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Fed up with ladish DP and his mate

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Hauelzk · 02/05/2026 09:43

Couples night out yesterday - we got the train to the next city, and got the last one home. A boozy evening, really nice time.

DP and this particular friend are big in to their football and can be a bit ‘ladish’ after a few drinks. I roll me eyes usually as does his mates wife.

The station platform was really busy and a staff member was trying to move people. He did become a bit abrupt and some people accused him of being rude, I think he was just stressed.

Anyway, he kind of tripped and just about stopped himself from falling over.

Lots of people cheered, and then DP and his mate started a football chant aimed at him - “you fat bastard” which some others joined in with.

I felt sorry for the bloke. DP says he was being rude so got some deserved stick and it was ‘only lighthearted’.

Am I being a killjoy as he put it?

OP posts:
MyStupidUsername · 02/05/2026 10:05

Very nasty. It's not good. I don't think I'd see a future with someone who acts like this.

MrsShawnHatosy · 02/05/2026 10:02

Your DP is an arsehole and this kind of behaviour would an instant deal breaker for me.

DalmationalAnthem · 02/05/2026 10:00

Your boyfriend finds joy in being a lout and mocking people. Do you want to keep dating this person?

SethBrogan · 02/05/2026 10:00

Your partner is not “laddish”, he’s a pathetic bully.

Eightfor15 · 02/05/2026 10:00

Yeah, your husband is a cunt.

Alwaysthesameoldstory · 02/05/2026 09:58

The poor guy at the station was trying to do his job surrounded by a load of ignoramuses, probably mostly drunk. No wonder he got a bit " abrupt".

If one of these idiots had fallen on the tracks or been hurt in some way he would have been the one held to account. And was probably very aware of the risk to his own personal safety when dealing with a crowd of unpredictable drunks.

Presumably your DP is an adult. It's about time he grew up and behaved like one.
Why describe something as " laddish " behaviour when actually you mean he behaves like a lout when he is drunk.

It really annoys me when people are ridiculed for trying to do their job.