁

Wildefish · 04/05/2026 12:16

SummerFate · 04/05/2026 00:13

Not entirely sure what this means. If anything.

My opinion is you are now making your friend into a laughing stock. Ok the dress isn’t to most peoples liking but now it’s getting personal. I don’t think you meant to. I would take this post down and hope she never sees it. If she does you are toast. Just my opinion.

NeedyLimeMember · 04/05/2026 12:00

Forestgreenblue · 04/05/2026 11:46

Absolutely insanely I read this thread and INSTANTLY thought of that D&G dress!!! For some completely bizarre reason it came up on my google search the other week where I was searching for ‘wedding/hen dresses’

I am absolutely astounded that it’s that dress!! I was like who on earth is spending £2k on that!!!!!

However if anyone is looking for a particularly awful expensive pair of joggers I highly recommend these. Also coincidentally D&G! I used to love D&G back in the 90s - what happened!!!

RRP £5000?!? What on earth? They look like something they'd sell in home bargains for kids.

Forestgreenblue · 04/05/2026 11:46

Absolutely insanely I read this thread and INSTANTLY thought of that D&G dress!!! For some completely bizarre reason it came up on my google search the other week where I was searching for ‘wedding/hen dresses’

I am absolutely astounded that it’s that dress!! I was like who on earth is spending £2k on that!!!!!

However if anyone is looking for a particularly awful expensive pair of joggers I highly recommend these. Also coincidentally D&G! I used to love D&G back in the 90s - what happened!!!

Friend’s awful dress and my reaction
jjW29 · 04/05/2026 09:45

DownyBirch · 03/05/2026 19:21

Unusual is one thing. Actively hideous is definitely something else.

Each to their own,some people find leggings actively hideous which I’m sure lots on this thread wear🤔