DH has massively not stepped up to care for our toddler and it’s a huge bone of contention between us. He always says he’ll do more and doesn’t. His family are aware it’s a big issue and that we are on the verge of separating.
He probably has sole care of her twice a week for up to an hour. I do everything else. Almost without fail, rather than spending time engaging with her, he uses the time to make video calls to family and talks to them in depth. He says he’s building a bond with them, but mostly it’s just waving the phone at her then having a chat with them. I am then in the background rushing around cleaning and getting everything we need ready, and I’m sure that his family think I’m BU and horrible.
It really irritates me.