Page 10 | To think my dd is very young to be pregnant

Lemonade2011 · 01/05/2026 20:12

I had my eldest at 22, he’s now almost 25! I was an adult when I had him. Married, career (nurse) house. Yes it’s young but we can still be good mums, I have 3 younger sons too. Sure your daughter will be delighted you’re on here whinging, better than what my mum said to me though I guess. Hopefully she’s a strong woman who will be an amazing mum,

ToKittyornottoKitty · 01/05/2026 20:11

Totally normal age to have a baby.

BravebutBroken · 01/05/2026 20:11

I was 23 when I had my first child. But I had graduated, was married and working full time. I think it depends more on her circumstances than her age. Can she support a child? If so, then it's surely nobody else's business. If she lives with you and depends on you financially then maybe you're right to think she's not ready.

TheLargeOnes · 01/05/2026 20:11

Wish I'd been able to have mine younger, would have had so much more energy, optimism and still plenty of time to sort out my career afterwards. I suppose I was a bit clueless about some things but would have done an okay job I think, and had many more years alive (probably) with my child/children which is a lovely thing.

SlumChum · 01/05/2026 20:10

FunnyOrca · 01/05/2026 20:07

It took me a long time to get pregnant in my 30s and I probably have a slim chance of having a second, let alone a third (the number I would love to have). I wish I had started at 23.

I also think career-wise I was just starting out at 23 but it hasn’t been until my 30s that I actually had chance of serious promotions. You obviously never know what could/would have been but I do think I actually would be in the same place in my career.

Completely agree. In fact I moved into a completely different career once DC went to school and am now building that into a life career

ScottBakula · 01/05/2026 20:10

DinoLil · 01/05/2026 20:07

No! She's absolutely not! I thought you were going to say she was 13!

So did I.
20+ years old physical is absolutely fine.
Mentally and emotionally , it depends entirely on the young lady.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/05/2026 20:10

No. She can build her life around the baby.
If I’d a crystal ball I’d have forfeited my partying 20’s to have children earlier.

My niece is 25, she travels with her baby and has built her life around motherhood.

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 01/05/2026 20:09

YABU.

Shallotsaresmallonions · 01/05/2026 20:09

I'm 22 and pregnant with my second. I don't feel too young 🤷‍♀️

TheyGrewUp · 01/05/2026 20:08

It depends on her circumstances.

StampOnTheGround · 01/05/2026 20:08

Yes it is young to be a mum, but not ridiculously so!

Overthebow · 01/05/2026 20:08

On the younger side for nowadays, but nothing wrong with it.

Plummagic · 01/05/2026 20:08

No. 23 seems a perfect age to have a baby.

TowerRavenSeven · 01/05/2026 20:08

DinoLil · 01/05/2026 20:07

No! She's absolutely not! I thought you were going to say she was 13!

Me too!

Pepperedpickles · 01/05/2026 20:08

I was 22 when I had my dd and felt incredibly mature and ready to have her - I’d been in a relationship with her dad for nearly 5 years by that point (we did split up later though!) but my dd is 22 now and I would feel so shocked if she suddenly announced she was pregnant as she seems so much younger than I was at the same age! I think it completely depends on the person and circumstances. My dd is very much in her partying / post student era at the moment!

LimbOnTheTreeTheTreeInTheHoleTheHoleInTheGround · 01/05/2026 20:07

Unless that's a typo for 13 YABVU.

Nothankyov · 01/05/2026 20:07

it is so different for everyone. I was 29 when I had my first and it was perfect for me because I wasn’t ready before that. By my sister had her first at 23 and she was so ready. She was really good with managing them when they were little.

Elisabeth3468 · 01/05/2026 20:07

Had my first at 25 and second at 28. I'm now 30. No I don't think 23 is too young if that's what she wants. It's more a case of can she provide for the baby, have a stable job or income, and a roof over her head? Not to do with age.

FunnyOrca · 01/05/2026 20:07

It took me a long time to get pregnant in my 30s and I probably have a slim chance of having a second, let alone a third (the number I would love to have). I wish I had started at 23.

I also think career-wise I was just starting out at 23 but it hasn’t been until my 30s that I actually had chance of serious promotions. You obviously never know what could/would have been but I do think I actually would be in the same place in my career.

DinoLil · 01/05/2026 20:07

No! She's absolutely not! I thought you were going to say she was 13!

TowerRavenSeven · 01/05/2026 20:06

Yanbu for thinking Your daughter so young, I would think My 24 year old son so young to be a dad, but in reality they both are not.

Overtheatlantic · 01/05/2026 20:06

I don’t know. I think it’s probably good in terms of physical strength and vitality, but maybe not as much in terms of maturity, depending on the woman of course.

feathermucker · 01/05/2026 20:06

No. Why do you think 23 is very young?!!

Tableforjoan · 01/05/2026 20:05

She is an adult so no she is not young to be pregnant.

A teenager would be young although still legal from 16 to be pregnant.

Indianajet · 01/05/2026 20:05

I was 21. It really isn't your business, if she is happy.