Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

You are making yourself sound silly for 2 reasons. Firstly, people can't always control their facial expressions. Secondly her friend asked for her fucking opinion.

Tell me, seeing as you are so clever, what would you have done? Told her how amazing she looked despite the fact that the dress is ridiculous? If so then that would make you a far shit friend than op. So please, give it a rest.

Wow that is absolutely vile! I think I’d react the same too!

Funniest today 😂

Nonsense, all she needs to accessorise it with is a bonfire and another dress.

However horrible you think it is it's still a subjective opinion. Obviously the people who designed and sold it and the people who buy it don't think it's hideous

I’ve just seen the dress Jesus Christ it’s vile

I think good friends are absolutely vital for opinions on this type of stuff, particularly if you respect their point of view.

I would absolutely tell my close friends that that dress was hideous or amazing for an 80s fancy dress.

I would probably be slightly choosier with my words if I didn't know them so well.

The only time I would lie is if they were on their way out and had no other options.

Out of interest, how much was this dress?

I believe my English is perfectly fine, but happy to be corrected?!

I was being a bit tongue in cheek with the grip comment, but I meant that I don't think OP has been a mean girl in the slightest - she wasn't rude at all about the (questionable) dress, is even agonising over inadvertently offending her friend and is trying to find a way to make up for it.

But I stand by it.. the dress is GRIM!

I like the dress 😂

She needs to get a grip frankly, it’s not like you insulted her or her family. I cant be bothered with huffy adults.

Not convinced this is real, but that dress has Princess Di wedding dress vibes updated for the 2020s market.

Really? So your very on point friend, fashion wise, has selected a dress which was previously discussed on Mumsnet a few years ago? 🧐🤨🧐🤨

Your friend is an Over sensitive drama queen. Can't be that good of a friend if you cant give each other honest opinions. You did nothing wrong. The dress is hideous.

OMG @SummerFate truly hideous. Looks like a 70s lampshade. I’d have struggled to keep a straight face 😬🫣

I quite like the dress and would wear it, but it isn't fair of your friend to expect you to like everything she wears - she has to accept you have different tastes, that's not unreasonable, that's human.

That reallly IS an awful dress 😂

YANBU. If your friend is very into fashion and used to wearing things that are 'out there' and not to everyone's taste, then I'd imagine it she felt good about how she looked on something it wouldn't matter that one friend didn't like it. I think this is just showing her own insecurity about the dress.

It is hideous.

I try not to have friends who would ask for my opinion and then be offended if I give it. They're not friends. I dunno what they are, but they're not friends.. people who only want to hear nice things/flattery perhaps... Ugh.

You were honest, although diplomatic, I would expect this from my best friend and would appreciate it. She's hurt by your sincerity, and you were not even rude. I think she's got some personality issue about self acceptance. It's a dress, not her figure to be under scrutiny.

I would ask myself is there is some sort of lack of confidence or jealousy from her side, because this is completely nonsense to me.

And no, I'm not interested to see the dress, because it's clearly not the issue.
You've done what matters, asking how she is, if she's so hurt, something is going on regarding competition I think.

A friend once told me that the new coat I had spend a lot of money on (for me at the time) made me look like Lawrence Llewelyn Bowen. I never wore it again 🤣 And I did tell her it was an annoying comment because now she said it I couldn’t unsee it, but in a funny way we could both laugh at, and I enjoyed laughing at myself too. Maybe your friend needs to take herself less seriously?

Tbf you do sound totally lacking in humour at least your friend has a sense of fun

Jaysis @SummerFate , you'd have to have a facefull of botox to not react to that.
I'd have awkward laughed and been mortified myself.

I am normally quite tactful in real life about this sort of thing but no way I’d have been able to keep a straight face about that either OP!

She likes it and spent a small fortune on it. If she's a friend just shut up. Her other fashionable friends may think it's fantastic, if it's for a big bash.

You are entitled to hold an opinion about something someone is wearing (or proposes to wear), and your friend shouldn’t be some precious baby because someone doesn’t like an item of clothing. It’s not like you made fun of her or even told her you hated it. This honestly sounds like something from the playground.

If your friend ends the friendship over this then I’d think myself lucky and ensure the door didn’t hit her on the arse as she stepped out of my life.