Fed up with ladish DP and his mate

Yes his reaction to you is equally important.

This is not a case of someone going a bit mad after too many drinks and waking up embarrassed and with remorse.

He thinks his behaviour is fine, and doesn't even see a need to apologise. He's a bully and he doesn't respect you either.

I'm sorry OP, he is a prize wanker.

The shame needs to switch sides on this one.

Because not only did he behave appallingly, but rather than own it and feel ashamed, he reversed it to bully you for calling it out. Darvo.

I'd say "is your husband 12?",
But even a normal twelve year old knows not to be a nasty bully.
That's what your husband is.

Singing to humiliate someone doing their job? Weren't you absolutely mortified to be with him?

I despise ‘laddism’. It celebrates everything I hate- basically, it celebrates men being sexist, charmless, ignorant, oafish, beer-swilling morons. They’re so loud and cocky when they’re full of beer and surrounded by their little buddies. Get them on their own, however, without alcohol, and they are usually so f-ing boring you want to scream.

Your husband behaved like a nasty little teenager showing off his front of his friends. That poor guy was probably hot, tired and stressed. He’d probably had a hellish day, and then he gets jeered at by two man-babies. I wonder if your husband and his little sidekick would have insulted that man if he’d been a six foot boxer? I suspect not.

He’s a bully

Do you live with this immature twat?

Wow- how embarrassing for you to be with him. If he’d been a stranger, I’d have challenged his behaviour, a partner, I’d be mortified/ devastated/ distraught at the inevitable breakup.

Don’t let him turn it around on you by saying you are a killjoy! I find it infuriating these ‘men’ have such little emotional intelligence that they are unable to own their bad behaviour and at the very least apologise! It’s always everyone else’s fault never their own! Frankly they need a boot up the arse into adulthood

yah love a bit of bullying to someone doing their job

how old is your partner he shoujld grow the fuck up

Get him to stop and think about it for a second.

How would he react if people started chanting that at you, would he join in, consider it banter?

Yeah, thought not.

Awful bullying behaviour from a grown man. I couldn’t be with someone like that.

I work in construction and that sort of outdated, bullying behaviour is not tolerated. It’s not ‘banter’ it’s bullying.

Getting a mental image of a twat wearing Stone Island that thinks he's the boy.
When he's a two bit prick.

Usual question from me. Why do you stay with this manchild?

He sounds awful - dim and a bully. Your bar is so low

That wasn't banter. He was being a bully and was verbally harassing and abusing another human being who was unable to defend themselves or unable to walk away. What a horrible person your partner is OP. Don't excuse his behaviour otherwise one day he will turn his "banter" onto you. Would you laugh?

It is deeply unattractive behaviour.

Now, let’s think. Would he have done this had he been on his own? Would he had done this if the railway guy had a security detail of three behind him? If the answer to both of those is ‘no’, it isn’t ‘banter’ it’s bullying plain and simple. Pick a victim and make him feel like shit.

Spot on

You’re going out with yob.
And as bad as they were giving the guard a time there was everyone else having to listen to two mouthy morons and worrying about the aggression. Horrible.

Your husband is not laddish - he is a nasty bully.

Your partner is a bully.

He sounds insufferable. He will get his comeuppance some day, no doubt. Had my DH been there, he would have challenged him for sure.

Your boyfriend is a disgusting human, and the fact you don’t see that says a lot about you.

He’s a dick, his mate is a dick and I’m sure they have a reel of excuses for why they’re dicks. I know so many men in “male dominated” industries who wouldn’t behave so cruelly, drunk or otherwise. But sure, he can hide behind his job, his mates, probably his upbringing, anyone but him for his shockingly poor behaviour right?

I can only hope he treats you more respectfully, but I suspect not.

Now, let’s think. Would he have done this had he been on his own? Would he had done this if the railway guy had a security detail of three behind him? If the answer to both of those is ‘no’, it isn’t ‘banter’ it’s bullying plain and simple. Pick a victim and make him feel like shit.

Not only is this awful for the man doing his job (no wonder no one wants to work with the public) but it’s intimidating for everyone else on the platform - women, older people, young people. It’s why I hate getting on trains with football crowds and hate getting late trains home.

I couldn’t imagine any circumstances where I would want to be associated with a lout like this.

Lust can be an annoyingly powerful drug, especially when young.

Yeah, women can think with their fannies just as much as men think with their cocks.