Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

Ask yourself this, "is this friend someone who expects me to manage her feelings about whatever it is (in this case, a look on your face before you had time to catch yourself)"? If so, it might be time to re-train her into managing her own feelings by not overdoing the apology.

The dress is dreadful. I could not have hidden my horror at that!

That really is a hideous dress - I can't imagine any of my friends wearing that, but if they did, I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face.

@SummerFate i think the problem is that a dress can’t be “objectively hideous” because fashion isn’t objective. And that is where you went wrong IMO. But now you have to give her time to process.

It’s very Muriel

😂😂

I think this styling makes it look good

I can understand your reaction OP

Ah yes, this old chestnut again. How dare some people not be poor. We should all be eating bird seed off the floor. I'm sure OPs friend pays her tax so rest easy Sergeant.

Most people would look ridiculous yes, but I think a small select few can pull this type of outfit off and look amazing (different shoes tho!). Would have to see her in jt to make a proper judgement.

OMG my face would have been a picture too. That really is the most horrible dress ever. Well not quite. I saw the devil wears prada 2 this morning and Miranda was wearing a curtain tassel jacket that should have been set on fire.

To add, this is $47k 😂

It's a fabulous dress. I'd wear it

Wow, that IS ‘objectively hideous. Like ham slices met the 80s and chintz.

It’d be great as a theatre costume

@Tikitaka20 "Maybe just be a kinder friend and support her choices to wear what she wants? Your friend’s self-esteem might be quite bruised now. Was it worth contributing to that?"

Oh for Christ sake. The OP didn't blurt out "fuck me I'd rather sever my own head than wear that" did she. She looked rather shocked when confronted with an (undoubtedly) weird and ghastly dress. Which apparently cost twice the OP's monthly mortgage just to add to the reaction. Are we all supposed to suppress the teeniest hint of natural emotion throughout our entire lives for fear of bruising the egos of friends, family, colleagues? Whereas I agree with trying to be diplomatic and kind wherever possible, I can't imagine a world in which we are required to limit our facial expressions to robotic levels. Or, as flesh and blood, how that would even be possible without surgery. And how about the supposedly "good friend" understanding that the OP really didn't like the dress and couldn't hide it. Woudn't that equally be the mark of true friendship, instread of stropping off and refusing to speak to her. What about the OP's self esteem.

friend in the very loosest sense of the word

@SummerFate this reminds me Jayden Smith Will Smith's son since he became a brand ambassador for LV carrying around ridiculous "handbags" in the name of fashion 😂

TBH every time someone posts a link of clothing on here - especially sandals - I think they have lost their mind, especially when I see the price 😶‍🌫️
Mumsnet has eclectic taste at the best of times - we might love it 😁

Can't believe it was previously for sale for over 3 grand.
It looks like something eddie from absolutely fabulous would have worn.

I suppose your friend' s reaction to your face might depend on whether she was really asking ypur opinion or whether she was more showing off the dress.

I hope she accessorises it with white stilettos, white lacy fingerless gloves and white plastic jewellery.. just like I did when I wore a similar dress as a bridesmaid in 1984!

I wanna know what shoes she wore with it!

I'm curious to know where she's planning to wear this? I think if I'd seen it I would have thought it was for a fancy dress do😀
I've seen some dresses on S&B which I would never dream of wearing and not to my taste at all, but I don't think any came near to what this one looks like!

ahhh that exactly it - I wondered why it felt familiar. Defo 1980s bridesmaid!

You know this is exactly the kind of thread that Mail Online etc will put on their sites so good luck with the fallout when that happens OP.

Sorry but what a dick move to share the dress and story on a massive website like Mumsnet if your friend is generally a nice person you wouldn’t want to upset.

Your friends being ridiculous. You don't like a dress she does. That's it. You've not said you don't like a character trait, her first born, or even an aspect of her appearance. Its one dress.
She must have a very fragile ego if that upsets her so badly.
Although I would suspect that what's upset her is that you're typically in the role of admiring friend, making her feel good by oohing and aahing over how great everything is, and this time you accidently went rogue. To punish you with the silent treatment is bad form. Don't pander to it. You're not at fault here.

It's actually on sale for the princely sum of £2000 😂