AIBU to be annoyed the breakfast bowls were still in the table 24hrs later?

Yuck. No-one in the household should have allowed that to happen. Clearing the table is something done immediately, reflexively, it takes no thought or commitment it just happens.

It’s not a ‘task’ should think about, delay or write on a list, it’s a habit.

Just because you're happy to be taken advantage of, doesn't mean everyone else has to settle for it.

It wouldn't bother me tbh , I work long hours and come home to pots in the sink , pick your battles l, I dont stress over it and yes they're old enough to do it but not end of the world

I just can't get over making a lasagne but having dirty dishes everywhere

Historians in the future will be amazed when they come across the first known text recording the disruptive properties of lasagne.

It's a fucking lasagne, not the Hoover Dam.

Fucking hell these responses are insane 😂

I think you should clear your own plate. I would be a bit cross if my partner suggested I made a lasagna for someone. If he approached it by saying 'should we do something to help out so and so?' and then I asked him for suggestions then that would be ok though.

I feel like asking him to make lasagne which he wouldn't normally do could reasonably disrupt his normal day. If my husband messaged to ask me to make a lasagne while I was home with kids I'd be incredulous if I did it then he queried why some housework got left.

I don't think we have any idea about the configuration of OP's house, do we?
In my house the table is not in the kitchen (there is no room for a table) or even visible from the kitchen.
If I'd been making a lasagne, I would have been making it in the kitchen.

I would have emptied the dishwasher to put the lasagne utensils in. I would not have thought about dishes on the table because they were not in my eyeline and I would have probably forgotten they were there.

The more interesting point is why the breakfast dishes were on the table but not the dishes for any other meal. Did no one eat anything else during that time? Does the table only get used for breakfast (even more reason why he may simply have forgotten about them)?

It was just a continuation of the discussion. That’s what discussion forums are for.
I’m now wondering if DH has low expectations of women because I don’t pick up his dirty plates!

Part time husband should clean up everything or else he’s lazy

part time wife shouldn’t be left to clean up everything or else the husband is lazy

Interested to know what he done with the utensils he used to make the lasagne since the table has dishes on it and he hadn't emptied the dishwasher.

'He even made a lasagne', yay another pat on the head for men doing basic things.

None of this changes what I've said so I'm not sure what your point is.

I think I definitely would have cleared them up as your DH but to me I wouldn't be able to make a lasagne before things were tied up, perhaps I have weird logic though.

Everyone would instinctly take their bowl back to the sink in my house but they wouldn't necessarily put them in the dishwasher as probably would be full but then again DH and I both work every day and leave at similar times.

I don't think dishes on the table after 24 hours is great, but I'm also with the multitude of posters on here who are in a family where everyone takes their own stuff to the kitchen/dishwasher (and has done since age about 5).

however, I think there is a slightly missed point. This feels a bit like the meme where a husband comes home after his wife has looked after the children all day, done the hoovering, done several loads of washing, changed the beds, run a few errands, <insert other tasks of choice> and he says something along the lines of "why are the children's shoes lying in the middle of the hall?"

The point is that the focus is on the thing that hasn't been done, not on all the things that have been. DH has done things during the day, and obviously moving the breakfast dishes wasn't his priority. He may not have realised it was a priority for OP based on their family habit of just leaving them there after meals with no clear responsibility for clearing them. He's even made lasagne which, whilst not being an all day job, is a fiddly time consuming job that does take a bit of time (my family love lasagne, but know not to request it unless I'm off work).

She's just done an 11 hour shift, she shouldn't need to questioning anyone. Presumably the other parent also has the ability to parent but here we are, he doesn't need to clean up his own stuff or parent his own child.

On the contrary, I have very high expectations of the men in my life. Which is why I wouldn’t expect my husband to leave his dirty dishes on the table for me to clear away, despite him working more hours than me. I also expect him to have a hand in teaching our children to do the same.

I also think it doesn't matter whether the bowls were on the table or by sink in this case because he hadn't emptied the dishwasher either anyway.

So she’s got to come home from an 11 hour shift and then go and question the son why he didn’t clear away his breakfast stuff, even though DH had been home all day and he’s the one meant to be looking after him.

So basically DH spends 11 hours not cleaning and not parenting either.

'Model the behaviour', what the fuck, just no. I mean there's no reason she can't put her own plate by the sink or dishwasher but it's absolutely shouldn't be in the context of training a grown man.

Every day on here it becomes clear why the bar is so low for men.

Unless there is a back story where he is lazy all the time then I think you are overthinking this.
Lots of replies on here saying everyone should put their own dishes away but if it’s already on etc then that’s not happening. Also, if I had a pound for every time I uttered the words ‘you’ve walked past the dishwasher to put your dish on the bloody side’ - I would be able to afford a second dishwasher 😁No one is particularly wrong here. It was a bad day. Move on and have a better day today.

Yeah, I'd find it annoying. Making a lasagne is a rubbish excuse.
If it was just one thing/one time I would probably just clear it up but I am guessing this isn't the first thing.

Most of the time I don't really know who clears the breakfast things. Kids mostly do theirs themselves but not every time. Me and my husband would just do it without really thinking about it, because it's so small. But no one would just leave them there all day if they were in the house.

I can see how this looks like leaving mess for someone else to pick up after them.

That said -loading the dishwasher with stuff that's on the side or on the table-can't see much difference tbh.

Unless the table is far from the dishwasher!

I'd be more annoyed about being asked to make a lasagne.

Exactly. It's really disrespectful to just leave your stuff dumped for someone else to deal with, no matter how many hours you work.