AIBU to be annoyed the breakfast bowls were still in the table 24hrs later?

The very short sentences read like you are being snappy. That's where the PP's misunderstanding comes from.

I’d be annoyed too op. Clearly it sends a message that the expectation is that you would clear them

You’re definitely not unreasonable. DH and I both work full time so generally share kitchen/dishwasher duties but on a day I’m working longer hours away from home,
DH will just automatically do it all and if he’s out all day I do it.

If you’re mostly the one out working long hours and basic domestic tasks aren’t getting done then I think you need some rules agreements in place.

I would start with everyone puts their own breakfast things in the dishwasher. Then whoever is home all day cleans and resets the kitchen for the evening.

If it’s all too much in the morning your DH can always run the dishwasher and unload it before bed unless you’re trying to save money running it overnight.

Could your child who has anxiety start doing some household chores? They might help their anxiety by giving them some responsibility, routine and purpose within the house.

All household members are responsible for moving their own plates from the table! And unless they are younger than 2 no one is too young! I work with 3 year olds and at lunchtime they take their own plates to the bin, empty the leftovers then put the plate in one box and the cutlery in the other! Even the SEND children, though they need a bit more adult support. There is absolutely no reason older children/ adults should not do the same!

If it’s what you’ve always done it will seem normal to you but everyone walking away from the table and leaving their bowls there I find unusual and rude. It’s not a restaurant you are leaving.
i would just make a new rule that from now on you all put your bowls in the dishwasher or in the sink.
and yes dh is lazy not clearing the table.

I can't believe anyone you included over the age of 5 would just leave a bowl/ cup/plate on the table. Your dh is probably sick of being everyone's maid.

You should put your bowl next to the sink
(but not empty the DW if it makes you late). However, your DP not tidying his own or the kids’ things because of the lasagne is bollocks. He can do that whilst the meat is browning or the kettle boiling for stock or whatever.

I agree. Even if the dishwasher is full, everyone in our house rinses their bowls/plates and puts them next to the sink. If everyone left theirs on the table expecting me to clear up after them I’d probably leave them there for 24 hours to make a point!

I can’t stand anyone who just gets up and leaves their stuff for someone else to clean, and I nag everyone in my house fucking CONSTANTLY about it.

if he was making a random lasagne for a friend at your suggestion, then you could have done the bowls.

I don't think it's worth a big argument, but I would expect that if someone was home all day they would have been cleaned up. If you also left yours though, is it a regular occurrence that everyone just leaves things in your house, and it's not that they are leaving them for you as such, but just a general habit of leaving things and not being fussed if it's not tidied up?

So take it to the sink to rinse off and leave on the side. I’d find just getting up and walking off really rude.

I genuinely never assumed any of the dishes would be the OPs. As you said who gets up from the table and just leaves their stuff for someone else to clear away.

I'm really surprised adults behave like that.

I’d be annoyed if anyone in my house left their breakfast things on the table after breakfast, whether that’s my husband or the children. Despite working far fewer hours than my husband (I am also a carer to a disabled child), I’d feel like it was pretty disrespectful of him to leave his things there with the expectation that I’d clear them up. I’m not a skivvy.

So there are 3 people in the house hold who possibly could have done it? The rest of your family need to be trained to clear up behind them.

And yes, your DH should have washed the breakfast dishes along with the lasagne dishes. What's a few cereal bowls?

He's either lazy or an eejit and you need to get a dishwasher of the electric type).

I’m not being deliberately snarky, but you got up from the table and left your crockery on it? I do find that odd!

I’m sorry.

I misread it.

If it’s any consolation, I would have cleaned the bowls away for you. And I was the first vote in YANBU 🙂

No. I have the same argument with DH daily. Despite telling him how it makes me feel, he hasn’t changed therefore I will be leaving him today 😊

Should everyone sort their own?

And if hes going to go down this road then make sure you only clean/tidy/wash your own stuff from now on.

Why doesn’t everyone just put their own bowl in the dishwasher when they’re finished? This includes children.

Do you really just get up and walk away leaving your own plates on the table?!